Newborn Baby

[sam21901]

Hello, my baby is is a week old and we are having trouble on a night to get him to sleep. We haven't gave him a dummy yet because i've been told that it's not good for a baby. However i have seen many people give their baby's dummy's at a young age. Would love some advice on this, i am a first time parent.

I didn't give a dummy because I was concerned it might mean I missed baby's feeding cues. Why exactly are you wanting to give a dummy? Are you bottle or fomula feeding? Congratulations on your little one, is it a boy or a girl?

I've just had dd2, she's 2 weeks old. We've chosen to give a dummy this time round. Dd1 used me for comfort and was a nightmare to settle. I really resisted a dummy and by the time I tried she wouldn't take it. Dd2 is much easier to settle anyway but she's taken a dummy really well and it hasn't caused any nipple confusion, she's still feeding well. My advice would be do what works for you. If you want to give a dummy a try then go for it

The lullaby trust recommend using a dummy until 6 months if that helps?

We used one from about a week and successfully ditched it around 7 months, my daughters choice, not mine.

I mainly used it for comfort in the early days and then just nap time and bedtime when she was older. I think they're great.

How is he fed and where is he sleeping?

Using a dummy is recommended as a box ticked to prevent SIDS...
Congratulations on your baby. Remember everyone is a novice with their first. Trial and error and don't feel bad if your friend's baby apparently sleeps 12 hours /never cries /hasn't given her cracked nipples!!
Sometime's dm's lie!!

Apparently newer research says a dummy is actually good for keeping the airway nice and open, as well as soothing the baby. I'd do it if I needed to

Use one if you want to - they are supposed to slightly lessen SIDs risk. Used one with mine then ditched it at about three months.

Are you breast or formula feeding?

My DS has one

From the lullaby trust...

Some research suggests that it is possible that using a dummy when putting a baby down to sleep could reduce the risk of sudden infant death.

From the NHS....

It's possible using a dummy at the start of a sleep also reduces the risk of SIDS. But the evidence isn't strong and not all experts agree that dummies should be promoted.

The possibility that a dummy might lessen the risk of SIDS would be enough for me to decide to give one.

I would try one. My DD is nearly four months now and would suck one for a few seconds once in a while but generally rejected them instantly. If she had liked a dummy or been comforted by it I would happily have let her have one.

Have you heard of the Moro reflex? My DD struggled to sleep due to that. Swaddling her helped initially but it was then too hot so we ended up co sleeping.

@sausagerole

I didn't give a dummy because I was concerned it might mean I missed baby's feeding cues. Why exactly are you wanting to give a dummy? Are you bottle or fomula feeding? Congratulations on your little one, is it a boy or a girl?

Thankyou and we are bottle feeding but with breast milk and it's because we are having trouble with him on a night with sleeping. Also, we had a boy and he's just over a week old, what about you?x

@Survivingmy3yearold

I've just had dd2, she's 2 weeks old. We've chosen to give a dummy this time round. Dd1 used me for comfort and was a nightmare to settle. I really resisted a dummy and by the time I tried she wouldn't take it. Dd2 is much easier to settle anyway but she's taken a dummy really well and it hasn't caused any nipple confusion, she's still feeding well. My advice would be do what works for you. If you want to give a dummy a try then go for it

okay thankyou for the advice it really helps x

@Ohalrightthen

How is he fed and where is he sleeping?

he is fed by bottle and sleeps in a moses basket x

@AllTheNames

The lullaby trust recommend using a dummy until 6 months if that helps?

We used one from about a week and successfully ditched it around 7 months, my daughters choice, not mine.

I mainly used it for comfort in the early days and then just nap time and bedtime when she was older. I think they're great.

okay thankyou for your advice really helps x

@Elvesinquarantine

Using a dummy is recommended as a box ticked to prevent SIDS... Congratulations on your baby. Remember everyone is a novice with their first. Trial and error and don't feel bad if your friend's baby apparently sleeps 12 hours /never cries /hasn't given her cracked nipples!! Sometime's dm's lie!!

okay thankyou so much for the advice x

@goldenharvest

Apparently newer research says a dummy is actually good for keeping the airway nice and open, as well as soothing the baby. I'd do it if I needed to

okay thankyou x

@bluebearss

Use one if you want to - they are supposed to slightly lessen SIDs risk. Used one with mine then ditched it at about three months.

Are you breast or formula feeding?

we are bottle feeding but pumping off breast milk and thankyou for advice really helps x

@Isabelle99

My DS has one

okay thank you x

@FundamentallyFucked

From the lullaby trust...

Some research suggests that it is possible that using a dummy when putting a baby down to sleep could reduce the risk of sudden infant death.

From the NHS....

It's possible using a dummy at the start of a sleep also reduces the risk of SIDS. But the evidence isn't strong and not all experts agree that dummies should be promoted.

The possibility that a dummy might lessen the risk of SIDS would be enough for me to decide to give one.

okay thankyou so much really helps x

@EnglishRain

I would try one. My DD is nearly four months now and would suck one for a few seconds once in a while but generally rejected them instantly. If she had liked a dummy or been comforted by it I would happily have let her have one.

Have you heard of the Moro reflex? My DD struggled to sleep due to that. Swaddling her helped initially but it was then too hot so we ended up co sleeping.

okay thankyou so much for your advice it really does help x

Babies don’t generally sleep at night at 1 week old. They can have their days and nights mixed up for about 6 weeks. I know that probably doesn’t help much but not sleeping at night is VERY normal for a baby x

Lots of newborns don't really settle in a separate basket or cot and they have no sense of night and day at 1 week old. Don't expect sleep to come mostly at night and sleep when the baby is sleeping for now. You could try a cosleeping cot or similar.

Also, are you planning to try and transition back to breast, or are you committed to expressing? Are you getting any support with feeding? Breastfeeding direct would save you time and faff and make it safer to cosleep, potentially.

@anothernc4you

Babies don’t generally sleep at night at 1 week old. They can have their days and nights mixed up for about 6 weeks. I know that probably doesn’t help much but not sleeping at night is VERY normal for a baby x

ive spoken to my friends and they've said the same, he slept better last night only woke up a couple of times and didn't wake up for that long, thankyou for taking the time to write it really helps x

@Respectabitch

Lots of newborns don't really settle in a separate basket or cot and they have no sense of night and day at 1 week old. Don't expect sleep to come mostly at night and sleep when the baby is sleeping for now. You could try a cosleeping cot or similar.

okay thankyou for taking the time to write it really helps x