Swallowedafly and bridgesburnt
No it is not what I am saying. And your maths / assumptions are flawed.
She is talking about doing medicine - that's not just a BA which you do get help with, and cheap rate student loans (I don't know the figures as I haven't done this) but thats 7 years most of them at hardcore study at PG / DOCTORATE LEVEL and very competitive to get into / funding is also much more difficult to get.
I spent months applying for charitable funding for my MA in London which I graduated from last year. A lot of the charities do not fund PG study and many have gone down in the recession, I have had to apply recently for charitable funding as a single mum and many of the funding that was there isn't.
I was 'lucky' I got several grants (due to my disability). Which almost paid my £7,600 course fees. Remember she is studying MEDICINE and fees are ANNUAL. And do not include Books or equipment.
I could not afford to live in London (where the course I did is recognised in the industry I want to work in as being the best of it's kind with the most employment prospects) and apart from being totally exhausting my transport cost around £1000 p/m(!) for a daily journey of around 5 hours total. (It would still have cost over £800 if I were able-bodied.)
I could never have done this as a single mum, I have had to go severely into debt to do it and I would not have been lent the money as a single mum with no job (I worked 16h p/w during my course because I had to and it was only for a year, (the course was only available over 1 year). I would not recommend this route to anyone, and would be concerned if someone was as tired as I was for as longer than a year (I was a gibbering wreck by the end) studying something as important and life or death as medicine, the CDL also considers your partner's income).
8K loans is for whole course not p/a. It is also treated like a commercial loan and the amount you get depends on what repayments you can afford, so take the loans out of your calculation. ANYONE at uni on a post grad course / retraining is entitled to these LOANS which MUST BE REPAYED WITH INTEREST OF 18 PERCENT - THESE ARE NOT A BENEFIT and should NOT be in your calculations.
I have also left HB out because it's probably paid direct to ll.
£52 over 52 weeks = £5200 (approx) not 6k
£65 over 52 weeks = £3380
£20.3 over 52 weeks (CB)=£1055.6
Total pa £9635
She also may be able to get an access to learning grant of between £100 and £3,500 but these are over subscribed and getting cut. It is highly unlikely she would get the full whack or more than once.
Assuming she does all the childcare herself / if her kid is over 3 she puts it in pre-school for minimum hours p/w. If her kid is under 3 (and she says it is a toddler) she WILL LIKELY HAVE TO PAY EXPENSIVE LONDON CHILDCARE OUT OF THIS. I had to pay extra for out of hours childcare (not provided / provided on a private basis at top whack prices by recognised nursery / childminders. WTC / CTC wont pay this.
So the 'crazy expectation' is actually that she would be able to do this on under £10K per year and pay transport and childcare costs.
However, swallowedafly you are correct about one thing; the reality is that unless a backtrack on the tution fees hike / cuts in funding to unis happens fast / you win the lottery, your son will probably not be able to go to uni. And British degrees will be worthless anyway. So he will be better off training to be a plumber as all the best jobs will be taken by well-off kids and europeans with good degrees who manage to have fully subsidized education systems. If you are happy with that being "just the way it is" then fine. Personally I, like OP want a brighter future for myself /my DD.