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mears is thinking of leaving us. Action required NOW.

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bubble99 · 18/06/2005 21:04

Without wishing to sound too shmaltzy, mears, for me, has been amazing. She has helped me over the last few months with so many things. In the darkest days after Bo died she responded to so many of my seemingly daft questions with wisdom, compassion and humour. Heck! She is The Queen Mum of mumsnet and we need her to stay.

She has posted saying that she feels she needs to get out and do more, she is working full time doing shifts, including weekends and nights (yuk) whilst also finishing her masters in midwifery. She is losing motivation and needs other interests.

So...... Action is now required. She also needs to shift some weight (I'm with her on this one) but I don't think this needs to be the focus as in my experience if you're busy with something that interests the weight falls off anyway.

Anyone prepared to help me in my campaign to save our mnet treasure? Ideas and 'Save our mears' posts required.

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marthamoo · 18/06/2005 21:49

She said (I think) that she wasn't coming back 'til 11pm. Shall we wait up for her?

Gobbledigook · 18/06/2005 21:50

I LOVE HUnkers idea -oooh, she's soo bloody clever!

snafu · 18/06/2005 21:51

Maybe poor Mears would like a break from being our midwife, though

Although it's a fab idea as well, hunker (she adds hastily, not wanting to upset a pregnant woman)

bubble99 · 18/06/2005 21:53

I will Moo. How's you, moo, BTW? I have a sticky mouse tonight (ooer!) along with a caremelised rat perhaps??? I keep posting twice and it's embarrasing as they're not particularly good posts but it looks as though I'm so proud of them that they need to be read twice for full dramatic impact

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bubble99 · 18/06/2005 21:56

I agree snafu. Moo's 'mears bar' suggestion is a good one. We need to meet mears 'off duty'

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dot1 · 18/06/2005 21:57

Love the idea of an 'ask Mears' section/page! But as long as it wouldn't be too much pressure - HM sounds fab if you could facilitate it - I'm v. impressed..!

Mears - you've always been brilliant on any threads I've lurked on looking for advice, or started - THANK YOU.

marthamoo · 18/06/2005 22:01

I'm well thanks, bubble . Drinking alone - that's bad isn't it? Though I'm not really alone...I'm on Mumsnet.

There's a potential MN logo in there somewhere.

clary · 18/06/2005 22:04

Mears, your advice is always spot on, wise and caring.
It's helped me many times.
If you do want to ease up on the online midwifery,i agree with those who say pls stay for the chat!
(Mears lives in Scotland btw I beleive but I'm not sure where...)

bubble99 · 18/06/2005 22:08

Moo. As long as your 'special song' duties have been fulfilled then I see nothing wrong with you drinking. And, no, you're not drinking alone, I am here with a cheeky little glass of wine.

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spots · 18/06/2005 22:10

It must be hard work being Mears. I remember seeing a thread from her before where she was feeling demotivated and I almost expected to see her tail off MN 'duties' from there.

Mears, you are appreciated not just because the advice is good but also because of the humanity and commonsense you deliver it with. That's what makes people ask for you by name. and remember you afterwards.

but maybe that's a part of what's tiring, and it does sound like a tiring package.

People would be wondering about you as long as you're not here, not just because you are the advice dispensary, but because you are a good presence on the boards. I hope you feel the two way traffic!

marthamoo · 18/06/2005 22:10

I like you, bubble (and that's not just the Pinot Grigio talking).

Pruni · 18/06/2005 22:11

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pixiefish · 18/06/2005 22:11

Mears- your advice is invaluable to Mumsnet. I think that hunkermunkers idea is fab and shall email this thread to MNTowers and see what they think. I'm sure they don't want to see you go either

hunkermunker · 18/06/2005 22:15

I guess I had to come up with a good 'un after the massive amount of harebrained no-brainers(?!) I usually have

And...dare I say it...bump!

Uh oh, I think Bubble's caramelised rat's after me!

bubble99 · 18/06/2005 22:55

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bubble99 · 18/06/2005 23:02

Bump. In case she's passing.

