My 22 year old daughter is 27 weeks pregnant.She has been with the father (25 yo) for over a year, known each other for over a year before getting together. they both work full time and rent a place together. The father is a lovely lad, hard worker, very shy and doesn't 'talk' about things. My daughter is v independent and had left home and rented her own place from age 20 but this is his first time living away from home. The pregnancy was unplanned but they sat and wrote a for's and against's list and decided they would cope.
The problem is when he gets in from work he does virtually nothing around the house, he sits and plays on his phone or playstation-thing all night. My daughter does the cooking (almost always, he might occasionally) but his mum used to do everything for him so he doesn't know how to use a washing machine, won't tidy up after himself, doesn't like it when he's asked to help out etc.. My daughter is getting very unhappy and so a few days ago my husband and I, who get on with him very well indeed, said to him that he needs to start thinking about helping out and at least offering to wash up and pick his own clothes up off the floor. He said he would, but several days on nothing has changed at all. We had hoped that he might have realised that a pregnant young woman would need help but apparently he's oblivious to it.
I don't want it to get to the point where my daughter has had enough and tell him to go because he is a decent lad, but how on earth do we get through to him that this is the 21st century and all housework is not down to the woman? His parents are lovely, but should I/we mention something to them, or just keep on gently cajoling him, or what?
I'm really concerned that his thoughtlessness will ruin the relationship, and they have so much going for them other than this but he really needs to grow up. Advice please...