What is the consequences of marrying an Arab(Middle East) man.

[BlueGreen]

Would like to know fellow MS`s opinions who are married to an Arab man.

Thanks

Acinonyx,

You are right on he didnt propose me yet! but if i give him the signal he would just do it which is very romantic as you said but we live in a real world huh Altho it shows me how serious he is as he doenst want to mess around( well at least he knwos he cant do that with me )

Ah, so you are a Muslim but not Arab.
That makes things easier but even more important
that you actually get to know his family - and they get to know (and accept!) you.

Glad to hear you are both hugely in love, enjoy it!

However, absolutely make sure you experience his family culture first hand
(and not just a quick weekend visit either!)
and try and consider his marriage proposals as 'love banter' for the time being.

I would not make any marriage commitments before I had met his family, seen how they interact and seen his home first.

Would he want to come and live where you are?
Would you move in with his family?
WOuld you spend most of your days with your inlaws? Would you be able to go out on your own? Would you want to wear traditional dress?
Do you already have a child? If so, will the child be accepted by his family, with whom you most likely would want to live?

Do you know the answer to any of the above questions?

DaddyJ,

I`m not hugely in love to be honest but would love to as he seems a nice guy. Agree, i should treat this as "love banter" for the time being.

Dominion,

I dont think he would love to live here and the other thing is he has his own business in his country so it will be a big NO.

I would move in his country but not with his parents( he doesnt live with his parents he has his own place)

He would like me to involve with his parents and his family I`m sure but, he also knows that I like my own space. So he is aware of what he is involving with

And no I dont have kids but he has two.

Is he divorced? Widowed? Where does his kids live? Would you be their step mum? Have you met them, and how old are they?

He is divorced. And the kids live with there mother but he provides everythign for the kids and his ex!

No, I dont think i will be there step mum but i`m hoping we will have good relationship(finger cross). He has one girl 11 yo and a boy 9yo( or otherway around .

I havent met anyone yet as i said, I just started to get to know him. Altho, I`m invited.

I really don't understand why you are thinking about marriage when you claim not to be 'hugely in love but would like to' and you really don't know him well if you don't know his children's ages.

Relax and enjoy the relationship. You may find you don't like him much after all. Reading between the lines it seems that you are trying to talk yourself into a marriage with him.

Are you on the rebound from a break up?

Please don't take offence as this seems a bit too close to home for me and I don't want you to have regrets.

BlueGreen - sorry to say but I hear some warning bells ringing. As we all know, marriage is a huge step anyway but getting married to someone from a different culture / background makes it even more important to know what you are letting yourself in for.

Maybe you have been to Oman, maybe not but don't assume you could live there quite happily unless you have spent some time there. Holidays are always great, reality is always soooo different.

If it's meant to be, it will be just make sure you REALLY know what you are letting yourself in for.

why did he divorce?
how many times has he been married?
where does he want to live, now and in the future?

Islam gave Arab women rights, compared to what they had before - is he more muslim or more traditional Arab?

It is a slight point against him that he is pushing you to an early marriage. dont be pushed if you arent sure.

Hi. So I’m getting married to a Muslim man from Jordan. I’m Christian and won’t convert. His family is a nightmare and overbearing. He has put his foot down with them. He drinks and doesn’t practice religion but they do. I plan to have kids. I don’t mind if they have the Muslim label because by the time they’re old enough to
understand what that is…his parents will be like in their 70s. But. I do want to know. What kind of issues come up. Other than pressure. I’m nervous to visit and don’t want to go but he wants me to go once. I’m wondering if it’s safe to go if I refuse to convert