Is it normal for a parent to freeze in fear when they anticipate hurt to their child

[sarahhoping]

My 1 yr old baby was at the edge of bed , at a height of around 1 meters in our bedroom, and I was in the kitchen talking to someone. My husband was in the hallroom working on his laptop , although he could see the edge of bed.
We both hear babies silent voice , he was sleeping till now, he was at the very edge just about to fall. My husband almost froze in fear and could only scream "eh ehhh" as I rushed in to pick up the baby

Later he felt kinda foolish , but i think its normal to freeze in fear isn't it .
has it ever happened to you or your hubby .

@Ohalrightthen we don't have a cot , we have spacing restrictions as we live in an apartment .

@SmileyClare oh thanks for letting me know of this wrist strap thing , just saw it on amazon , didn't even knew such a thing existed lol

@yomommasmomma yes dear maybe we should make a bed for him on the floor , but he still needs an attendant as he's very active and likes to go to corners

If your baby is asleep on his back, in an empty cot, he does not need anyone with it at night. Sort this out now before life becomes unbearable. Also if you are in the UK you shouldn't be having family over to attend him anyway

@sarahhoping the fact is, your current way of doing things isn't working, and you are putting your child in danger.

Also, tbh, if you don't have room for a cot, you don't have room for a child. He's going to need his own space pretty soon, in fact I'd argue he already does need his own space.

at night he sleeps between me and the husband

I know he does. I said I know you co-sleep. My question was, what do you think parents who don't co-sleep do? They don't stay up all night watching to make sure their baby doesn't fall out of bed or climb out of the cot.

Weird question, people who don't co sleep put their child in a cot instead, which is safer than leaving child to sleep alone in a (high) adult bed and no bed guards. So there's no need to stay and supervise in the same way.

Nothing wrong with cosleeping at night (I've done it) but it's not very practical for daytime naps.

OP do you live in a 1 bedroom flat? Are you planning to cosleep as long as possible or do you plan/hope to move baby to his own bed at some point? Maybe we could help with practical suggestions if space is an issue.

Why don’t you just make your bed lower? Take off the legs? Get rid of the frame and just have the mattress on the floor (you’ll need to air underneath it regularly though) get a new much lower bedframe from IKEA? This problem could continue for years. Apparently I still regularly fell out of bed until I was 4ish.

If you want to co-sleep for an extenddd period of time, get a floor bed for all of you. Or just collapse your bed frame and put your mattress on the floor

Your husband’s response was natural but this whole situation is breathtakingly dangerous. You have to stop leaving the baby unattended on the bed.

Op, did you previously post about living with your in-laws and your baby falling?