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Dd2 bitten at nursery today

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Frizbe · 01/08/2008 21:02

Dd2 has been bitten at nursery today, right underneath the eye, very narrow miss, she's in the toddler age group and needless to say I am not impressed. Earlier this year, she gained a scar on the same cheek, after a young boy pinned her down and goudged her with his nail, my concerns were expresed at the time and I had hoped this was the end of the matter. Nursery declinded to say to dh tonight, when he did the pick up, which child was responsible, but dd1 who is in pre school there, witnessed the whole thing (they were all in the playground) and is in no doubt of the culprit. Obviously I'm not going on the word of a 4 year old, just in case she's horribly wrong. But I think the least I should do it write a letter expressing my concerns. I've taken photographic evidence of dd2's bruised face as well, and of course there is record in the accident book. Am I within my rights to ask for the other child to be removed? or should I just ask for his close supervision? ie make sure he stays away from my dd, who is rapidly gaining scars from the toddler group, that will stay with her for life..... for the record, its a top rated nursery and I've had no such bother with dd1, it just seems to be a child in toddlers this time causing my dd2 bother

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georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:00

I think OP needs to be more specific about the age of the children concerned, Aitch, if your DD is old enough to go on about it she must be quite a lot older than I would pitch normal "bitey" age. Ds is 18 months, and as I said, has bitten and been bitten at nursery.

ExterminAitch · 01/08/2008 22:01

she was exactly 2 at the time of the bite... remembers it like it was yesterday.

meridian · 01/08/2008 22:02

I don't think she would actually ask for the other child to be removed..its an idea said when upset.. thats why she is on here... but its a bad bite and what happens if this same kid does it again and breaks the skin... and kids can scar at that age... I have a scar from a bad cut when I was 2.5 ... and DS has one on his cheek from falling down a hill that is still visible after 2 years...

georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:04

"Am I within my rights to ask for the other child to be removed?"

That's what she said.

Aitch I am studden that your 2.5 year old can remember something that happened 6 months ago. Have you brought it up since then?

sophiewd · 01/08/2008 22:05

DD got bitten again today (for the third time), it happens, mine may have done something to provoke it, am going to ask on Monday if it is the same child doing it everytime and maybe suggest that IF the staff can manage it then they need to be separated. It happens.

TeacherSaysSo · 01/08/2008 22:08

meridian, while posters are sympathetic about the bitten child, its very selfish to demand a child is removed from a school because THEIR child was affected. Obviously this is a first time mum, who just needs to be given some perspective i.e. this is normal and it could be your child biting or worse tomorrow!! The mum of the biter is probably mortified but there's nothing she can do but wait for the child to grow out of this phase (and into another one ho ho!)

ExterminAitch · 01/08/2008 22:08

lol, no. she just remembers the drama and outrage and refers to it in moments of boredom. she remembers loads of stuff, though, i think she recalls memories when she was about 18 months. you know, we went to the beach with aunt m and i took off my wellies etc. and you'd think 'blimey, you remember that?!'

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Frizbe · 01/08/2008 22:09

You are being totally unreasonable to think you can request the 'biter' to be excluded. Especially on the word of a 4 year old

ah yes spudbaloo, I do like it how you miss the following sentance from my original post

'Obviously I'm not going on the word of a 4 year old, just in case she's horribly wrong. But I think the least I should do it write a letter expressing my concerns.'

Thank you all for your helpful comments. I shall write said letter expressing my concerns and ask that the situation with the biter and bitee is monitored more closely. For the record the biter is nearly 3, dd2 is heading for 2.5.

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ExterminAitch · 01/08/2008 22:09

i think the OP was just letting off a bit of steam, you're all taking her very seriously.

ExterminAitch · 01/08/2008 22:09

ah, there she is.

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Frizbe · 01/08/2008 22:11

georgimama I also stated straight after 'or should I just ask for his close supervision?' which you are happily missing off your posts in your haste to berate me.
I am a mother of two and a step mum to one for your info and this is the 1st biting incident I have had with any of the kids.

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georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:12

You think biter is 3, you don't know, because no adult has told you who it was.

It is horrible but really, a lot worse will be done to and by DD before very long. Please don't get upset. DD will pick up on it, and that's not good.

georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:13

I'm not in haste to berate you, and I don't give a monkies how many kids you have. You asked, you gave partial info, which you are now clarifying, and people responded accordingly. Get a grip woman.

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Frizbe · 01/08/2008 22:14

true I just have word of dd1, eh well, lets hope this is the last of it.

OP posts:
ExterminAitch · 01/08/2008 22:14

oi oi, she's got a grip... you were all jumping on her.

Original poster
Frizbe · 01/08/2008 22:15

I have a grip thanks and I'm off for the night. Thank you all for your helpful comments.

OP posts:
georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:16

Who's all? I am just me. I am not everyone else. I'm not jumping. When you post on here you seek responses yes? Or is she just looking for complete validation? I don't think that's how MN works.

But I am singled out.

meridian · 01/08/2008 22:16

i'm with Aitch you were definitly jumping on her and ignoring the "or" in her OP...

I'm going now becuse this is the bit I hate about MN this jumping on people ...

take care Frizbe, Aitch...

georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:17

Just me then, none of the other dozen or so posters who thought she was over reacting.

again

TeacherSaysSo · 01/08/2008 22:26

there, there Georgi you're not going mad..Ops don't really like being told they ABU. I think a letter is OTT personally. As a teacher there are too many parents huffing and puffing, writing letters telling us how to do our job. This is typical where a parent has admittedly NO experience of an event (e.g. biting) and yet cannot trust the teachers to deal with it effectiviely when they have years of experience.

Don't waste the letter paper Friz. They will have put the right process in place and have done nothing to make you think otherwise!

georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:28

thankyou Teacher, have an apple

ExterminAitch · 01/08/2008 22:32

georgi... i've posted three times that the OP was getting a hard time, once following a particularly aggressive post of yours. you're taking this waaaaaay too personally. i think saying 'get a grip woman' is very inflammatory, personally.

TeacherSaysSo · 01/08/2008 22:33

gosh, go to the top of the class!

georgimama · 01/08/2008 22:39

To be honest I'm getting a bit farking sick of the over sensitivities both of OPs and on behalf of OPs. The OP asked if asking for the child concerned to be excluded was a reasonable course, and without exception the answer was no. I'm not taking anything personally, I was singled out, now I've been told I am aggressive. Again, and I have never used an emticon so much, .

"Get a grip woman" is mild frankly for these parts I think.

Christie · 01/08/2008 22:43

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