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Baby too heavy to carry at 10 months. Bought a buggy and hate it. What now?

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mawbroon · 04/09/2006 11:34

I am beginning to think that I must be a lentil weaver....
DS is 10 months and I have carried him since I recovered from my cs at around 7 weeks. Firstly I carried him on my front in a baby carrier and up until last week I have been using one of these.
He now weighs almost 22lbs and I thought "ok enough is enough, he's too heavy" and bought a buggy but I have found that I really don't like the buggy. I can't see ds (other than the top of his head) and I really miss the closeness of carrying him, I can't really talk to him either in the buggy and I miss him pulling my hair and ears. I had to put the rain cover on the other day and just felt that he was in a little bubble all on his own. This is all quite apart from the practical stuff like having to look for the lifts, bumping the buggy up and down the kerbs, not being able to go over bumpy ground or grass very easily. I also had to queue to get into the mother/baby toilet at ASDA wheras before I would have just gone for a pee with him on my back. Also it takes up a load of room in the boot of the car, and in my tiny hallway.
Anyway, I have got a wrap sling which I haven't mastered yet and hadn't really tried before because I was happy with the backpack. It seems to bring him in closer to my body and just might allow me to carry him a bit longer. Any tips on using it? I have tried a couple of different ties, but I just don't seem to get it tight enough unless DH is there to help. And if DH is around, he can carry DS in the backpack, so that doesn't really help!
Sorry this is long winded. I suppose I am just looking for reassurance that I am not some weirdo and it is perfectly normal to feel like this. Most other people are happy to use prams and buggies. Why am I not?

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fondant4000 · 04/09/2006 13:38

Hi,

I also used the ring sling until dd was about 2yrs old. Used to take buggy with sling in the bottom from about 14 months old. Used sling for things like going round galleries, zoos, etc. when I wanted to interact with dd and share. Used buggy when couldn't be bothered to chat and for falling asleep.

She didn't really like her buggy until she was about 2yrs old, then she asked to go in it all the time. She got too heavy for the ring sling (at about 2 stone, but I'm only a wee 5 foot!), and also wanted to walk more which I encouraged, and I got fed up with the up, down, up, down (which is why I didn't choose a better back pack.)

Didn't get on too well with ring sling when dd was tiny (too hot), but much more successful when she could support herself a bit (5 months on).

MrsApron · 04/09/2006 13:41

an ergo would be great for you but why don't you hire a few diff options and try them out from

sling hire

i used an ergo for ages then switched to a cwtshi mei tai in the summer it's a bit less padded. Although I still carry my two year old in my coorie pouch from

brightspark

Pouches have to be a great fit though or they are uncomfy.

DH has just gone to the shop with two year old walking and DD2 (6 days old)in his coorie.

Wraps do take a bit of fiddling but are very comfy once you get it right but if your wraps are stretchy and your wee boy is getting chunky they might not be the best option as most folks find bigger kids and stretchy wraps not comfy.

you could flog them on ebay or hunnybeez forum has a fab buy and sell slings option might be handy for pricing if nothing else.

Nemo1977 · 04/09/2006 13:42

I bought my ringsling on ebay brand new for £18. Could put the other wrap sling on ebay to cover cost.

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3andnomore · 04/09/2006 13:47

HI,
got to admit I love my Buggys but also absolutely adore my slings, and still sometimes carry my almost 4 year old (when he gets to tired to walk, lol) and my 2 year old, as sometiems a sling is just more convinient. And before anyone gasp at me carrying my almost 4 year old still...I am no herculus, but he is a slim lil thing, and my 2 year old probably weighs more then him, bless....they are completely differently build!
I have a Asian Style carrier (Mei tei) and love that, it's great for backcarry, as you don't have the heavy frame to carry, lol, as with the kind you have been using...! I also have a Sutemi , which is similar to the Ergo or Patapum, and again, great for the Backcarry!
My greatest love though is my Huggababy Ringsling...I love it , and it's so easy to use...I use it for the backcarry or Hipcarry nowadays.
I used to have a Wrap, but got to admit, had not the patience for that and just could not get it right!
Have not read the replys, so, probably just duplicated what otehrs said anyway!

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mawbroon · 04/09/2006 15:00

lazycow and MrsApron, thanks for those links. That looks like a good site. I think I will need to do some homework before I just dive into trying any old sling. I actually have two wraps. One is a stretchy fleece which would be too warm just now I think and the other is a gauze one which stretches a bit less.
There certainly seem to be a lot of votes for ring slings. I'm wondering about the ergo MrsApron. The pics look like the baby is quite low down on a back carry. DS's head was just a bit lower down than mine in the backpack I was using and I'm not sure if I would like him as low down as that. OMG there's no pleasing me is there! But of course, him being so high might be what has made my back ache!
Do you know what though? It's me that has the problem with the buggy. DS doesn't mind it at all!!

