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Older mums with teenages and a little one as well.

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AEROBICS · 04/02/2005 15:15

would love to chat to older mums with teenagers as they are not easy at all. i also have a four yr old son.

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noddyholder · 05/02/2005 12:34

thanks ll these are quite positive I have health probs myself but it didn't stop me with ds1 and I would love another not sure if he would help though as he won't even entertain the idea of another child in the house He is a lovely boy and I wouldn't like to spoil that but I am really waiting to see my consultant before I decide (march 1st)Also I am 40 this year so have that to consider

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AEROBICS · 05/02/2005 13:39

MIGHT BE KIND OF GOOD FOR YOUR DS1 TO HAVE A SIBLING, MAYBE A SHOCK AT FIRST THOUGH ! I WAS 41 WHEN MY THIRD CHILD WAS BORN AND 29 WHEN FIRST ONE CAME ALONG.

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suedonim · 05/02/2005 14:40

I'm at the opposite end of the country to you, Aerobic - NE Scotland. It can be difficult juggling different needs but tbh, if you have more than one child you're always going to be trying to accommodate two at once, whatever the age gap. It's just that with a 17yo and an 8yo I'm juggling different balls to someone with, say, a 1yo and 3yo!! Whatever the age gap, some balls always end up getting dropped.

Tiggiwinkle · 05/02/2005 15:31

Aerobics- I have 5 DSs aged 23, 22, 16, 11 and 5 (he will be 6 this month!) so have a wide spectrum of ages and all the problems that go with them! I live in London.

Christie · 05/02/2005 15:34

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noddyholder · 05/02/2005 15:36

silly question but do the older ones like the little one?

anorak · 05/02/2005 15:37

Huh! Christie, how did you do that? I thought you collected my dd1 20 minutes ago and took her to Watford?

Tiggiwinkle · 05/02/2005 15:42

My older ones absolutely adore the little one. They all love babies and were totally involved with him from the moment he was born. Looking after a baby is so much easier when they have much older siblings, because there is always somone to hold/entertain the baby if you are busy. And its quite true-you are never short of a babysitter!

winnie · 05/02/2005 15:48

Aerobics, I am near(ish)to Devizes.

suedonim · 05/02/2005 15:51

My older ones were besotted with a new baby in the house! Ds1, who was 21 when dd2 arrived wasn't pleased at my being pg but it was love at first sight when he saw her. Then once he discovered that trolling around with a cute little baby was an absolute babe magnet, there was no stopping him!!

fisil · 05/02/2005 16:07

noddyholder, I absolutely adored my baby brother - and we are still far closer than me & my brother who is only a year older than me. I think in our case it is purely down to personalities - the age gap doesn't seem to be the major factor here. When he was tiny I was always caring for him - my Mum made me feel like I was especially good at getting him to go to sleep. He helped with the great teenage strops too - I remember one day (I must've been about 15) coming in from school and throwing myself on my bed sobbing about how terrible everything in general was. He came and threw himself down on the bed next to me (c. 3 years old!) and started crying too. We held each other and cried for a while. Then I stopped and asked him why he was crying: "because you are." Sweet! That's all I needed. My mum always tried to find out why I was grumpy/tearful/stroppy, to which the real answer was "cos I'm a teenager, OK." The little one's response was just the best!

Tiggiwinkle · 05/02/2005 16:08

And its great when you go to theme parks and things like that-the older ones will quite happily go on the scary rides with the younger ones! Mine also take them to the cinema so I dont have to sit through the films if I dont want to

redsky · 05/02/2005 16:08

hi aerobics I have a ds age 17 and a dd age 12. dd feels hard done by cos the rest of us don't want to go to playgrounds and do kiddie stuff with her but she gains a lot from having a big brother who has generally been fairly good with her eg helps with homework, plays board games, baby sits, and will soon be able to drive her to her friends houses etc.

noddyholder · 05/02/2005 16:09

this all sounds great just need to see my doctor now so keeping my fingers crossed!

fisil · 05/02/2005 16:19

noddy - just one drawback I can think of - a teacher once failed me on a Russian speaking test cos I said "I have a brother who is 15 and a brother who is 2" and she said I didn't know the Russian word for 12!

Christie · 05/02/2005 17:24

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anorak · 05/02/2005 17:27

Oh!

I thought you had a laptop in your handbag

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aerobics · 06/02/2005 09:08

One thing that upsets me that i hate is when 14 yr ddgoes into a paddy over some issue and i am trying to sort her out and my 4 yr od ds starts shouting and telling her to shut up. it is sometimes a mad house, and not good for little one to see how argumentative big people can be. dp is just as bad as he has an awful fiery temper and shouts like a teenager as well. can forgive dd at her age but not hot headed dp.

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