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Honest answers? Would you start training to be a nurse at age 40?

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manchestermum82 · 13/06/2022 16:50

Due to needing to do the access course first I wouldn't qualify till I was 45!
I've never had a career, even though I was quite bright at school and always wanted to be a nurse. I was married and had children young and due to Dh's job moving us away from family I always stayed at home and picked up part time minimum wage jobs to fit round the children.
I'm now 40 and the dc are all getting more independent, dh earns a good wage which I have full access to and I always thought I would be content working part time for extra "pocket money" then hopefully being childcare for my own children at some point so they can have the careers they are working towards.
I don't know if it's turning 40 that's changed things but I'm now realising I'm older than my managers (retail job) and treated like a bit of dirt most of the time. I still fit into the "mums working around kids" group but don't want to move into the "this is my forever job now" older group who openly say they hate the job.
I feel now is the time to either do something about it or suck up the fact I'll be moving around basic type jobs forever with no progression or decent pension of my own etc.
By the time I do the access course though I'll end up in uni with classmates younger than my oldest dc Confused

OP posts:
Lordofmyflies · 13/06/2022 18:15

My lovely friend retrained as a nurse at the age of 45. She's been qualified now for 2 years. She finds it very physically and mentally tiring. She's frustrated by the lack of resources the NHS has to do her job properly. The shift patterns are difficult meaning she often needs baby sitters or friends to help out with school pick up / after school clubs. However....the roles within the profession are vast and she's found her niche. She feels she really makes a difference and dent regret it.

fallfallfall · 13/06/2022 18:18

of course do! life experience and maturity is welcome.
mind you i've also said that about any warm blooded human willing to help with the grueling work. lots of opportunity and work place options. go for it.

OrlandointheWilderness · 13/06/2022 18:20

I'm 38 and just finishing year 1. Yes I think there are some real downsides but the difference you can make to people is incredibly and I love the fact there is so much scope within the industry.

greywinds · 13/06/2022 18:20

Do something -I tend to agree OT/SLT/physio/podiatry/dental nursing would have better hours but if it's what you want to do, you've paid your dues with your family and your kids are getting older so go for it.

Adm1010 · 13/06/2022 18:27

I’m 48 and have been nursing for years in an acute environment . I’ve found it much more physically as well as mentally draining in my 40s . I really began to struggle and working through covid nearly finished me off! I’ve now moved into a specialist role which is less physically demanding but just as mentally draining !
Be prepared to be shattered if you go for it! Good luck x

Nap1983 · 13/06/2022 18:32

I’m a nurse, work in a pretty specialist area with normally decent staffing levels. Our service was stopped due to covid and we were supporting medical wards. If I had to go this again I would 100% quit my job as it was horrendous, so many patients not enough staff and abuse from families. I know that’s how a lot of wards run normally. Anyway I digress.. would I train again for the same degree… absolutely not

XenoBitch · 13/06/2022 18:33

I did an Access to Nursing course in my early 30s. There was lots of people older than me.
Out of the ones I kept in touch with, very few stayed in nursing. The happiest ones were the ones doing community nursing, or who specialised in diabetes.

Hurstlandshome · 13/06/2022 18:36

Those 5 years are still going to pass, whether you study or not. Don't get to 45 and think, I could be a nurse now! Do it! The access course is easy and you'll meet loads of new people. Good luck x

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OctFeb · 13/06/2022 18:37

My advice would be to work as a health care assistant first, before embarking on nurse training. It will give you an idea of the hospital environment and is invaluable for basic care knowledge.
I am a nurse. I don’t think I’d do it again.

I’d consider a role such as dietician, physiotherapist or speech and language I think.

ginandbearit · 13/06/2022 18:39

I did my training aged 40 ...was degree level plus ward work and zero money but had a lot of interesting work from it ( did mental health , became senior addictons clinician ) ..not all of it is a ward based slog , was in an eye clinic today and the work looked interesting and not physically demanding , and if I had my time again I'd specialise in sexual health nursing, so lots of opportunity for mature nurses to do challenging but not exhausting jobs ..go for it !

OctFeb · 13/06/2022 18:40

Meant to add, I began my training in 2004 at the age of 21, I was one of the youngest.

cottagegardenflower · 13/06/2022 18:45

Of course. You have 20 years + of working life ahead of you and nursing offers so many varieties of caree paths.

acquiescence · 13/06/2022 18:49

There are lots of generalisations here about what nursing is. It is one of the most varied professions and you can make it what you want. There are endless options for 9-5 jobs and most NHS trusts are excellent for flexible working. There are research jobs, school nursing, community nursing and all sort of other specialisms.

