My ds is just 4. He'll be starting primary school in Jan.
He has become increasingly upset about going to nursery ( he goes for 4 mornings a week) and TBH leaving him crying is becomming unbearable.
My good friend is an assistant at his nursery, so I have been handing him over to her, who cuddles him...then I just dash out.
He has been going there since he was 2 and a half...but about a year ago we had a new leader...and new assistant (my friend).
My friend told me today that he had been crying...and recently he has become increasingly anxious about singing/dancing, and he follows her about asking if they are going to sing. He burst into tears today, as the leader had told him he had to sing...everyone else is singing so he has to join in.
My friend is in an awkward position, as she told him not to worry...and to sit with her, but then the leader said no..he had to join in. When she said it shouldn't matter if he sits out, the leader said, well it does matter, if he sits out, then everyone will want to sit out...and what is he going to do when he gets up to primary school?....he'll have to join in then...
So....what shall I do? Clearly he is very distressed about singing/dancing...and to be fair..they do lots of it at nursery!
I can't bear the thought of him being so upset, and the tears we have each morning is heart braking.
He told me a few months ago that he didn't like doing one particular song...and I had asked the leader if he could possibly sit out until he felt comfortable with it, to which she replied "yes".
I'm just not sure whether asking if he can sit out of singing/dancing is the right thing to do...or that the leader is right to make him do it
He is only 4 though, and I can't see that singing and dancing is important enough to warrant a sad and anxious little boy who no longer wants to go to nursery because of it.