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amazed by feelings

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Donbean · 05/10/2004 20:59

you will all probably think me really sad,but today i sat just watching my little man with what i can only describe as complete amazement. I still cant believe he is here and that he is mine. I actually started to cry i felt so overwhelmed by the feelings i had!Having never been a child friendly person i just cant get over how my outlook has completely changed. No one told me about this,nobody has ever tried to explain what it is to be a mum,every day im blown away by it!Any one else feel the same?

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Amfs · 06/10/2004 10:56

oh bugger ... sorry for being schmaltzy guys

Thomcat · 06/10/2004 11:09

3 years down the line and I still have what i call 'a moment' quite often with my DD, where my eyes fill up or I get a big lump in my throat. It's overwhelming, amazing and totally wonderful. Nothing, not a single thing on earth can compare to uncoinditional love between a mother and a child.

motherinferior · 06/10/2004 11:26

I wouldn't feel this way if my children were like everyone else's, you understand; but mine just happen to be transformingly beautiful, mindbogglingly charming and amazingly nice. That's how I feel

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moomina · 06/10/2004 12:24

Glad I found this thread. I stood by ds's cot last night, watching him sleep, and after a crappy horrible day, and a crappy horrible week, thought 'If I could just stay here and watch him like this forever, everything would be okay.' I honestly have to tear myself away from his room some evenings. My dad bought him into my work to see me (aas a surprise) the other day - when I came out of my office and saw him running towards me it was just one of the loveliest moments ever ever ever.

Never in a million years would I think I could feel like that. It is totally overwhelming - and totally inexplicable to anyone who hasn't felt it.

Thomcat · 06/10/2004 12:27

ohhh, just read that piece about a mother talking to her daugher who is thinking of starting a family........ ohhhhhhhhh, that is just so spot on and so lovely!

spots · 06/10/2004 12:31

Poppyseed, I really like what your mum says!

Northerner · 06/10/2004 12:33

That reading is in the book 'chicken soup for the woman's soul'. I love it, brings a lump to my throat everytime I read it.

Azzie · 06/10/2004 13:21

Oh dear, tears streaming down my face here and a strong urge to rush off to school and see if I can glimpse my babies through the fence... (they're 7 and nearly 5).

When my first child was born my mother, MIL and husband fell deeply in love with him instantly. For 3 days I couldn't see what all the fuss was about - he was quite a nice-looking baby, I could see that, but he was just a baby, after all.

On the evening of the third day I took him down to the nursery to change his nappy, looked at him lying there on the changing mat, and WHAM! it hit me like a freight train coming through. Suddenly he was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen and I knew I would die for him without hesitation should it be necessary. The most incredibly wonderful and totally terrifying feeling. And completely indescribable to someone who hasn't had a child.

poppyseed · 06/10/2004 13:38

spots - so do I
She's at that age you know (75) and everything is right because she's done it and felt it ALL before...
She lost my elder brother (her 1st) in a mountaineering accident, only now I have my own kids do I think I might have understood how she felt at that time.....

krocket · 06/10/2004 13:39

ah, I just read your original post too poppyseed, that's sweet.

eemie · 06/10/2004 13:57

Remember my friend saying to me years ago 'you should have children, you should be a mother' and me saying 'but why?'.

A few weeks after dd was born my friend rang and listened to me burbling away for a while, then said 'you can't believe how much you love them, can you?' and I knew exactly what she meant.

kbaby · 06/10/2004 14:51

oh my god smaltzbutrelevantshmaltz you have reduced me to tears. You have put that so well. A lot better than I would ever have done.

My friend tried to explain it to me while I was pregnant but could never have thought those emotions were possible. I would do anything for my daughter and lay my life on the line. I often feel sad at the thought that one day I will have to leave her and wont see her grow old. Every though about illness or dying seems ten times worse. I would happily sacrifice my life for dd.
At night I want to hold her and smell her gorgeous little head all night and not let her go. She is precious and my life will never be the same. One little smile from her makes me feel that I could burst with pride and love.
I cant find enough words to decribe how I feel as it is undescribable.

willow2 · 06/10/2004 14:53

That's not sad, that's lovely.

