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Anyone else's dh get sniffy about time spent on Mumsnet?

29 replies

marthamoo · 11/09/2003 23:09

And if so...any solutions (apart from the non-starter of spending less time on Mumsnet)?

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zebra · 12/09/2003 00:03

Are you telling me your DH never pisses about on the computer himself?

EmmaTMG · 12/09/2003 07:13

I told DH yesterday "this was on only escape to the outside world most days so let me on the PC."
I'm a SAHM to DS1+2 and 39 weeks PG so this comment made him feel suitable guilty and he removed his backside from the chair pretty sharpish!

doormat · 12/09/2003 08:51

send him to the pub I do,

wickedstepmother · 12/09/2003 09:17

Most of the time DH is happy to be left to commandeer the remote control for a couple of hours

fio2 · 12/09/2003 09:19

He doesnt know I spend so much time on here He works away in the week but at weekends I tend to only pop onto Mumsnet quickly. Like doormat says send him down the pub and be encouraging of his hobbies

CountessDracula · 12/09/2003 09:40

Learn to type very very fast!

Jenie · 12/09/2003 09:55

Wise words from the Countess! I did a course on touch typing and so can now type faster than I used to.

Encourage hobbies or get a lap top or another computer so both of you can use one at the same time.

Linnet · 12/09/2003 21:24

My dh works most evenings so I spend my time browsing mumsnet and catching up with friends. Even on the evenings when my dh is home after dinner I go on the Pc and he plays his PS2. He only uses the Pc very occasionally and doesn't really understand how to work his way around the internet properly, no idea about search engines etc and I in return haven't the faintest idea how to work his ps2.

tallulah · 13/09/2003 11:44

Mine chooses to speak to me- at great length- the minute I log on to mumsnet... When I'm not on the computer he completely ignores me & plants himself in front of the TV. His other favourite habit is to say "who are you writing to?" EVERY DAY! I mutter through gritted teeth "I'm not writing TO anyone, I'm on mumsnet", so he'll come & read over my shoulder... GRRRRRR!!!!

rainbow · 13/09/2003 12:37

Yes he does marthamoo and yes I am zebra. He can just about turn it on let alone surf the net! I just log on while he watches footie!

Claireandrich · 13/09/2003 13:06

My DH always decides that it is a good time for a chat when I go on to Musnet too! He never really uses the computer so that isn't an issue. IIf he starts bugging me too much I always suggest he watches a DVD - one of the ones I don't fancy but he does, kind of thing.

My other solution was to get Broadband. I can now go on during the day (on my days off) when he isn't around.

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marthamoo · 13/09/2003 14:06

DH reads over my shoulder too - it drives me mad. Unfortunately he is a computer whizz, it's his PC, and he would spend all night on it given half a chance. He of course would be doing useful, important and life-enhancing things like downloading every obscure indie track from the 80s he can find. Whereas I am "talking to a lot of people I don't even know about boring baby stuff." Grrrr.

We do have broadband so I can go on in the day for free, and indeed he often says "you've had all day to do that!"...yeah, right, 'cos I have nothing to do all day but sit around, eat chocolate and surf the net. Try telling that to ds2 who takes my logging on as a God given signal to climb on my head, press all the keys, delete my emails and turn the PC off mid-program.

As he had had a real go on Thursday night I thought I would make the effort and spend the evening with him. We had an Indian and a bottle of wine. At some point in the evening he managed to commandeer the remote control (fatal, as you all know) and we ended up watching NME Top 10 hits on MTV2. I tried to read the newspaper but he kept bloody talking to me and the music was too loud. Then Jackass (sends dh into Beavis/Butthead routine "hurr hurrr, hurr hurrr" ) came on so I gave up and went to bed in disgust.

Jeez, if that's the best he can offer for a fun night of quality time together I'll stick to Mumsnet..

Sorry, bit of a rant there...af arrived today and I'm ready to kill. Hormones, eh ?

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bunny2 · 13/09/2003 22:46

Dh used to be a bit sniffy. I think it was a bit of paranoia, he imagined us all getting together to slag men off. When I showed him the threads I mostly used and the messages of support when I announced my long-awaited pregnancy, he changed his opinio fast. Now hew can appreciate Mumsnet is a valuable source of support and advice not an anti-men chatroom.

Podmog · 14/09/2003 06:47

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EmmaTMG · 14/09/2003 07:22

Podmog......have you seen my post at the start of this thread......try saying that to your DH, it works everytime for me!!!!

codswallop · 14/09/2003 07:46

very he banned me for a while

CountessDracula · 14/09/2003 09:16

No, coddy! How did he enforce it? Changed the password on the pc?

My dh doesn't seem to mind, I am mainly on in the day when he's at work (and I am supposed to be too). I do nip up for a quick look a couple of times during the evening but he doensn't even notice most of the time.

He alternates between thinking that mumsnet is a good thing and thinking that i'm a bit of a saddo I think! Like I care...

Hughsie · 14/09/2003 09:29

My dh thinks it is amusing when i just seem to be'posting for the sake of it!' - his words not mine but he likes the idea of asking questions - I think he appreciates that it is a good support network but he does say sarky things like just now when he has taken the boys out for an hour and suggested I have a nice bath or waste the hour on here!!! I will now have to go a lounge in the bath of course!

codswallop · 14/09/2003 10:57

ditto H.
MIne thought some pieces of advice re. hols etc was good but dislikes me prefacing any statement with..well somene on Mn.. So i pretend its someone else.

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marthamoo · 14/09/2003 12:22

Coddy, I do that too! It does get shocking how many of my sentences these days would start with "oh a woman on Mumsnet...."

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Bozza · 14/09/2003 15:50

I just say "I saw it on the internet..."

Hughsie · 14/09/2003 16:03

I'm the same with that too - or I usually cant remember who told me but.....

He has been impressed at been able to find out other peoples experiences though especially with major milestones such as potty training and advice on sleep and illnesses - it is so comforting to know other people are going through the same thing - also the anonymity promotes honesty that you sometimes dont get face to face.

I think it is the 'other subjects' that annoy him - addiction to silly tv programmes and the interest we have in celebrity - he is always curious too really!

WideWebWitch · 14/09/2003 21:42

My dp is OK with it although admits it has sometimes got on his nerves. He's not here if I'm posting during the day though. He's probably going to be a SAHD next year and he's already worked out what his mumsnet name is going to be so I think we can safely say he trusts the advice here...

Claireandrich · 14/09/2003 21:50

Glad I am not the only one who starts sentences like that! I have started just started saying I saw it on the net, or someone told me (avoiding the MN word) so it doesn't seem that I spend all my time on here!!!

currantbunmum · 15/09/2003 20:54

At last! I am now able to write a message and read some threads without having dp sat behind me "reading" a book! I usually hate being by myself when he is on call, but it seems it does have at least one plus