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would you put your two year old in the naughty corner if they refused to eat any dinner?

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Sparklemagic · 23/02/2006 09:00

Posting question for a mate whose friend does this and they've clashed over it as my mate feels it's inappropriate and harsh. I agree with her but then I've always been very laid back with how much DS eats, never wanted to force the issue. What do you think?

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cod · 23/02/2006 10:00

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Angeliz · 23/02/2006 10:00

I make my children sit at the table but don't force them to eat. I'm sure she'll not end up on brat camp and hoepfully will enjoy mealtimes in future.

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Bozza · 23/02/2006 10:00

Oh I'm glad you are here cod. I think I was beginning to look harsh making my 21 mo sit on the step for having a tantrum at the table, and insisting she sit at the table until everyone has finished eating.

Enif · 23/02/2006 10:00

dd2 does this occasionally and I tell her to get down (no telly though) and there is no pudding. She either eats some or gets down and goes away and gets no pudding. She always eats a massive bowl of porridge in the morning instead

cod · 23/02/2006 10:02

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Feistybird · 23/02/2006 10:02

Depends - she eats a bit and declares she's no longer hungry, then she can leave the table (no pud). If she's being whingy and silly, she leaves the room and sits on the stair.

Tuff luv 'ere.

cod · 23/02/2006 10:02

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elliott · 23/02/2006 10:04

I would do our usual discipline method (time out in porch) for messing around and being naughty at the dinner table. Not eating because not hungry would mean go straight up to the bath, not get down and play.

cod · 23/02/2006 10:04

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Enif · 23/02/2006 10:05

I dont have a naughty corner/chair/step

god maybe I am raising kids with potential brattage

Angeliz · 23/02/2006 10:05

yes cod, if dd was behaving like that then i probably would tell her to stop it or leave the room but that's about the behaviour at the table not the food.
If it was because she didn't want to eat or didn't like the food then that would be different.

suzywong · 23/02/2006 10:08

No
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Bozza · 23/02/2006 10:14

I have had a naughty step for years. I think DD saw it as a badge of achievement when she first got sent to sit on it. I sent DS the other day and she went and sat with him and they were having a cosy little cuddle. I had to go and drag her away - little saboteur.

elliott · 23/02/2006 10:16

cod, not epecially cold (it is inside the house - i.e. inside the main front door) but the only place that is feasible for time out really.

serenity · 23/02/2006 10:16

Surely that's two separate issues though?

Whinging/tantrummimg whether at the table or not, isn't acceptable, but not eating is their choice (the 'punishment' I suppose is being hungry if they're just being a pita rather than being full)

So, getting sent to their room because they've thrown a strop because you've said no pudding or whatever is not the same as being sent to your room for not eating, iyswim.

We don't have a naughty corner, but they do get sent to their rooms (to sit on their beds and 'think') this includes dd who is 2.3 - and yes, she goes by herself when sent, stays there for a few minutes and then comes back in and says sorr, so it works for us.

Feistybird · 23/02/2006 10:20

Serenity, to you and me aka grownups, yes they're separate issues tocomplext toddler they all roll into one homogenous mass and it's difficult to spearate them (in our house anyway). Not eating, although rare in our house always goes hand in hand with whingy-whiney behaviour.

elliott · 23/02/2006 10:20

I should also say that 2 yr old has almost never had time out (yet) - only for hitting - and actually 4 yr old hardly does now.

expatinscotland · 23/02/2006 10:22

No. She doesn't eat she has to sit at table till we're all finished. 9 times out of 10 she starts in on her meal after a few minutes.

harpsichordcarrier · 23/02/2006 10:26

I can't believe you lot all give them pudding anyway
if she doesn't want to eat (i.e. she's not hungry), then I let her get down unless we are at someone else's house in which case I get her to stay at the table until everyone is finished.
that's it
she can eat when she's hungry

Chandra · 23/02/2006 10:29

I think the question that needs to be asked here is why your friend decided she had a say in the way the other raise her child.

I would be sending her to the naughty step instead.

WigWamBam · 23/02/2006 10:34

I don't class refusing to eat as bad behaviour - it's just not wanting to eat, and it's not something that I feel is appropriate to punish. Even if they're doing it to exercise control over their parents, it's not a punishable offence in my book - being hungry later on (and not being given extra food) is punishment enough in that situation. If there are behavioural issues as well then that's a completely different question.

Really though it's none of your friend's business how her other friend choses to treat this, and it's wrong of her to try and interfere with someone else's parenting in my opinion.

Piffle · 23/02/2006 10:35

Would never ever turn food into a battleground
They eat if they're hungry, if dd (3) doesn't eat, she ain't hungry.
End of, it gets taken away and we get her down. And thats it.
I've always done that and both of mine eat everything with a few exceptions as per usual mushrooms, celery and ds (12) won't eat eggs on their own.
I'm lucky though I've got really laid back kids, never seen a tantrum from either of them
Touch wood....

Dottydot · 23/02/2006 12:00

I think the worst 'punishment' you can give at this age is just not to let them have anything else to eat - if they don't eat tea they go to bed hungry. Definitely no pudding! This works better if there's a sibling around who has eaten OK and gets a treat.

Enif · 23/02/2006 12:11

yes agree with it working better with siblings

dd1 is eating very well atm and loves to sit and eat her pudding while dd2 gets nothing

sadly dd2 doesnt seem in the least bit fussed about pudding

probably as she has stuffed her face at nursery for lunch (today roast pork with all the bits and then arctic roll - lucky mare)

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