No not because I feel inferior, but because she makes me feel inferior with the fact that she undermines me in front of my son, when he is misbehaving. When her DD does the same I step out and let her take over, because she is after all her mum. And the equal element is not about mothers being equal to me as I dont believe anything like that exist really because how can someone be equal to me, or me equal to someone else? Everyone is different and their own individual with likes and dislikes.
I am talking about equal agreement that if my child goes over to her house, that fine, but her child could also be over here with me playing along with my son. Its about equal terms between us, I don't have to be her best friend or own a car to be equal to her, I just want to have the same trust from her as I put in her when she has my son around.
If I don't tell her DD to say thanks and please because its not my place to do so, or in regards to discipline, if she takes over when her DD is misbehaving then I would appreciate that I have the same opportunity to do so without having to try to talk over her to tell my son to stop doing something, as that is what happens at the moment!In my own house.
My son still sees her everyday at the nursery
and plays with her DD just fine,and Im more than happy for that to happen.
I just don't like the fact that she seems to like my son favouritism for her over me and even encourage it by giving him attention only when he is misbehaving with me.
I dont feel inferior to anyone, I am going to University this September after completing my HEFCs in Maths where I went from not knowing what two decimals places meaned to doing algebra and trigonometry and completing a 35 page Statistics project about house prices in the UK where I got the highest mark in the class, it will be shown to other students who will have to complete the same project next year as an example of how it should be done.
I wrote a whole article about Tibet for my Media classes where I also got the best mark, and all of this with a 4 year old at my care, with no family in this country to help me financially, and not studying for years, my son always goes to nursery cleaned bathed and looking smart because his mum does a lot of sacrifices with her very tiny budget so he can have the best.
I moved 250 miles from London to where I live at the moment all by myself from a small studio to a 2 Bedroom flat with a wonderful view, I scrapped all the paper wall of 4 rooms of the house and painted it with no help whatsoever, all by myself it took me 4 weeks, including putting curtains and blinds up.
Coming from the sort of background I came its amazing even that I'm still mentally capable to do what I do, and most of my friends admire me for the fact that I've been trough really hard stuff and still keep going persistently and regardless of the difficult circumstances that Im still in.
I don't have a partner and I can do fine without one, I don't survive I live life day by day, sometimes I do get insecure but that is because I know I can loose everything in a split of a second as it happened to me before and to many more people, and because I dont have a safety net like a family in here to help me out in times of need.
I am a nice person and I give everyone a chance regardless of their status in life, colour, gender or sexuality but I don't like people trying to take over and making me feel inadequate after all the hard work I've done. Just the simple fact that this mum did it in the first place even tough I talked to her about it is enough for me.
Maybe she didn't mean any harm, but a bit of sensibility is a good trait to have and I want people around me and my son with some of those good qualities, sensibility and common sense are really a must. I am not perfect by any means at all, but it is my son and it is my responsibility and right to decide when and where to tell my son off, or say thanks without interference from someone who I barely know.