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Donbean · 07/10/2004 09:28

am glad you told me its not your words, i was going to passionately beg you to write a book as you are so clearly talented in the art of putting gorgeous words together! You are however talented in the knowing what words fit department so well done you anyway.You made my day,week, month and year with that xxxxx

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Amfs · 07/10/2004 09:59

and thanks for starting a post which reminds me how lucky I am

Skate · 07/10/2004 22:15

Just read all your posts and it's set me off again.

We are all SOOOO lucky and my heart really goes out to those who can't conceive or are finding it hard or those that have lost their babies.

I pray I'll have mine forever.

Heathcliffscathy · 07/10/2004 22:29

thank you amfs and all of you, i'm in tears here, but they're good ones...you're so right skate...

i'm so grateful for my ds...and words just don't work when it comes to how i feel about him...

Pagan · 07/10/2004 22:41

OK I'm blubbing too. My wee pixie had her MMR today and was so brave. Does anyone know what I mean by the term I love her so much I could eat her - she's just delicious.

I'm 24 weeks gone with no 2 and am wondering how I can love the next one as much. Anyone I've spoken to tells me not to worry that it all sorts itself out but I find it so hard to imagine my total unconditional love being divided ... or do I just discover another hidden pot deep inside that miraculously opens?

So how is it with the next ones?

littlerach · 08/10/2004 11:14

Just as all consuming, Pagan!! Hard to believe you have enough love to love that much again, but you do!!!

I sometimes say to DH that I love them so much I could eat them, he thinks I am looney!!! But I could.

Twinkie · 08/10/2004 11:16

Its like watching your heart walk around outside your body!!

Thought that summed up just what I feel about DD (and hopefully will also about DS when he comes along soon!!) - not a quote by me - read it in one of those little books that you get from Clintons.

Twinkie · 08/10/2004 11:19

And I don't understand how people can say they won't have kids cause they are so selfish and wouldn't want to give things up for them - to me there is no other feeling that can compare to how I feel about DD and how proud of her achievments I am and how proud of myself I am in having such a great little girl. I feel I have done something truly great just bringing her into the world and heloig her grow into such a great litle human being!!

mothernature · 08/10/2004 11:28

Now I know why I cry at the most silliest things, I am a MOTHER... I had no one to tell me what to expect, I had no one to guide me on the right path, but that doesn't matter, a light is switched on as soon as your first is born, when your asleep in the middle of the night, you can still hear them turn over in bed, take a deep breath, sigh and hear them softly whispering, even though its 15 years later.

artyjoe · 08/10/2004 12:28

Good grief...it's bad enough being 25 weeks pregnant so blub at the slightest thing anyway...that quote is going to keep me going all day!

GeorginaA · 08/10/2004 12:32

Pagan, having a second child is AWESOME. I really worried about it too, and I am stunned every day at how much MORE capacity for love I have as a result. I not only love my ds2 with all my heart (so much it really physically hurts), but I love ds1 all the more too!

And just wait until they interract! Ds1 adores ds2, will give him beautiful kisses, fetch him toys, cuddle him. First thing he asks (okay... second. The first thing he says is he's hungry!!) in the morning is where ds2 is. Ds2 in return only has eyes for ds1. He'll watch whatever he is doing absolutely fascinated. He'll burst into tears if ds1 leaves the room but couldn't give a toss if Mummy leaves the room!!!

PLEASE don't worry. It's like with the first - sure it's horribly hard work and it takes some adjustment, but the rewards are immeasurable and inexplainable.

bonym · 08/10/2004 17:11

Oh shmaltz - you've reduced me to tears too - I've not even read the remainder of the thread. Thanks for a beautiful post.

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