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I wnet to church today for the 1st time in ages

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codswallop · 17/10/2004 13:58

and thought about nutty
wonder if thats would solve your sunday probs.
It deos give sunday some purpose and the dsses LOVEd it!

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shortcake · 17/10/2004 17:20

Lonelymum - I wouldn't go to a church where I didn't have respect for the Vicars teaching and beliefs etc. But Vicars can't be everything to everyone and so the whole church needs to pull together to make a healthy community.

Essbee - I wouldn't think twice about someone coming to church who is "on their own" - I would hope that we would be accepting and welcoming of anyone who came throught the door. If you receive negative comments or a poor welcome - then try another church - the people in it have obviously forgotten what is all about.

tortoiseshell · 17/10/2004 17:28

We go every week, and ds is really reaping the benefits - he loves sunday school, and they do lots of craft type things and I just know that at home we wouldn't have got the scissors and coloured pencils out - would probably have played trains for the umpteenth time this week. Dd likes the creche, and it is good for her to have a range of people looking after her, as she tends towards clinginess.

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codswallop · 17/10/2004 18:06

But nutty it doesnt matter if you dont beleieve! ( and I know!)
it woudl give your kids a nice time at sunday school and you could sit in p and q fro an hour

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codswallop · 17/10/2004 18:06

yes sb I went all alonio!

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Bunglie · 17/10/2004 18:20

I often 'go to church' I have been to all sorts of denominations, but I like the ones with a nice 'structured' service, tradional hymnsand not too much 'happy clappy' and halleluha's. But I think it is such a personal thing and you go where you feel comfortable and happy....
I just like it when I can walk out of a the church door, after the service and I have a 'nice warm feeling of peace and tranquillity' in my tummy and I feel as if I can tackle the world...until I see the ironing pile I left at home!!
I also like to 'sing a long' to Songs of Praise on a Sunday. It always cheers me up!
I think Religion is such a personal thing I would not dream of 'knocking' anyones spiritual views and in return I hope that they will respect mine. I just don't normally tell people, so I have come out of the closset (again!)

Thomcat · 17/10/2004 18:33

Wish I'd gone. Crap day, might have been better if I'd started with some peaceful reflection time at church. I'm not massively religious but going to church calms me, makes me reflecgt on my life, how I'm being and treating others. Lottie loves it like lots of young kids.
Loads of people are on theie own, I often go on miy own, sometimes take Lottie, sometimes ned to be on my own. Essbee no-one looks at me funny and I have akid and no wedding ring, they took my confirmation like that!

roisin · 17/10/2004 18:34

Glad you had a good experience this am Coddy. Dh is a Baptist Minister, so we kind of have to go every week

I'm a Christian, so would go anyway, but today I really wanted to be somewhere else, and deeply resented the fact that we had to be here

nutcracker · 17/10/2004 18:36

Hmmm i'll give it some thought Coddy, honest.

So how do you decide which church to go to then anyway ???

Yorkiegirl · 17/10/2004 18:40

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myermay · 17/10/2004 18:57

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tortoiseshell · 17/10/2004 19:13

At dh's church this morning, he said it was very very peaceful, and that the curate had spoken in his sermon about how difficult it is sometimes not to rage at God, and spoke about when his son was born - at first they thought he was fine, but then discovered he had Downs Syndrome, so he spoke about coming to terms with that, and his acceptance. Which I guess is moving to listen to, even if you're not religious.

tortoiseshell · 17/10/2004 19:14

Reading that back it looks really clumsy - 'thought he was fine' - what I mean is that it wasn't immediately obvious that he had Downs Syndrome.

fisil · 17/10/2004 19:21

Ds loves going to church, and it gets me through the w/end too (and DP gets some time to himself). Ds rejected a plate of peanut butter on toast when he heard church was on offer, and jumped up saying "song, song". Another toddler was apparently there 20 minutes early as when his mum said they were going to church he'd got himself ready and she couldn't contain his excitement any longer!

Today was the day that our baby was due, so I packed ds off to a friend for the entire service (with the creche you get them in for little bits), so that I could have some quiet reflective time. It was wonderful - I really needed that to help me close down that part of my life and move on.

I am quite religious, but I agree with what people are saying. Whatever you believe, chuch on a Sunday is a great way to pass the morning, give some structure to the w/end and provide R&R time!

ladymuck · 17/10/2004 19:26

Essbee, many churches will have people of all backgrounds and circumstances. Dh and I lead a midweek group at a church in Croydon, and in our group we have 2 divorced guys, one couple who were divorced for 5 years and then remarried and one couple who are going to Relate. As for those turning up on a Sunday, there are loads of instances of children going with just one parent - and certainly one of the divorced guys from our group will bring along his sons when he has them over for the weekend. Many churches tend to be more relaxed about children than when we were that age, so people are less hung up if there are young children munching crisps during the service.

donnie · 17/10/2004 19:57

we go to church most weeks and dd loves the creche and sunday club, especially the biscuits afterwards!She seems to quite like the family service once a month too. She isn't yet three, but she is getting to know words and ideas to do with religion and she has little bible story books at home.So she already feels comfortable in the environment which we are pleased about. BTW Lonelymum - go for it! if you want to go, do it. You don't have to get all involved and social.Sit at the back so you can slip in and out easily! but don't be shy.
I think people go to church for all kinds of reasons, but they do need to keep going otherwise there won't be any churches left ! ( worst case scenario but it could happen eventually).Lots of people go on occasions with particular significance (Christmas etc) and usually enjoy it.

unicorn · 17/10/2004 20:21

I go to church usually every week, most times it is fairly nondescript etc.
Today there was a guy, (priest actually!) missionary in Columbia, and he just woke everyone up, with his humour/insight and experience of life, in the 'real' sense.
Wish it was always like this.

nutcracker · 17/10/2004 20:37

Don't know what i'd be looking for in a church really, have never been in one long enough to decide.

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codswallop · 17/10/2004 21:00

I an a vicars daughter sos have a LOT fo expereince of church!
the service today was ok - ropey sermon though but dsses want t go back

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Tommy · 17/10/2004 21:35

I don't find it relaxing at all! In fact, I think it's the most stressful thing I do all week. DH stays at home and cleans the bathroom and pushes the hoover around and I take DSs. Fortunately I have lots of friends there including DS1's Godmother and we share the care of the 2 of them between us but mostly I feel "Thank God I got through that without any major disturbances" by the end. I always need to go out for a walk on my own when I get home - normally all the way to the Co-op to buy the papaer but it's about the only time I get to myself all week!

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