Do people like to Flirt?

[SimonHoward]

As per PamT's request here is a thread to do with flirting and if anyone wants to be flirted with please feel free to start.

In real life I'm actually a 6'6" Adonis with loads of money.

Or was that all a dream?

Joking aside, I have always been able to flirt with women or talk to them about work matters but when it come to the crunch and I wanted to chat them up I always choked.

I'm not exactly what you would call shy, more reserved (well I was).

Flirting is great when you both know you're 'only' flirting, but you can stray in to difficulties if one person is actually serious...
Then again, it rather spoils the spontaneity of the flirting moment if you have to give the small print first. (I love my husband and I'm just enjoying a harmless little flirt with you!)
I am a terrible flirt with 'safe' male friends, but speechless if it starts to get serious or if someone comes on to me.

Hurrah for this topic. I am a terrible flirt (ie I flirt all of the time and am terrible with it) and I absolutely love it.

As a v. happy, smug married Mum, flirting is my favourite hobby (along with my fantasies about George Clooney - hence the nickname!) In fact, I would go so far as to say they have helped my relationship with dh.

And cyber-fliritng is fantastic. E-mails are great for that sort of thing

A friend of mine in the USA was quite amazed that the person I flirt the most with is DW.

For some reason people think flirting with your partner is not normal.

This reminds me of a true story...
This woman was using the Net for chatting and flirting, so on. She started talking to a guy who seemed to like everything she liked. She loved cats, so did he, she was a soppy romantic, he sent her virtual flowers, she liked men in uniforms, he was a fireman, etc,etc. However soon things got spooky when he started asking her who she had been emailing the night before, what she bought with the £40 she had taken out of her account the day before, etc. He had hacked into her computer, made easy because she had no firewalls, and was able to read her email messages, her bank account details, every site she visited (hence he knew she liked cats as she had visited cat websites), basically everything she used her pc for, he knew about. He hounded her for months before she found out what he was doing, by then he had her name, address, telephone number, friends addresses, etc. The police never did catch him.

So is there something you are not telling us here Simon?!!

Rhubarb

Yes there is, that guy is a way better hacker than I am. I can't even get onto ones that I know the passwords too half the time.

SimonHoward
are you American?

Cam

I'm British

SimonH:
I don't like wolf whistles because it's demeaning and threatening. Maybe you wouldn't mean it that way if you wolf-whistled, but a lot of men do. it especially felt threatening when I was 12 yo and "old" guys in knackered old cars would pull over the side of the road to talk to me. Not that I'm especially cute, that's just a common thing that happens to lone girls/women where I grew up. Admiration is best expressed privately, not shouted in a way that seems to imply a DEMAND for response.

To me, getting whistled out or getting groped as I cycled down the road or being jumped as I walk home from work are all things that were inflicted on me, beyond my control or much influence, and on the same unpleasant continuous spectrum.

er, on topic... I would say the thing about FLIRTing is that it's subtle, usually clever, one-to-one, private, and somewhat under the control of both partners in a "safe" and neutral environment. Getting wolf-whistled at as I walk down the road is none of those things. It's therefore harrassment.

Zebra

I totally agree with not making any sort of demands or implying them by wolf whistling/shouting etc.

People trying to grope or jump on others is just wrong, a number of female friends have had that sort of behaviour happen to them and I seeth in fury when I find out. My instinctive behaviour is to find these men and beat them to a pulp, but I restrain myself.

If a man is that desperate then they should go pay for it rather than forcing their attentions or worse on anyone, and especially someone who is too young or to inexperienced to be able to deal with them properly.

I have never wolf whistled myself but I have made my attraction to members of the opposite sex known in an open way before. I have always tried to make it in what I think is a non-harrassing manner. I will now have to rethink what I have done and see if it could have been taken in that light or if women would have seen it as harrasment.

I don't think that flirting should only happen in a 1-1, safe enviroment. I have previously flirted with more than one woman at at time in the same location and they seemed to enjoy it as much as I did.