I am a mental health nurse and trained in my mid 20s. I think mental health nurses often progress to a band 6 quicker than general nurses, especially with the current staffing shortage. At top of band 6 I earn just under £40k pa, I’ve been qualified for 10 years and have been at this pay grade a couple of years now. The work is tough but very interesting and rewarding. I can currently pretty much pick my hours and I work some days from home which means I can fit school drop offs etc in.

The NHS desperately needs caring and committed new nurses. Good luck with whatever you choose OP.

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 13/06/2022 18:51

100%! Go for it!
I would train to be a nurse and I'm 38, but I'm the breadwinner and don't want to burn through my life savings paying myself a salary for 3 years.
DH is just starting to retrain in IT and he's 40.
You've got 75 years of working life ahead of you, so why not?

Imabitbusyatthemoment · 13/06/2022 19:09

Speaking as a 44 year old thinking about a career change now, I would definitely go for it.

mamazac · 13/06/2022 19:15

My mum trained when she was 40 to be a nurse, she's now 54 and has worked her way up to being a clinical specialist for the London ambulance service, best decision she ever made

Windypants21 · 13/06/2022 20:02

My friend trained in her late 40s. 5 years later she is burnt out.
She has now left the nhs ...brilliant nurse and works her socks off, now agency nurse who works in an nhs hospital in the same department so no variance. They love hee so she is welcomed back with open arms. She is paid well, works 3 days per week long shifts. Very demanding environment but by her own admission is war weary and alot of her compassion has waned, not gone, but severely waned.

Consider how much it will cost you to train and how little you'll be paid on qualifying. I know many band 7s who have dropped to band 6s and 6s who dropped to 5s because they couldn't cope with the increased work pressures and demands . So the pay scale might look OK once you go up the ranks but unless you are very lucky and end up in a certain niche you will earn every penny of that money and some with a banana on top!!!.

Consider if you are physically mentally and emotionally up to a very demanding stressful job. My friend has nearly unravelled at work on many occasions due to competing demands and pressures.

I can also speak from experience. I am retiring in a few months and I literally thank my lucky stars I am still alive, sane and have come out relatively unscathed and I'm not being flippant.

Don't underestimate the impending menopause and how that will affect you too. I sort of pooh poohed it as a thing but it is definitely a thing.

I have worked in hospitals community, private nhs and abroad. If I had a daughter i would tell her to do anything but be a nurse. But if healthcare is your thing, consider physio ot SLT podiatry dietitian, they have their challenges and demands but with great respect it is not on the same scale as nursing.

Talk to those around you and ask alot of questions you will get a better measure of what it is like where you live and the working culture there. Some areas have better and more supportive management structure but bullying is commonplace bottom up and top down.

When all is said and done nursing has a variety of opportunities and areas to work in and it has taken me to some far flung places but if I had my time over again I wouldn't do it.

If you decide to go ahead, time for you is more limited to try different areas. Make the most of your placements, decide early what you want to do and find the quickest way up the ladder, extra training will help with this. So get on board with this as early as possible.

Ps make sure you sort out your pension ASAP be it nhs or elsewhere and contribute as much as you can . At 50 I thought I was still good for another 10 years. 7 years and a menopause has put the kibosh on that !!

Good luck whatever your decision.

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 13/06/2022 20:08

You've got 75 years of working life ahead of you, so why not?

Haha, sorry, this was obvs meant to say 35 years! Things aren't quite that bad yet!

Hollipolly · 13/06/2022 20:13

Have you worked in care before?

Apply for a job as a health care assistant first before rushing to uni. Your not too old but do you want to nurse at 60?? It's not for the faint hearted.

Sortilege · 13/06/2022 20:16

If you want to do it, do it. You’ll have a twenty year career post-qualification. That’s substantial. I don’t even think it’s particularly unusual to change careers in your thirties or forties.

MountainClimber22 · 13/06/2022 20:17

No. But you should if that's what you want.

Anjcat · 13/06/2022 20:22

Depends what your idea of being a nurse is??
I’ve been a hospital nurse for 34 years, whilst being mature would give you some advantages I really think it’s a younger persons game, it is absolutely relentless physically and mentally.
I don’t think you’re too old to study anything I’d just say think about what you really want to do and if it will fit with your desired lifestyle. Most nursing jobs involve being available every day or night of the year. And the pay is poor.

Namenic · 13/06/2022 20:26

probably not nursing as it is tough to work shifts, often understaffed and pressured and not nearly appreciated enough by society. Are there any other allied health professions you could look into (eg dietician, speech and language therapist)?

RagzRebooted · 13/06/2022 20:26

Absolutely!
I qualified at 34, my best mate on the course turned 50 in our 3rd year, I'm currently mentoring a student who is older than me. Still got a good few decades in the workforce!

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