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edam · 18/06/2005 23:11

Mears, it would be fan-bloody-tastic if you could stay. And we would miss you liked a very missed thing indeed if you went. But do what's right for you. You've already done more than enough to earn your place in breastfeeding and midwifery heaven (and wouldn't that be a strange place? The land of breastmilk and honey...).

HappyHuggy · 18/06/2005 23:23

Hi Mears

Have never 'spoken' to you but even i know how popular and well respected you are.

You have a lot of friends on mn who would all be sad to see you go!

Love Huggy

bubble99 · 18/06/2005 23:33

One final bump in case mears appears. Mears inspired poetry will be appreciated.

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uwila · 18/06/2005 23:56

Oh SH1TE. Mears, you're the only midwife I've ever liked. (shocking statement perhaps, but it's true) Don't leave us... PLEASE.

You were such a help pn BF thread earlier today.

uwila · 18/06/2005 23:58

Oh the worst of fears
Mumsnet without Mears

bubble99 · 19/06/2005 00:02

uwila, me ol'pal. Can I count you in as a thread bumper on this one? Our mears is too important to let go and I intend to bump this one everytime it starts to slip down the listings.

I hope you're ok. I'm off to bed now to feed Elijah. How's it going with number two?

Catch up soon. XXXXX

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ghosty · 19/06/2005 00:11

bubble, would you like me to keep this bumped through the night? I am in all day and can keep it going till you lot wake up in the morning??

Mears, let me just say ... my enormously successful nine/ten months of breastfeeding DD was, I think at least 80% down to you and tiktok combined ... not just what you said to me but what you have said to everyone else in past threads ... also had it not been for the miles and miles of threads of advice for every different type of childbirth I would not have been so chilled about my failed VBAC ....

MN HQ ... You have to do something!

Having said all that I do understand why you feel the need to have a break ... remember the thread in SN when some of the mums felt very pressured to answer all types of questions about autism etc ... Jimjams needed a break as it all became too much for her ... she felt a massive responsibility to answer every person's question and it really got on top of her ...

But still ... Don't go

hub2dee · 19/06/2005 00:13

When I first ventured into 'Talk' after reading all the MN product review sections, one name kept popping up, particularly wrt anything to do with pregnancy health questions. It was 'mears.' I immediately could see this was one woman who knew what she was talking about.

I knew that one day I'd have my questions on pg / childbirth etc. and that she'd be the poster who would help me out.

Sure enough, 7 months later, I was posting on DW's hypertension at 31 weeks... and mears was there to offer concrete comments and advice. (as well as a load of other lovely MNers).

I'd also noticed that there wasn't too much 'personal' info on mears that I'd picked up just reading chatty threads...that was one of the reasons I was a bit nosey, and asked where she worked, and what exactly she did etc. etc.

She's a fab source of advice on here. IMHO she should be paid. Without authoritative, qualified, up to date advice MANY pg MNers or MNers with young babies would not be getting such clear guidance. I for one really appreciate her presence. It adds VALUE to MN. For sure.

And now to you, mears: I can understand the desire to do different things, and focus on RL, and get out and about a bit more, have some fun etc. It's so obvious that midwifery is your calling you do it morning, noon and night. Out in the real world and on the virtual world that is MN too. I won't actually suggest you stay on MN, it's perhaps 'more of the same', but maybe ration your time, and if you miss a few topics which you could have answered, someone else will hopefully have some useful comments !

You can't have a caseload of 2,000 ! (Which might be number of MNers pg at any time). It'll burn you out and you won't finish your research module !!! They say balance in everything, and I wish you good luck finding it !

Thank you for your help on my thread.

XX

Cooperoo · 19/06/2005 06:20

Oh Blimey Mears please don't go. I second everything Hub has posted and was only thinking the other day that your should get paid for this .
I can't imagine the pressures you are under but please don't leave us completely. You are fab and very well respected.

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