Thanks all of you.
I'm very lucky in that we have got a playroom, although still toys everywhere!
I think I'm on top of the laundry, sort of, an actually don't mind ironing - if I have to do 1 job, that's what I'd choose to do over the others.
Dh has said loads of times I can get a cleaner, but I just don't fancy it. I can get a babysitter for £4ph, but a cleaner is £12ph, so that annoys me to start off, plus I can't bear the thought of someone in the house - especially if I'm there. We had one before (before kids, when we both worked ft) & she was useless, plus I found it really difficult even asking her to do stuff, let alone complaining about anything. I just can't break through my negative feelings about one.
Back to the house - apart from my floors, which are disgusting - we have tiles mostly & in theory easy to clean, but permanently filthy.
but the biggest problem is general untidyness - there's just crap everywhere - unopened letter on the (very small) kitchen workbench, folders not put away, magazines, books, more letter on the table, every surface just seems to be a magnet for crap crap crap, and the worse it gets, the more I can't face tackling it. And this is the sort of stuff a cleaner can't fix. Or is it?
btw Crunchie - what a fab mum to get you such a great present - I didn't get sod all off mine!