Am i wrong to take dd out of Nursery?

[Marne]

I have posted about dd's problems with nursery before, i thought that she was just making a fuss and was fine after i had gone but today i picked her up at lunch time and she was at the door crying and waiting for me, all the others were outside playing, i asked a membeer of staff if dd had been ok and the told me she had been upset all morning, not joining in etc (felt like they did'nt realy care) This realy upset me.
I only need her to go once a week while im working (she has been going for 3 days/mornings)

I realy dont know where to go from here, do i take her out?

What other childcare options do i have, i cant aford not to go to work but i dont want dd to be this upset.

She seems to find it hard to mix with people, she has always hated being around females (not sure why), how can i help her get over her shyness?

Feeling realy , i would love her to bew happy and to play other children.

Your brother won't need to be registered as a CM even if looking after her in his own home for pay, because he's a close relation and they are exempt from that rule (unfortunately you also couldn't use childcare vouchers for him, though).

In your position, if your brother wants to do it and you think he'll be good with her then I'd go for that option. But another nursery with older staff or a childminder would be a good alternative. If you've given her plenty of time to settle where she is and she's just not happy then I think you're right to be thinking in terms of a change.

Shes only just 3, she says she does'nt like it there because she is too shy.

A male childminder would be great but the chances of finding one here is slim.

If she only just 3, I don't think its that unusual. How long has she been going. I ask because when I was working in nurseries we found the first term was very hard but after a term most children really did start to settle. If you really want to stick with the nursery, another alternative is perhaps you brother could stay with her at nursery just till she gets the hang of being with other children. (thats always assuming your brothers happy to do that).