Baby meeting ex new partner + staying for a week 300 miles away- eeeeep!

[washingonawednesday]

Split with exH 9 months ago when baby 3 months old due to his affair. He is now moving in with this woman 300 miles away into her house. She has no kids. He sees our son every fortnight for the weekend.

In feb he is having him:

A- for 9 days - longest my son has been away from me (he's one)
B - in Blackpool and I'll be in London so can't 'pop' round for a quick reassuring visit or be there quick if there is a problem
C - he'll meet this other woman for the first time so lots of contact with a complete stranger
D - I'll meet her at handover. Really don't want to as between them they ruined my and my sons lives last year. We're getting there now, but my family is broken because of them. Want to ignor her, but feel I should spend ages telling her about baby and what he likes (but his father could do this) or finding out how good she is with kids- feel like I'll probably want to be a bitch though! Aargh!

Firstly how to cope with this week
Secondly, Do I need up become friends with this woman? I really don't want to or think I could but want what's best for my son? She won't be seeing him apart from these concentrated bursts as they live so far away

Help!

One year old is a sensitive time and baby might get upset and develop 'attachment disorder' which would then affect baby's relationships later on in life. its very different to a 3-5 month old who might not mind that much or a four year old who has developed the memory. It is also very different to a weekend. I think you should say 'no' to the 9 days.
Mums are the primary care giver in every world culture. Saying that the dad should be allowed to take your child away is going back to the sixteenth century when mothers had no rights to be with their children even after marriage as the child was considered to be a chattel. Your baby is not a chattel.

Incidentally I do think that solicitors and lawyers these days are very prone to thinking of babies as objects - as if a formula of alternate weekends and a week in february/easter/summer/christmas is applicable to all children of all ages at all times. Exactly like an object.