DO TEENAGE AND YOUNG MUMS FIND BEING A MUM HARD??

[laurenholly]

hi i became a mum at the age of 18 and im 22 now and have 2 girls lauren 3 and holly 1
i found being a parent easy but alot of people say its hard work i dont think it is

CaptainDippy, I'm genuinely confused. When you're 30 your oldest will be 9, I'm not sure it promises to be easy days from there?

Equally I know your degree isn't going to expire, but I think you may find employers are looking for recent experience. In honesty a degree is worthless on its own.

Anyway, I hope it goes well for you, but I do think you might want to investigate the world of work some time before you intend to rejoin it.

I didn't mean that it would "easy days" from there - I just meant that I would not be having any more children after I am 30 so not more pregnancy and childbirth - I am not naive.

I appreciate your comments on my degree and you sure know how to make a woman feel good about herself. Thanks a lot. I appreciate your honesty, but your lack of tact was pretty astounding. I was only saying that I was glad that I had my children young. I am fully aware that there are 2 sides to the argument and that I may struggle to get myself back into a career, but that option is open to me later on if I choose to take it; but perhaps I should just chuck myself on the rubbish dump now!!??

no need to investigate the world of work! as long as you are willing to work, i have not worked for over 6yrs but i will still work, when the times comes, by the way a degree is a degree, not worthless at all!

Having kids before entering into education was actually one of the best decisions I ever made, it made me realise that I need to choose a path that makes me happy but it has to be practical and earn money in the end. I dread to think what would happen if I had no kids, I would probably be a skint art/english student and then jobless!

I think having kids at a young age can be easy because you have more energy, and it's been really beneficial to the way I think about careers and life in general, it's made me more mature and I'm now a person that I wouldn't mind being friends with, I'm much more comfortable with myself after children, it's changed my life and every way is for the better.

I love being a mum, I was born to be a mum, I think the sooner the better for people like me (as long as you're in a stable loving relationship)

just for the record I was 16 and married when I had my first, 18 when I had my second, loving every second except the tantrums (which are wearing me out lots tbh lol)

hi. I had my first at 16. I love being a mum, i couldn't imagine my life without them. Everyone has there good and bad days.
Its just feeding them thats a pain as dd won't eat mince, chicken, rice or pasta and ds2 doesn't like potato.
i'm now 19. ds is 3yrs, dd is 2yrs, ds2 is 7months and i'm currently pregnant due in 16weeks.
I find being a mum pretty easy and really enjoy it and find its the kids that keep me going.

actually captaindippy. i think some male employers will love very favourably of someone who has had their family and will not be leaving to have a baby.

its always somethin i mention "jokily" in an interview ".... oh har di har..well my children are older now and i certainly dont plan on having any more, 3 is definatley enough....har di har"

even with laws in place anyone who thinks that its not running through an employers mind is nuts.

i had my dd (14 months) at 20 and am due my 2nd in august at 22.

i am in a secure relationship with a man i trust to be a fantastic father even if in years to come our relationship doesn't survive (which i doubt will happen but i'm not naive enough to think i can predict the future). both our babies are planned and although as with any child some days are easier than others i wouldn't change her for the world and love being a mom.

i do believe i'm at an advantage in terms of the energy i have to deal with her and the fact that i can remember what it was like to be little and can relate to her better than my mom could relate to me.

Gosh!! Thank you soooo much for all the support everyone!! I am not usually a "harsh" poster, but this "got on my tits" () a bit and I just wanted to speak my mind!!!!! Ahem.

I am not saying that having your family older is "wrong" or anything cos some people don't meet the Love of Their Life until they are well in the thirties etc, I was just exonerating the virtues of having a family young - for all those who have the opportunity - cos I think young mums get too much bad press!!

I love being a mummy and I have no regrets. I feel very, very blessed that I met the Love of my Life so young and that I have had the opportunity to have my family now, while I am in my early 20's. It is wondeful to see how many of us are also loving being a Mini Mum!!

Thank you Kidstrack, FioFio, fastasleep, lilianna and custardo - I am looking forward to reading what others have to say and how tripot is going to respond!!

Thank you also Eve2005 and Lockets - who I thought put her point across very nicely wihout any spite and in a very balanced manner!! I do defintely see both sides of the coin on this one!!

Absolutely no spite was intended, I'm sorry if it came across that way. I was offering my opinion based my experience of the world of work - it wasn't my intention to rubbish your degree or your choices.

Lol no need to say thanks Dippy I was just babbling away as per usual...

you can get back into work easily enough with a PG diploma, or an HND in a specialist subject. As an employer, I must say I would be favourably impressed by a thirty year old with several older children.

Thank you for your post tripot - I am sorry that things got a bit "out of hand"!! Hormonal mothers getting hot under the collar!! Opinion was appreciated, but way it was put across was not. Fair do's. Thank you for your post nightynight - I am glad that you will be impressed by my credentials by the time I am thirty!!! I'll keep "studying"!!