So annoyed about it - saw a mum teaching baby to swear!!!

[Hulababy]

Title says it all really. I went on the tram shopping today and had 23mo Dd with me. We sat at one of the few places you can have the pushchair, opposite a young couple with a child - maybe about 18-20mo little girl (younger than DD but with a reasonable attemot at talking) - and a woman opposite who was with them.

For the whole 20 minute journey they kept asking the little girl to say all manner of swear words - okay not the most extreme ones but things like bgger, Dckhead, p*ss, you get the idea... And they were finding it all so hugely amusing.

I was so cross about it that I got up and moved seats - even though it meant putting pushchair down and sitting DD on me knee. When moving to another seat I did say to DD "let's go and sit over there sweetie. We don't want you learning words like that, it isn't nice" They just laughed at that and commented on my DD being a "posh girl"! I didn't have the courage to say anything direct at all. I didn't dare say anything to them (got the impression that wouldn't have gone down well), and I did feel bad for not saying something.

I just feel so sorry for that poor innocent little girl. How is she going to be brought up?

I am sure I am not on my own with this thinking. Just needed to rant somewhere where I am not at risk of being hit!

Wow. That's disgusting. And I thought I was bad for telling my cousin cows were big rats that went squeak squeak...

That's so sad, I swear occasionally, but try and encourage children to be expressive.(hwo the clouds look, the grass on a early morning..think there should be a no swearing day, like there is a no smoking day, smiling week and so on...do you think the present government would allow this?

sad, sad, sad

Sounds like they could be the same couple my dh sat near in a service station the other day, who kept calling their 2 year old "nobhead". If they are like this in public.....

How utterly depressing.

Friend and I were at a childrens party on Saturday at local Brewsters.

A bloke was trying to "persuade" his child (2/3yo) to put his coat on to go - and I quote "put this on, you fg little bd" (son trying to run away) "if you don't put it on, I'm going to fg punch you so f**g hard!!!"

I just cannot believe the way some "parents" talk to their kids - it makes me sick

my fil keeps calling my 6mnth old son a little bgger and my bil feeps saying tell them to f off i have told them off on to many occations to remember so now i tell them if he starts coming out with words like that after i tell him its a rude word and you shouldnt say things like that i will be comeing after those 2 they both laugh and say that he dont understand wha there saying so my mil opens her mouth telling them in no uncertain terms that if there going to speak then speak not swear
what makes me laugh they say that he dont understand my fil called him fat once and ds cryied his eyes out and refused to eat or drink anything that day so the next time i saw them i told mil what happened and she hit the roof with the both of them (lovely woman vial temper if you upset her) and they have called him fat ever since and me and mil keep saying to him what a big boy your getting your going to be as big as your dady soon which he loves and for some reason eats more wich is a yes yes yes i dont think it matters what the age you should teach your children to swear and alway correct them when they do
fair enough i slip up at time if im lossing it but i always say mummy sware naughty mummy and tap my hand its never to young to teach good amnner and now i just realised i have been rambling
SORRY

In the park yesterday, there was a man with 3 young daughters, and I was watching them thinking how lovely it was to see a dad playing with his children like that. And then he started calling one of them 'pigface'. That quite upset me, but is nothing compared to this. This is shocking and horrible.

This thread is so sad. Some people should not be allowed to have kids. These poor children are going to grow up into people like their parents. So much for a classless society, there will always be an underclass.

Just reread that, what I mean is most of the people I hear swearing at children look and sound rough and uneducated. Their children will most likely be the same. Hope that's not too much of a generalisation.

That is awful - how horrible to have to witness that Hula.

When I was pg with ds I got asked regularly by students whether I was going to teach my baby to swear because they think it's really funny to hear a tiny baby saying f* etc. So I can believe it, but it doesn't make it any less awful.

My next door neighbour is a bit of a madam (not professionally I hope.) She always has her sons teenage friends in the house for drink and ciggies - lovely.

Anyway one of her other sons gets his children some weekends (though not recently I noticed.) They stay at her house and it has been made clear to us that our house should belong to him. The little boy was always a toerag and I dreaded his visits until I heard this.

"Gran" to the mother - "He has been a little fer this weekend. He is nothing but a stupid little b**d!" This said right in front of the boy (aged about 7.)

I was really shocked. First of all if anyone said that to me about either of my ds twins (let alone in front of them) I would floor them - verbally of course!

I started being really nice to the little boy, smiling at him and basically not ignoring him. Big behaviour improvement in regards to respecting our property. So it proved a point, behaviour is down to what is expected. And if swearing at them or calling them names is what is constant in their lives then that is how they will in turn behave.

Long story over!

I swear quite regularly and have to make a conscious effort to remember not to do this in front of dd.

I think the most upsetting thing about this incident is that it shows a lack of respect for the child - making her the butt of their puerile humour

Once more, I completely echo what everyone is saying. It is sad and cruel. I would have reacted the same, wanted to say something but wouldn't have for fear of being beaten up! People like that usually react in a pretty predicable way.