mears is thinking of leaving us. Action required NOW.

[bubble99]

Without wishing to sound too shmaltzy, mears, for me, has been amazing. She has helped me over the last few months with so many things. In the darkest days after Bo died she responded to so many of my seemingly daft questions with wisdom, compassion and humour. Heck! She is The Queen Mum of mumsnet and we need her to stay.

She has posted saying that she feels she needs to get out and do more, she is working full time doing shifts, including weekends and nights (yuk) whilst also finishing her masters in midwifery. She is losing motivation and needs other interests.

So...... Action is now required. She also needs to shift some weight (I'm with her on this one) but I don't think this needs to be the focus as in my experience if you're busy with something that interests the weight falls off anyway.

Anyone prepared to help me in my campaign to save our mnet treasure? Ideas and 'Save our mears' posts required.

[expatinscotland]

Mears is SUCH a confidence booster! She's one of the reasons I am more confident about this upcoming birth experience and trying to breastfeed after a horrendous experience with both the first time.

Glad you're staying around, Mears!

[Leogaela]

Mears - I just want to add my thanks to you for the advice you have given me and the useful advice I have read that you have given to other people! :!

And thanks to all the others that regularly give advice and support!

[Kidstrack2]

hi mears, glad you are staying, i have directed many friends to this site because as i say there is a resident midwife! But you are great giving up your spare time to answer all of our many questions. I had both my children at I think the hospital you work in!

[snafu]

Mears, you are super-fab. I know we haven't 'spoken' much but for obvious reasons I've always watched your posts with interest and, truly, if I can be half the midwife you are, I'll be a very happy bunny indeed (not to mention how the women I care for will feel!) And yes, you might well give conflicting advice and that's precisely why you're so great, because you know one size rarely fits all.

Pour yourself another glass and ponder the evening's activities

[hub2dee]

I'm sure they'll be completely contradictory and that it will take you 3 years to get your story straight.

Big



LOL @ bubble's lardy arses up a hill.

Maybe turn off the PC and go and, ahem, discuss physical education strategies with dh, mears ?



(Told you RL was better).

[bubble99]

There could be a potential publishing deal here mears. In an ideal world pregnant women should be able to access qualified information at any time. During all of my pregnancies I phoned the hospital and spoke to MW's on the ante-natal ward. Bet they loved me 'phoning at 2am with an emergency 'I think I may have eaten a piece of Brie' drama. [first pregnancy only BTW]

There are lots of pregnancy books on the market. One written and regularly updated by someone with your knowledge, experience and approachability (it would shine through even in text) would be a must-have.

I appreciate that every woman is different and that a book is no replacement for 'face time' with a MW, but as you know 'face time' is becoming harder to get. My own sorry experience proves that point.

The books I've come across are either written by people with an interest in the subject or by non-practising professionals. At the other of the scale are obstetric text books which are too much to wade through for people without medical training.

Just a thought. Now, where was I? Oh yes, ASSIGNMENT!!

XXX

[Guardianangel]

Mears, you just stay where you are. Its great that you feel good about discipling yourself on the old MN. JUST WANT TO ASK YOU.............ARE YOU MEANT TO BE DOING YOUR ASSIGNMENT RIGHT NOW? IF SO STOP CHATTING AND GET ON WITH IT!!! Im watching over yoooooou!

[moondog]

Pleasedon'tgo
Don't go-o-o-o-o

I'm begging you to stay
Heh heh heh!!!!!

[mears]

I wonder if all my comments were put together - would I actually give conflicting advice? Answers are tailored to individuals therefore they may not be the same. Just a thought...

[mears]

I've just had a take away curry and am sipping yet another glass of wine. I will ponder on some kind of physical activity.....DH will be pleased . It is Father's day after all

[myermay]

Message withdrawn

[bubble99]

I'll join the lifestyle change too. Instead of the sponsored 'Big Toddle' we could do a 'Big Waddle' I can almost hear us now, puffing up a hill somewhere

[Chandra]

I second Aloha's idea, a book by Mears would be great. I just imagine "Mears on pregnancy" as a title, and a compilation of all Mears' good advice in Mumsnet. It will save her some time too she just can answer please refer to page...

[bubble99]

Rest assured mears if I find you hanging around here too much I shall say 'Assignment?' And give you a virtual stern look.

[hub2dee]

You're a kind person, generous of your time and so obviously passionate about your profession.

Thanks for the offer of CATTing you or asking more qs. DW is doing well BTW, over 82 / 84 last couple of readings and only on weekly assessment, which is great.

If you want to lose weight in a healthy way, and also get out more, maybe that could be one of your focuses for stuff to do in RL ? I dunno - a rambling club ? Local speed walking ? Any good at tennis ? Can you ride a bike ?

(I honestly should be the last person giving advice on this. but if you like we'll kick off a lifestyle change together. I could deffo do with less pounds and more movement. )

[Twiglett]

Mears I missed this but add my voice to the 'I think you're fab' crowd of course

BUT, I do think if you feel you need to slow down your addiction, you deserve to

... I say that quite cockily in the sure and certain knowledge that it won't last

addiction is a terrible thing

[mears]

Rest assured I will be following Dee's progress with interest and don't hesitate to ask if you need something clarified. If I am not around you are always free to CAT me. That goes for any of you by the way

[hub2dee]

Hey mears, is it normal that my wife's....



It's good to focus on RL. Pick up the phone and call some old friends, or organise a BBQ next weekend, or think of someone you really like as a friend with whom you've lost touch and phone / write / track 'em down. Throw a brunch, organise a picnic, check out a local concert.... there's loads to do out there and I'm sure you'll think of a bunch of fun things to do very quickly !

Now, about this assignment of yours...

[fastasleep]

Phew!

[MarsLady]

[Cooperoo]

Yay

[moondog]

Me too,Mears! Like you I have vowed to cut down on MN (unlike you, I only post tripe anyway) but popping in for a quick look (honest! ) saw this and have to add my voice to the herd's. You are fantastic,a source of inspiration to so many of us.

We will treasure you even more if we know your visits will be less frequent. It will be like having our own MN royalty!
Practice those curtsies ladies!!!

[hunkermunker]

Fab!

[Puff]

• glad you're staying mears.