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AIBU: Ex living in house with no opening windows (fire risk?)

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Overthinker89 · 06/09/2024 20:10

Hey all, what do you think?
My ex has moved to a house whereby none of the windows open wide enough for a human not even a child to get out so if there was a fire it would be a case of the front or back door or nothing. It's a design flaw from the 80s before the fire regs about having to have a window in bedrooms that could serve as a fire exit came in. I can't help but worry about my son being there overnight with no windows upstairs he could get out of if there was a fire. It's double glazed so nearly impossible for an adult to break the glass. There are wooden stairs and banisters and no fire doors downstairs. Am I being unreasonable? Or should I be worried. I checked and it's illegal for the landlord to rent him a bedroom (our son sleeps in a cot in my exes room when he is with his Dad.) but he refuses to acknowledge it may be an issue just saying I'm over worrying. What do others think. He is with Dad 2-3 nights a week but hasn't been since I found out about the windows not opening more than a few inches in all the bedrooms. You can't adjust it either it's the design of the frame.

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Flopsythebunny · 07/09/2024 11:54

Overthinker89 · 06/09/2024 21:15

Oo a glass hammer could be a good solution thanks all. I think if you own the property then it's okay re your new build flat I think the issue comes when you are renting out to others. I also take normal everyday trips with my son to classes and have a bike seat on my bike and get in a car and take him to. nursery and the park and the beach and all the usual things that let him live life and develop. I'm not scared of taking approproate risks and do many cost benefit analysis of risk vs opportunity all the time but being stuck in a burning building seems like a biggie? But, it is good to hear the counter arguments so maybe a compromise would be an emergency glass hammer. It's in all our interests our son gets to see his Father of course I'm not trying to prevent that.

Your child is at more risk on our bike seat than in a bedroom with a non opening window.
Just stop with the drama!

Anonymouseky · 05/10/2024 13:47

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. It’s not over the top to ask if he has a smoke alarm and to ask if he has a fire escape route planned. In fact, that is what the fire service advise. I’ve seen the effects of house fires. I once taught a girl whose whole family had been killed in a house fire. She herself had survived but had large severe burns to her body. Even if these windows are legal, they shouldn’t be.

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