Does you child know 'the eff word'?

[Spidermama]

If so, at what age did he/she learn it?
How?
Does he/she actually know the meaning?

DD is 3y10m and has never said it, or any other swear word, as yet. Neither Dh or me swear so it wouldn't come from home anyway, and no older siblings bringing words home from school.

I was wondering this recently -DD is 6 and as far as i know hasn't heard or used it (unless you count the time she said it at the in-laws dinner table after we'd had builders working on our house!)

Ds1 does. He's known it since Year One. He said "X said the eff word today" and I said "what's that then?" "You know, the eff word...I can't say it." "Spell it then" "F.O.O.K."

X has quite a strong accent

They tend to learn it from others, be it friend, tv, stranger on the street.

I think that DS1 fully understood it by the time he was 9. I got called into the office at school because it had become his word of choice in the playground during football (and probably outside of school where no one told me).

I told him that that kind of language was unacceptable and that I didn't want to hear it. I know that he has used it since, but it has been out of my hearing and actually it was used to express his frustration. I did tell him that he ought to be more creative in his swearing and not use the same words as everyone else. I also said (cos that's the kind of mummy I am) that did he know that all the swear words were to do with the body.

TBH it's a phase that many of them go through. Some learn to speak and express anger without swearing, others don't.

Did I rabbit on too much? Sorry.... that's my mood today. Why say one word when "War and Peace" will do.

No my kids don't swear because we don't swear.....DD will come home and say "mummy ??? said the f word today" and she knows its naughty.

Ds1 only in reception so not heard it or said it to my knowledge.

The first time he says it in front of me will also be the last time

DD is 3.9 and doesn't know the concept of the eff word as such. dh and I do swear on occasion however (favourite is ffs) and until we made a concerted effort to stop in her presence she did sometimes come out with it

My Mum told me about a conversation she had with ds1 the other week. He was moaning about his little brother and how he is always bugging him. She pointed out that when he was 4 he probably bugged dh and I. Ds1 said "no, Grandma...I was never a bugger... I'm not supposed to say that word!"

My language at times is disgusting but thankfully the DCs haven't picked up on it yet (eldest is 11.)

Such a shame that a lot of the CDs these days contain bad language. Was extremely shocked to hear DS (8) singing along to James Blunt belting out the F word.

DS1 is 4y4m. Still doesn't know the f word. Someone near us sayed "fscking" at their dog the other day, and DS1 said, "why did that man say ficking?". The man apologised on his way past us again! Didn't apologise for kicking his dog, though.

I thought my kids didn't know it because we don't swear in front of them, but it turns out my 7 year old dd does know it from school and has known it for some time.

I remember about a year ago, when visiting my sister, my ds (then 5)said, 'A said a rude word' and I feigned nonchelance and flicked through a magazine, 'Oh yes, what was that then'.
'Fuck'.
(Remaining cool) 'Oh. What does that mean?'
'I don't know but it's very rude'.
'I don't know that one. Maybe it's Albanian'. (A's dad is Albanian.)
I never heard any more about it. I thought I'd got away with it but if dd knows the word I've obviously been deluding myself.

I hope not. DH and I don't use it but dd1's father (my ex) uses it constantly and so I'm sure she has heard him say it.

She's never used it though - she's a very sweet and well-behaved girl .

Yes unfortunately and it is all dh's fault, I'm so ashamed ....

Yes unfortunately and it is all dh's fault, I'm so ashamed ....

Yes unfortunately and it is all dh's fault, I'm so ashamed ....

My DS1 (7) told me he knows the eff word but it turned out he thinks it's 'fart'! He also told me today that another boy is 'crack' at football...

Jennylee... I'm guessing you're ashamed? lol

If they don't know it now dd2 soon will thanks to a little charmer who's just started (in Reception btw)and uses it constantly

Unfortunately! DS has recently started saying "f**ker". Got it from his friend at school. In Reception but friend has older brothers.

I swear (I'm Irish!!) but as DH hates it I do tone it down and I KNOW I have never said f* in front of DS.

Till now his worst one was "bugger" - which he got from DH so that's OK!

DS1 learnt it at 5, from me I'm afraid. He came home from school and told me that "fat" was a very bad word and the whole class had been told not to use it. I told him that it was rude to talk about a person being fat, but surely its use in "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" was acceptable. He was adamant, however, that "fat" was a very rude word. It dawned on me that final consonants aren't always pronounced in South London, and that fa' and fu' might sound similar, so I thought I'd better explain. He asked me what it meant and I referred him to the spacehopper page of "Mummy Laid an Egg".

Imagine how I felt the next day when another parent found the playground behaviour book lying around and read out the section relating to someone calling a little girl "fat"!

My other two (aged 8 and 6) know the word but have the sense not to use it. I'm not sure how or where they picked it up.

PMSL at 'fart' juliab. Ahhhhh!

Well Jenny the reason I asked this is because dd came downstairs today and said, 'Dad's swearing at the baby'. I asked her what she meant she said she overheard dad putting ds4 to bed and saying, 'Where's the f*cking blanket?'.

When confronted he admitted it and was suitably embarrassed, but that's when dd admitted she had known the word for ages. She's now keen to know what it means. I said I'm not going to tell her so obviously she's keener than ever. She was saying, 'Oh go on tell me. Does it mean poo?' 'No'. 'Wee?' 'No'. (gulp!)

we're a bit naughty. we are both-i hope!-quite respectable people whose kids are fairly well behaved- -but we both can swear like troopers! our kids have tried it on now and again but funnily enough they seem to know it's out of bounds to them!in fact, if anything, they tell us off if we use these words!

lol- dd now tells me off if I say ffs

Am I a bit prudey on this then?
I remember being very shocked to hear a very respectable friend of mine telling her child to F*ck off. Her child was six at the time.

Oh good lord - no way! Completely hideous and lowlife to actually direct swearing at a child. It's one thing letting something slip out in their presence but to tell a child to eff off is appalling.