i'm a crap, crap, crap, crap, crap mummy

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Was dressing ds (5 months) after his bath, and he was protesting vocally about his sleepsuit (quite difficult to get over his head). Turned away for one second to get another one, and he must have rolled over completely about twice (which would be a first - usually he rolls onto side) and bang - off the bed and onto the floor. He screamed and cried for 5 or 10 minutes, but was comforted a bit by bf and calmed down after that - we took a taxi to the hospital and when we got there he was actually smiling again. He has a definite bump on the back of his head, but the dr examined him and couldn't find anything obv wrong. She said to come back immediately if he vomits or is difficult to wake. I mentioned that he had spit up just after we arrived at the hospital, while we were waiting to be seen. But he'd been fed and he is a spitty baby. She then said that if it was vomiting (as opposed to normal spitting) he'd better be admitted for an ultrasound tomorrow and some other test on Mon. dh and I discussed it and he was sure it was just a normal spitting up, plus by now ds was basically his normal smiley, active, curious self, and he would opt to go home. (He is a psychologist so has some idea of the brain). Dr said OK and mentioned the things we needed to look out for in case of concussion. We'd set off when I read the notes she'd given us - 'admission recommended but refused by the parents'. I was horrified as I thought we'd come to an agreement based on ds' general state, plus that sentence made us sound like such uncaring parents. I ran back and asked to speak to her about it - while doing so had an attack of dizziness and ended up having to sit there with legs elevated for about 15 mins. She was really nice, said she hadn't meant it like that at all, and added a bit to the notes. We're home now, ds grinny and playful as usual and is now feeding away. But I'm still so shaken. How could I be so naive and careless? Poor little ds - what if he does have concussion and it all goes horribly pear-shaped - I'll be even more crap for having gone home. How much spitting up (seeing as ds is quite sicky at the best of times) is still 'normal'? Just needed to write this down - my poor precious beautiful ds and I was so careless. I'm furious with myself.

Poor you fit.
We've all been there I promise and we've all felt just as horrid.
Babies are tougher than you think. Trust your instincts. You will know if things aren't right (which is highly unlikely.)

(My dd fell out of the cot at 24 months and broke her arm. Imagine how bad I felt..and still do!)

Stay calm.

Don't worry, most of us have had this moment!
This is when you realise they acn move.

I was lucky: Dd1 shouted that DD2 was falling and I grabbed her by the back of her babygro before she hit the floor!

Not sure about he sicky bit.

I know it's not much of a consolation Foundintranslation, but it's one of those things that happends unfortunately.
You done the right thing taking him to the hospital to be checked over.

I done it when my DD was about 6 months old, was sitting on the sofa tucked in a corner, covered in cushions etc whilst i got the chicken out the over and then crash, she was on the floor! I was horrified, she screamed but overall was absolutely fine.
Don't beat yourself up over it, just keep a close eye on him.

Don't be daft. I don't know anyone who's baby hasn't done something similar. Oh and they are always smiling and happy by the time you get to the hospital, it's a rule :-)) I'd have been cross about the Dr writing that in the notes though. Cheek. She knew damned well what was going on.

no, you're not.
it happens, all the time. you will find that everyone has a similar story to tell. (I smacked my dd's head against the door jamb once, completely misjudged how wide we were.)
take it easy. If you're still worried, then call or take him back,but try to get some sleep
hcxx

Oh dear me, poor you.

Everyone has stuff like this happen. Really. Everyone. When DS1 was something like 5 months, I bonked his head on a wooden beam. I was so freaked out, I put ice on it, which made it turn red, and then got worried he'd been damaged.

My DS2 is 12 months and forever banging his head on things. If he doesn't have a big bruise on his forehead, something's wrong.

They're really quite sturdy, your DS is almost certainly completely fine. You will know real vomiting if you see it (normal posset generally doesn't go far from the mouth, while real vomit tends to project, IYSWIM).

we've got wooden floors (parquet)
so not even any carpet to cushion his fall a bit.
thanks everyone. still absolutely kicking myself though. and worried sick. doubt I'll get a wink of sleep tonight.

x posts bhc. sleep? i'll try...

You wont FIT, trust me, you will be up and down every other second to check on him but he will be fine, i'm sure.
We have real wood floor too

d'you think the dr wrote that so we wouldn't blame her/the hospital in the unlikely event that something did go wrong?
I was still horrified though. It was such a shortened and simplified (and inaccurate in fact) version of our discussion.

I did exactly the same thing. Didn't go to hospital, just sat up all night watching him.
I think we've all been there. And I can't tell you the number of times that DH has picked DS up and cracked his (DS's) head off the door frame!

fit he ill b fine, dont panic

just another post to say it's OK... we've ALL done it!

DS has fallen off the bed twice.. once while i was in bed with him
they're amazingly bouncy at that age!
he also made a leap for it the other day, dp caught him but he hit his head on the side of the bed (wooden) and had a big bump

god i sound awful don't i? anyway, he is happy and healthy and has suffered no ill-effects from it.

please don't worry, your ds is FINE... and if you were really a bad mum then you wouldn't be so cut up about it!~

bero/fit, was so happy to see you had posted again on our Junie thread - but clearly not now! You poor, poor thing. I know you tend to worry perhaps even more than the rest of us about your little one given the rocky start he had but as all the others have said, it really does happen to everyone and ds is clearly happy as larry - you would definitely know about it if something was wrong.

