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I know I should be a nice middle class parent and enjoy listening to my dd read to me, but...

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Enid · 22/05/2006 17:12

it has become a flash point at the end of the day.

She has a reading book every day from school (she is 6, in year 1), she is supposed to read it to me and I listen and write comments in her reading book.

The last few weeks have been a real struggle for me as far as her reading goes - obviously I am knackered with small baby and 3 year old, BUT

a) she has started to hate reading and fusses and moans whenever we have to sit and do it
b) she just stares out of the window if she doesnt know a word, then if I tell her what it is she throws a fit
c)she reads REALLY SLOWLY and it took us 50 mins to read 16 pages this evening
d) she reads in a baby lispy voice that drives me mad and I just can't keep my mouth shut about it

I know I should be calmer and more positive but my comment in her reading book tonight was 'Like pulling teeth'.

How on earth can we get back on track with this?

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FrannyandZooey · 23/05/2006 21:04

I really disagree about "life is boring so you have to do it"

I don't want my children's life to be that way. My life is not that way. I don't want them to choose to do some crap job they hate. The current school system is antiquated and was devised to prepare working class children for life working in a factory, respecting authority unquestioningly, and spending their day with their peers in a faceless herd. IMO it works really well.

However I want my children to have joyful and interesting lives. Destroying a child's pleasure in reading by a force fed diet of Roger Red Hat is bloody evil

I would let her choose something she likes, Enid, these school schemes are for the teachers' benefits, not your daughter's. They want to know exactly how many words she can read, and, more importantly, to make sure they are the correct, permitted words. God forbid she should read something with a plot or enjoy it or anything

Bozza · 23/05/2006 21:09

DS often comes home with a stamp on his hand. I always ask what it is for. Yesterday he had stamps on both hands and both cheeks. It wasn't the teacher going hyper, he had pushed his hands together and then against his cheeks while the ink was still wet.

FrannyandZooey · 23/05/2006 21:10

I hate that stamping crap as well. God I am objectionable tonight aren't I? :)

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Kaz33 · 23/05/2006 21:15

I haven't done any reading with DS1 (4) for the last week or so as he is so knackered, ready for half term. I'll pick up again after half term.

Bozza · 23/05/2006 22:00

Actually Franny I don't think DS was too impressed after I had given both his cheeks a good scrubbing. It was a red stamp and I couldn't work out if it was the ink or natural colour from being rubbed so vigorously.

sandyballs · 24/05/2006 14:09

What do you all write in these dreaded books - I started off so keen back in September but now I just sign it to say I've read with them. I still think I ought to put the occasional comment though, other than "well read", or "she seemed keen/or not!".

PanicPants · 24/05/2006 14:13

lol at stamps on cheeks.

Whenever I do it I keep expecting a complaint, but the children love it, it's an instant reward, whereas stickers do get lost easily. And I don't do it very often, it's not as if children are going home every day with stamps.

Although on holiday we went to a zoo, and they stamped our hand so we could come and go, and it didn't come off - even with soap and cleanser - a scouring pad did the trick though
So I can understand if I ever did get a complaint.

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Enid · 24/05/2006 14:26

we did the 10 minute rule last night and she was so into it that she raced through the whole book in 7 minutes

good reading too

I am actaully coming round to the idea that she isn't such a duffer after all and is in fact, bored , how painful to admit after my anti-bored stance on the g and t threads

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alexsmum · 24/05/2006 14:49

ginn level 7 is good for a 6 year old isn't it?

i know ort level 7 says it's aimed at kids from 6.6 to 7 y/o.and ginn is a similar level i think.

i also hate the ginn books btw!

tamum · 24/05/2006 14:52

Oh, good news Enid :) Funny how the simlest tricks sometimes work, isn't it. Get thee to the G+T threads this minute....

roisin · 24/05/2006 17:07

Great news Enid - hope it continues to go well for you.

ScummyMummy · 24/05/2006 19:34

:) That's great, Enid.

singersgirl · 24/05/2006 21:26

Glad it's done the trick, Enid! Hope it continues. (Inspired by this post, I've instituted stickers for DS2 for reading in a sensible voice....)

Bozza · 24/05/2006 22:04

Great news Enid.

DS has actually brought a reading book home at last. Since he has read it 4x since Tuesday (DH and I twice each and has ver few words) I am sending it back tomorrow so that he will get a new one for the hols. But I am [shcok] because the teacher has signed it with her first name. Didn't know what to sign back. Sandyballs I wrote "DS has enjoyed reading the book - but I think he has memorised it!". Wonder if that is a bit negative.

puff · 24/05/2006 22:55

Oh good, roll on saying goodbye to Ginn

jac34 · 24/05/2006 23:16

I posted a few weeks ago,about not being able to get my DS's,(7yo year 2)to read and do homework.
Cod suggested some football stickers as a reward.However,I also came to the conclusion that they were bored with school books.They only really wanted to read"Horrid Henry"books,so now I tell them they can read them,as long as they read their school book first.This seems to have worked for now.
I think really they just want to be playing football over the park on nice evenings, and can you blame them really.I asked a few of their friends Mothers and they said,that they have had trouble as well.
I think it's a bit of a combination of better weather(they want to be outside)and a general bordom towards the end of the school year.
They just need a bit more bribary to get them to the summer hols.

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Enid · 25/05/2006 15:57

have also started doing the reading in my bed in the morning

all working much better - I have an Usborne Pony Stories for new readers hidden away for half term

thanks so much all

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pablopatito · 25/05/2006 16:04

Children should be playing football on nice evenings, end of story.

cod · 25/05/2006 16:05

Eulalia · 25/05/2006 16:09

Not read all the thread but my son is 6 also and only gets 8 pages to read. 16 is too much homework. It's not compulsory that she does the homework, its just a back up.

My ds has autism and its a real struggle to get him to do homework. some nights he wants to read more so I let him do double so he doens't have to do any at all the next night. BTW the first term we had our new baby (and also a 3 year old) he did no homework at all for the first half term. Far too much to deal with!

We do 30-45 mins max and then it just gets put away.

I find it varies according to the story - some of them my ds really likes and others he is bored with so doesn't want to read.

pablopatito · 25/05/2006 16:41

I remember reading a quote from someone famous (who I can't remember) who said that life's too short to read good books, you should only read brilliant books.

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