omg, was only thinking about this ysterday, when another article pops up, young mums are this or that.
now, i had my beautiful daughter at nearly 20, she is 2 and a half now. admittedly, i do look young for my age, and i have noticed the judgement from day 1. the midwfe insisted on me attending classes for 'the younger mum' to learn how to do the basics. i protested this was not neccessary, i am the oldest of 7 and have changed a nappy or 2! when holly was born, the midwife was pushing me to breastfeed, i was adament i did not want to, she felt the need to prod my nipple (!!!) and say they were lovely for suckling, go on, give it a go. off she went muttering about how 'us young-uns think its all this and that!'
my partner and i have ben together for 5 years, yet when the lady came round to tell us about registering the birth, she says 'if you have his name on the birth certificate, he HAS tio pay maintenance'. i cannot help but think this would not have happned to an 'older' mum!
I cannot go shopping without being followed by the store detectives, oh look a young mum, can't posssibly have money to spend must be stealing stuff to sell for drugs! ok, maybe not that extreme but it really annoys me! my partner works very hard, therefore i spend very hard!we have a lovely house, receive no benefits, pay all our bills and holly is spoilt rotten. No, i do not work, i do not have too (thats a whole other rant about snobby mums assuming im a 'state sponger' because i too can take my child to the prk all day every day).
sometimes it just feels like you can't win!