Handling toilet training whilst out and about?

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Hullo, just seeking some advice on what the options are when out & about with DS now that I think toilet training is actually going to go the distance! There are no toilets down the street I normally take him (nearby shops) and we're gone for a few hours at least. Yesterday I took him & put a nappy on him as I knew I couldn't fit potty in the pushchair & buy anything as well! Also if just going for a trip in the car, do I have to stop by the side of the road & do the business & what happens when it gets to winter? Will he be able to give me more warning in the future so it's not such an issue? He's 2.8 & this is our 3rd go, we've been doing it for a week & only one accident today.
He doesn't want to wear nappies during the day at all, and I can see that I'm confusing him if I insist on it esp as we can be gone for much of the day. Do you take a potty with you, and then where do you hide the evidence? Is there a special travel potty I could get? I read about some sort of special bag that absorbs wee, are they a good idea or just a waste of money?
Help, finding training quite easy when we're at home coz he's clearly ready but starting to dread going anywhere particularly as DP insisting on nappies & then DS getting upset about it. Thanks!

drosophila - You are in a difficult position really.

Having a child going through potty training myself I would NEVER not invite friends around because their child is having accidents. To me it's no big deal when they do it. As long as their parent/s clean it up as soon as it happens I don't see the problem.

If your DP has a phobia about these things then ask your friends around when he is out or explain that he will just have to put up with it?! I don't know what else to say. Sorry.

I think your friends could be quite upset and feel very awkward if they knew what was going on. Friendship is more important than a wet floor or a stinky pair of pants!

Fluffymum - love the beach bucket idea.

I used to take a potty with me everywhere. I had to whip it out at the edge of the A3 once and tip the pee into the gutter. I would suggest a poo would go into a nappy bag - put bag over your hand and scrape into another nappy bag as dog walkers do. Never had to do that with ds so far as he is prefers to poo at home but don't see that it would be much of a problem really. I have a travel potty but ds would never sit on it - you are welcome to it if you want it! Now usually just take ds's loo seat out with us in a plastic bag as he won't let me hold him over the loo without it. Ds is 2.7 and can go two or three hours without a wee so I just try and get him to go before we go out and it usually isn't a problem. We started training at the end of June and I quickly found he could hold it in for much longer than I thought. Just go prepared with a change of clothes, wipes, bags etc. The worst that could happen is he has an accident and most people will be sympathetic I think you'll find.

DP is more concerned about the furniture than the floor. He is also concerned from a hygiene point of view. His fear is more what if you don't know where she has peed or if she has done a poo and doesn't tell her Mum then lord knows where she has been sitting. SHe tends not to tell her parents and hides when she does a poo.

It's not easy cos I see both sides and I am sure DS had accidents in other people's homes but DP says that they were real accidents and could not have been predicted whereas this child can almost be relied upon to do a poo. I think every time in their company she does one in her pants. Forgetting about DP's squeamishness for a sec do you think they should take a different approach as they have been trying for a year.

I'm only a week or so in, but I guess I kind of thought they'd stop doing stuff like pooing in their pants regularly after weeks, not a year! Worth starting a new thread, maybe & enlisting help of potty training gurus Cod etc? I have sympathy for your dp, don't think I'd like finding another child's turds on my couch, but it is v.awkward all the same.

dropsophil - It is an awkward situation you are in really.

Yes I do think they need to try something to stop the poo's in the pants after a year but maybe they have exhausted every option.

Definately start a new thread and seek advice from others that have similar experiences. I have been training my DS for 2 months and he has been pooing in his pants but funnily enough never out of the house!

Good Luck!