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vnmum · 04/09/2006 15:49

i have a pushchair that can change from rear facing to front facing and i much prefer him to face me, so does ds actually as after a while facing front, he starts whinging then is happy when hes changed round to face me. i also have a didymos wrap sling that i bought a few months ago as i too found having to use an arm with the hip seat abit of a pain. the only thing with my sling is im out of practice and sometimes its hard for me to get DS in the right position when hes wriggling around. Hes 9 months and just over 22lbs by the way. however i havent tried to carry him on my back with the sling yet.

we also have a DEUTER back pack from a specialist walking shop that DH uses when we go on rambles. DS loves being high up looking around in that and DH says it is comfy

SoupDragon · 04/09/2006 15:52

I've got a kimmer for carrying BabyDragon in and I love it - she's 7 months and over 20lbs and it;s fabulous. I do plan on maybe using it in conjunction with the Hippychick seat if she gets too heavy to feel comfortable with the sling alone.

SoupDragon · 04/09/2006 15:54

I've got one ring sling and really don't like the ring aspect of it. The pouch one I use all the time and it's fabulous.

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mustrunmore · 04/09/2006 15:57

If you really dont like buggies, you could go for a hipseat. Its no good for all day outings, but at that age, your little one will have enough self support for you to use your arm just as gentle support; you can still carry carrier bags for example. ds1 even slept on the hipseat, just snuggled in. And its lovely to have a chat. I use it to get ds1 from nursery now, as he's often too tired towalk home, whilst ds2 is in the buggy, and its lovely for him to sit there and talk about what we've done.

mustrunmore · 04/09/2006 16:01

There's also the hip hammock, which is a cross between a papoose and a hipseat.

TooTicky · 04/09/2006 16:10

I thoroughly recommend these I have used them for 3 of my 4 (used so much we actually wore one into holes!). Very important to have the grippy rings on a ring sling otherwise it slips constantly once the child reaches a certain weight. Also the pad on the shoulder which stops the fabric from bunching on top of the trapezius muscle. I know what you mean about buggies - all of a sudden your little one is more distant. The closeness of a good sling is great for mum and babe.

mustrunmore · 04/09/2006 16:11

Or what about the Premaxx carriers, set for the older child position?

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mawbroon · 04/09/2006 16:30

aaargh, my head is spinning!!

Keep it coming though. Thanks everyone

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3andnomore · 04/09/2006 16:47

There is also a great website that really gives lots of reviews of the many slings and general Babywearing info.
\link{http://www.thebabywearer.com/}

3andnomore · 04/09/2006 16:48

www.thebabywearer.com

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SoupDragon · 04/09/2006 20:55

Anniemac, the Kimmer seems nice and roomy - roomier than the coorie I made myself (because I didn't believe they could possibly work!!). It's the best thing I've bought I think.

MrsApron · 04/09/2006 21:17

Re the ergo - yes the baby is quite far down so it spreads the weight on your hips rather than your shoulders. DD1 peers round and seems quite happy. You can tie a mei tai higher but I find it comfier with them lower once they are about 20lbs or so.

babywearer site fab for sling advice and wrapping tips but they def have a learning curve.

I found I did prefer two shoulder carries for a while due to weight until DD1 got more mobile then went back to my pouch for the up and down stage.

I recently horrified an entire shopping centre due to having DD (2) in pouch while 9 months pregnant. I did also manage the ergo until about 7 months. Dd is fine in pushchairs since about 15 months but agree you feel they are so alone!

kitbit · 05/09/2006 09:36

Have an ergo, and love it love it love it. The actual thing weighs almost nothing and is soft so no digging in bits. By the time ds was heavy enough to have to go on the back (also too big to fit under my chin easily!) he was old enough to cooperate with being put in the back carry, but I still do it over the sofa to make sure in case he changes his mind halfway through! I have a bad back too, and the weight is distributed around the hips with the shoulders straps really just being there fore stability and of course to hold baby safely. I can therefore wear it comfortably for ages. In fact I always use it at airports (live abroad so fly home with ds often) and ds is in it for a couple of hours at at time. He's 22mths and about 17kilos. He even sleeps in it, especially if I have him in the front carry (ok if he´s sleepy as he drops his head onto my chest and fits under my chin!)

can you tell we like it?

morningpaper · 05/09/2006 09:38

Can't see if anyone's sugested this but I have a backward facing pram which is very high off the ground - this means we have a lot of face-to-face contact. It also reclines to flat, so if baby falls asleep she can lie down.

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morningpaper · 05/09/2006 09:46

this is the pram I have. The whole chassis swings round so that it faces you. The various covers come off so that it is just a simple pram/buggy. It's nice and high off the ground. I had the same one for dd1 and went to all sorts of lengths to get another one (secondhand!) for dd2 because it was just fabulous.

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