Shortening / changing DS name

[Pearlg]

This could be me being sensitive & PFB etc. I've been struggling with nursery sickness & general discontentment of leaving 2 year old DS into nursery for a few months now - he's okay going in but sometimes has a little cry or cling to me but nothing major & seems to enjoy time there.

Today when dropping him in he went in okay but nursery worker said hello & said DS name in a shortened 'pet' version if you like. I looked at her but never said- now I feel so stupid for not correcting her - I'm not happy with them doing this - how do I approach this- mention at pick up or speak to nursery manager? Don't wanna be that mum but nursery life is stressing me out & this has really annoyed me!

At 2 my dd2 shortened her own name, she knew her full name but preferred we called her a (common) shortening

It’s not the teacher’s business to start changing or shortening a child’s name. That’s up to the parents or the child if they want to be Will instead of William. What would you say if it was a long, complicated foreign name and the teacher just decided to call the child Will instead? Changing a child’s name is disrespectful to the child and parents -unless by their consent or express wish.

What @Malfi said...

Yeah, I still don't think it's a "can't be bothered" if a teacher is using a common nickname for a name. It's a form of affection, usually used between friends.

If you're called Julie and your new friend calls you "Jules", would you think they hadn't bothered to learn your name when you met?

I would mention it. I fully accept my children or their friends shorten (or lengthen) their name, but other adults shouldn’t. Especially when children are so young.

Yes, they can’t be bothered to use my real name because they think their name for me is somehow better. It isn’t. It’s worse. They haven’t bothered to listen and learn that my name is Julie and everyone calls me Julie and I sign myself Julie in emails etc. It’s just rude and slightly offensive to call me something else. The fact that some other people may call themselves Jools is irrelevant.

I guess I wouldn't be offended by it, or think they "couldn't be bothered", I'd just take it as being friendly, correcting them to the name I prefer if it really means that much, and not get so aggravated over something so small, personally.

I would never be offended by this, I find that very strange.

I don’t see it as friendly to wilfully change someone’s name. If I met a Thomas, William or Catherine, never in a million years would I just decide to call them Tom or Will or Kate unless that’s how they introduced themselves. It’s so incredibly rude and I don’t think many people would actually do that. I do have friends who shorten their names, of course, but I take my cue from them.

I think it’s incredibly rude if an adult changes or shortens the name of another adult they’ve just met.

If Julie wanted to be Jules she’d have introduced herself as such.

it depends…one nursery child had to be called Edward not Eddie. We did call him Edward.
his mother insisted that she knew we called him Eddie. We assured her that we didn’t, BUT we did call another Edward Eddie and perhaps that was confusing him.
she didn’t believe us; it was rather trying as she kept repeating her instructions and we kept saying ‘but we don’t call him Eddie’ etc.