Funny things heard in baby group...

[londonmummy]

Just wondered if anyone had heard anything weird or funny from other mums.

Heard the following:

Mum 1: Don't bother sterilising bottles just rinse them in hot water

Mum 2: Give dbaby calpol before their injections so they don't feel the pain

Mum 3: My ds is so big, it would be unfair to breastfeed him (bw 8 lb 10 oz)

Mum 4: gp is crap, takes dd straight to a &e to see a paed whatever the issue

Leggymamba, very hot with lots of washing up liquid, very hot rinse then left to air dry. I never leave formula standing around in bottles and didn't use any until ds was 6 months old. just wanted you to have some context.

Just want to make one more comment before logging off this stupid chat room for good (and spending my time with what's really important - my daughter).

You all seem to have strange views to me, risking a serious gastric infection by not sterilising bottles properly, then jumping on my back for not giving calpol to my daughter before or after her standard immunisation. but then that's your views and i won't judge you for them. i suppose they are the standard 'mumsnet' views and so you ostracise others who don't share your opinions. The pain comment was taken completely out of context, i would never hurt my daughter and comparing an injection to open heart surgery is to me seriously warped. i just accept that i have to do my best for her and when she is hurt/ill comfort her and do my best to make her feel better. Not giving her a lot of crap in case she gets ill or jumping off the deep end and rushing off to casualty for any little cold.

these are my choices, and none of you have the right to make me feel like a bad mother. you don't have the monopoly on motherhood, just because you are all a load of cyber bullies ostracising anyone who is not in your clique.

Oh and don't bother post your bitchy replies, i'm signing off for good and won't read them!!!

I tried to warn her...

Bloody hell, if you think the comments here are bitchy then you're reading a different thread to me ... I can see a pretty balanced discussion, and I can see several people giving differing opinions, but I can't see any bitching.

ouch!

Was just reading through this thread - where did that post come from? Are you ok LM? Nothing upsetting or offensive on here as far as I can see. Thought it was all fairly interesting with everyones different views tbh.
Has something happened on another thread?

Didn't even see that lockets - more a post about being surprised about some things you hear parents say.

LM, are you OK? I can't see where anyone's been awful to you?

goodness me LM - I think you got the wrong end of the stick here.
I wasn't comparing OHS to a jab FFS (I frankly don't know how on earth you could misinterpret my post like that )- I was saying that just because your baby has gone through some nasty stuff doesn't mean you have to become desensitised to them being in pain.

What you said about pain in your post at 10:04:10 AM - well, I am sorry but I'm obviously not the only one who thought this sounded pretty awful. You explained yourself afterwards, but surely it's not that bloody hard to see why people jumped down your throat?

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And just because other people choose not to sterilise - hey, how about thinking that you might be "making them feel" like bad mothers because you do sterilise?

Swings and roundabouts - toughen up, buttercup.

LM. people arent risking serious gastric problems if they dotn steralise, as long as the bottles are scrupiously cleaned in hot water and left to dry then they'll be fine.

giving calpol before jabs is comman as it heads off a fever before it starts (never done it myself but its recommended by the nurse here)

no-one is trying to make u feel like a bad mum. we all have different views on parenting thats what makes this place interesting.

LM - don't give up on the site, it's a great place to get differing views. Noone's telling you what to do, just sharing their experiences. My experiences came from watching special care baby unit nurses not sterilise bottles in the conventional way, as I think I said, it's counterintuitive and I wouldn't have done it unless I'd seen what I did. I'm not saying you should do it, just sharing experience. Grow up a bit and take mumsnet as it's intended, it will be your loss as it's been an invaluable source of advice and experience to me.

oooh, handbags again!!! Come on LM. If this is as little as it takes for you to feel like a bad mother, I don't think MN is the problem! There's no such thing as a standard MN view, that's the whole point of this forum.

Just read this thread. Londonmummy, if you're still lurking, FWIW, I don't think anyone was having a pop at you... Unfortunately, I think the thread launched itself off at the wrong angle from what you intended and people just commented on the four views you mentioned, rather than add their own "funny ideas overheard".

I for one don't agree all with the standard mumsnet views; here it what I think:
1.Sterilising is what people are officially advised to do but there is a large body of thought that it isn't strictly necessary.
2. I don't think calpol will stop babies feeling the pain of the injection itself; then again, I don't think injections are particularly painful anyway. So I never gave it because I didn't want to give dd any drugs unnecessarily.
3. I think we are all agreed this non-bf "reason" is crap.
4. Ridiculous and inconsiderate to take dd to A&E unnecessarily, IMHO. If GP is so bad, change GP (I did).

Discussion boards wouldn't be very interesting if everyone had identical views about everything, would they? Don't think that every disagreement is a personal attack - I'm sure no-one meant anything like that.

bet you come back though even if you don't post

On the sterilising issue I am (well used to be I suppose) a food safety expert and a microbiologist and with my first baby sterilised bottles for the first month I think (EBM and pump etc) with DD2 I am not sterilising anything but rinse the bottle with hot water before putting them in the dishwasher. Most dishwashers run at 70degrees C and have a steam drying cycle both of which will kill off any enteric pathogens that may grow in any milk left.

i was trying to support you lm, pity you didnt see it that way

How "weird and funny" this thread has turned.

PMSL .. new mum syndrome

I agree with everyone else that quote 3 is ridiculous, but I was advised by a hospital midwife that my son (9lb 7oz) was too big to breastfeed, so sadly it may be down to professional advice rather than rationalisation.

The daftest thing I heard was "Cranial osteopathy is vital for babies born with the cord round their necks".

More stupid comments:

My Ds was born with low blood sugar and so was taken to special care where they tube fed him formula while I tried to get going with the pump. I had little success and after 3 days it dawned on me that if they were giving him formula through a tube then I could give it in a bottle and make life more pleasant for him. I obviously wanted to do the best for him so asked a midwife if I could give formula while it was necessary and continue to try to get going with breastfeeding. She told me that 'We don't advise that, you shouldn't mix the two because it increases the chances of cot death.' I was desperate to get home with my baby and to get rid of the tube asap so I decided to go for formula. I was later told by BF counsellor that the midwife was completely wrong and that it is perfectly safe to do both. I was really annoyed because I felt that I couldn't ignore any increased risk so in effect my choice was taken away. It seems that BS is everywhere!