I completely sympathise. The worst I have done (so far) is trip on ds' play gym and fall on to the sofa with him, and I sobbed for literally half an hour, even though he cried (in shock) for a minute tops and then was right as rain.

Fact is, as our little Junie babies become more active, stuff like this is going to happen. It doesn't make you a careless mother, nobody can watch their little one 24*7.

You correctly followed your instincts that ds didn't need to stay in hospital. If at any point tonight your instincts tell you you should go back, just you go right ahead and do that. No-one will make you feel like an overprotective mum, you have to do what you feel is best.

Dr Tribpot prescribes: one glass of wine to help you feel more chilled, some deep breaths and a virtual hug {{{bero}}} (sorry, can't get used to your new name!)

It really does happen to the best of us, I promise. DS3 has permanent scarring on his face after DS1 (5, has sn) removed him from cot in the middle of night, transferred him to bunk bed where he fell. I didn't wake as I was exhausted. Scared the life out of me. When we took him to casualty, we were treated like child abusers as he had ben taken before when DH fell down stairs carrying him- not dh's fault, just moved into new house and not used to steep stairs. DS3 fell from his arms and down stairs.

They also got really antsy that DS3 was underweight, and took him away until they ahd confirmed he had been through paeds / dieticians for this and discharged.

Professionals rarely know how to handle parents in these situations, unless they have been there

hi bero
sorry this happen but like all have said accidents are bound to happen as they grow up. like trib said be lead by your instincts take a deep breath.
by morning you will have had a new badge in this mummy business. let us now how you get on
-not a bad mummy
was thinking of you and how your trip went. all ok?

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I know it's no consolation,but it really is so easy for these things to happen.Babies are a lot tougher than we think.I was the same after ds and me had our accident and blamed myself for such a long time afterwards.I wouldn't even hold him for 3 or 4 days as I was so scared I'd drop him again,but the fracture has healed,he doesn't remember it and he's such a happy baby.I know it's hard and yes you do have to have eyes on the back of your head,but I'm sure they'll be other mishaps in the future(for all of us!)and we'll feel like this all over again-these things happen unfortunately,so beat yourself up over it-I'm sure he'll be fine.

That's meant to be DONT beat yourself up!!!!.

thanks so much everyone. junies - still happy to answer to bero
feel a bit less shaken now. lynny, you're right - I know what I would say. Just seems so different when it happens to you yourself IYKWIM? Feel calmer and less dizzy. Still kicking myself quietly in the background though. Can't look at the floor for thinking how much it must have hurt ds' little head Think I will have that 'prescription' wine trib!
sfxmum, it was hugely stressful but also excellent in many ways. am planning an update on june thread when I have time. ds was a star - the best student of the lot

Hi fit,
Just to add that I too have had a falling on the floor thing (with dd many moons ago now). Also on one of our healthvisitor's infrequent visits she asked me if ds had fallen off the bed "yet". I think that probably tells you how frequently it happens! Good for you going back and making sure your notes were changed. When I had to go into hospital for my c-section with ds, after a false start to my planned home birth, the midwife wrote in my notes "happy to go to hospital" despite the fact I was in floods of tears! What she should have written was "agreed to go to hospital". As part of my job I organise training on medical records, and there are just too many short hand phrases that people get into the habit of using I am afraid. Hope you are starting to feel less shaky!

AWwwwww bero hunny hugs

We ve all done it im afraid, when william was a few weeks old i tripped on his ankle can you belive it, he was fine just abit shocked nothing was broke, or swollen i kept an eye on it, and william was his happy self within half an hour but i was pittiful, sobbing ect.

It does happen hunny and you did the right thing by taking baby to hospital straight away, as for the remarks i would have been mad too.

So just relax now have some wine like trib says your a brilliant mummy dont you forget that all us junies think so xxxxxxxxxxx

thanks
well here I am, dh did first couple of hours of 'night' shift to let me have some kip, we'd then been told to try to wake him from sleep, which worked after some tickling but which the poor lamb didn't take kindly to, now he's feeding. There's been no vomiting. So far so good...

I let ds roll off the bed at 3 1/2 months while I was putting up last minute decorations at Christmas. I felt terrible and was sure he had some type of concussion. He was fine, I suffered much, much more. Who knew he could roll over that well?

I "let" my 2.5 year old fall off a railway carriage (converted into a cottage) about 2 metres up by looking away to talk to someone else. He just had a nasty shock and a little bump, but looking at all the bits that he could have hit on his way down (buffers) for the rest of the holiday made me feel quite ill, even after the owners had fenced the carriage.

I guess it was a wake up call to change him on the floor now, but honestly we have all done something we regret. He wouldn't have known what was happening and so would have fallen really well.

As for vomiting - proper throw up entire contents of stomach hitting wall - would be a sign to go back.