Advice plse..

[unicorn]

Briefly (and I'm afraid that is not in my nature!!!)
my oldest sister is, and always has been, very nosy (for want of a better word).
My siblings (and me) have always let her get away with it- probably because she is the eldest.
BUT..Tonight she came over to babysit for me + dh(that is another strand!), and it is almost as though she expects to have full run over my house, my things,my privacy etc.
Question is, without having a MAJOR epic row, (which we tend to do in my family).. How do I tell her NOT to nosy around my things/property.
a) without offending her, and b) losing her as a babysitter (and we have next to none of those anyway?)

How about going half-way - such as say you don't mind her rifling through you clothes if she'd like to try anything on, but to please not go in your drawers as there are some things you'd like to keep private. Then you'd both know where you stand, and if she does go where you've asked her not to, then you'll have to say something a little stronger.
It's better to say something rather than quietly seeth - and you don't want to lose a babysitter!

Any chance of getting together with your other siblings and having a chat with her about privacy? Or don't mention it but organise a paid babysitter when you need one.

thanks everyone (very civil idea bobs!) I will ponder- but plse can I urgently redirect you to Tammy's thread.. think she need some chat NOW.

Oh this would annoy me so much. I agree with the suggestion to put all sensitive paperwork etc in your bedroom and lock the door. Can you say it's because your children have been playing around with your paperwork and breaking things? You don't want your sister to have to keep an eagle eye on them while she's round, so it's easier on her if the important stuff is locked away.....

You could also leave lots of less personal but still interesting paperwork lying around - some of your children's school stuff perhaps or notes on choosing a nursery, or travel brochures, with a few prospective choices marked. Ask her if she'd mind looking through it, as you would value her opinion? anything to keep her busy an off your back!

If it were me I would leave a few choice items out for her to find "rabbit" "handcuffs" things of that nature. Hopefully she will be so embarrassed she won't go snooping again. When I was a teenager my mum and brother were always snooping in my room and my mum used to open my mail including a steamy letter from DP so I know how you feel.

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