Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.
Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.
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Hpbp · 10/10/2012 19:57
Howdy old ladies. Me and master midge checking in. We are also co sleeping because I am lazy I do put him in his basket about 10-1 and then about 6 am but in between he is with me. I did the same with DD who was tiny and I was advised against it but I just was too exhausted to do anything else and it worked really well.
LRM hope a day of rest sorts you out. Me and master midge are also fill of cold. His sleeping bag has been drenched in baby olbas oil and seems to be doing the trick as he can still feed.
Wanted to pick your brains. Do you have and kind of routine and do you Breastfed them to sleep? I had good intentions to not do that this time but already seem to have fallen into the habit. DD used me as a human dummy and I am keen to avoid that this time but feel I am already heading that way. Be interested to know what you all do.
Had a pooh drama yesterday. Was late for parents evening as got totally covered in shit 
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midget I think we had a routine for all of about 5 minutes. Then just as I thought I had anroughmideamwhatnwas going to happen when, t all went entirely pear-shaped. 
and Babygoat feeds to sleep, we are all happy and relaxed that way - surely an important factor? ( though there are things I don't tell the hv, such as that BG likes to sleep on me rather than beside me...
ff I love your five month rule! Can I have it age adjusted like you do for prems?
And 
at lady's surprise at your 'geriatric' standing. Reminds me of announcing my pregnancy and being asked 'oh, so didn't you realise you could get pregnant at your age?' that was by my sister
lrm so sory about your bf problems. Really hope the nct counsellor is useful.
Oh dear. There is now a distinctive odour wafting from BG's rear end. Damn, a nappy change will wake him properly.
seaside Babygoat has very strong views on swaddling! he is a Houdini. I felt very smug when an experienced nurse said 'oh, leave him to me, no baby has ever escaped my swaddling'. And guess what?...
But then this is the baby who removed the mittens they sellotaped to his hands in NNU to stop him pulling his lines out...
goat that's so funny! baby seaside managed to get one of her swaddled hands free by pulling it out of her babygro sleeve and escaping through the neck, we did laugh! If she wakes up swaddled she makes a massive effort to escape, with lots of determined grunting. I don't like the thought of her being so frustrated but when the swaddling works the sleep is delicious...
Posting from phone so will probably mix messages up as relying on baby brain.
Big virtual hug for HP - rowing am when you are low and tired is horrible, last thing you need. Hope you and DP kiss and make up this morning.
LRM hope the bed rest is sorting you and monkey out. Poor master nudge is sneezing and snuffling - we should probably do the same.
FF 
rudeness! I honestly forget that I am old. I would wonder who they were talking to and look for the old bird .
Goat baby goat sounds like he lives up to his name. Mug kudos to mini Houdini.. I haven't swaddled this time. I did swaddled dd as she was too tiny for grobags but midge has gone straight into them or he is in with me.
bytheseaside that's also what I am doing so far. I did everything by instinct last time which worked well for us short term but ended up with some bad sleep habits. I am keen to avoid those again but wasn't sure when to start. When they are so lite seems right to follow their lead. I just got lazy and tried to change too late. Sure I will do the same again despite my good intentions. Not that it matters too much Dd turned out well but I am too old for all that loss of sleep malarkey 
. Also loath to change much now as master midge pretty angelic already. no smug face as I know this could change over night!
Right have to go prise this little fellow off my boob and go get nappies living the dream. Big waves to all.
Yesterday I managed to walk the dog with both dc's. This seemed like a major achievement. Hoping I have turned a corner as have become less fearful of coping with my new family.
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