Der Nebel steigt, es fällt das Laub - a German and Austrian autumn thread

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A thread for anyone living in Germany or Austria, or anyone else who fancies a chat.

Previous thread here

outnumbers, I am glad you are home, so much nicer to be home if possible. Hope your little one makes a swift recovery, poor baby. My two year old loves chocolate milk too. As do I! I think I drank a fair bit when I was pregnant with him.

I can't remember where you said you lived, plus my geography is still quite rubbish! :)
I am liking Frankfurt well enough. We are in a nice family area, full of lovely playgrounds. I like being close to the river. Getting around by train is easy. I do feel a lack of shops here though.

Linzer, the little advent hamper will contain festive socks for all of us (ordered DS's online, hope they arrive in time), a festive t shirt for DS, some festive bubble bath, a couple of activity books (Christmas colouring book, Christmas sticker book), some hot chocolate, and we are doing Elf On The Shelf - I have been gathering loads of ideas on Pinterest. I just thought it was a nice way to get Christmas started.

We are in Kaiserslautern now, in the pfaelzerwald. I think its about one hour's drive from FFM. Kind of near Mannheim, Mainz, Homburg. Maybe ramstein rings a bell? Thats about 20mins from here.

Lovely countryside, great for long walks or visiting all those castle ruins. Actually overall it seems a nice place to raise a family, and thanks to Amazon the fact that it's so provincial doesn't matter all that much. In the beginning I found it very difficult here as I had moved from a stunning city -Lüneburg- to here, and it really isn't the prettiest of cities.

Is there a lack of shops in Frankfurt? I would have thought there are plenty?

Mannheim, Mainz and Homburg I've heard of!

Ach, I suppose there are plenty of shops, but I've come from London so was spoilt. I miss mid-range clothes, store like Next, Gap, M&S, John Lewis. I'm not finding that kind of stuff here. It's either cheap and nasty, or boutique and pricey. Children's clothes, I mean. Galleria stuff is not to my liking at all.

M&S and John Lewis both ship to Germany whatwould :)

I know - I placed orders with each last week! :) £7.50 a pop though, I can't do that regularly! But it's nice to browse and actually see and feel what I am buying first.

WhatWould You should have been in Frankfurt 15 years ago; there used to be a huge five-storey M&S there, with a food hall that took over the entire lower ground floor. It was great, but closed down just before we left Germany. Btw did you know that there's free delivery at the moment from www.marksandspencer.eu (it's normally ?5) if your order is over ?35? It just doesn't compare with shopping in a proper store though, I know.

outnumbered You must be so glad to be home. Hope your DS is back to normal asap and that the other two don't catch it.
Going by your post (and others'), DS is obviously destined to be a doctor.

I've been getting fed up recently with how much time the DC spend watching TV, on the computer, etc. so from today we've decided that there'll be no TV or electronic devices during the week. DD2 is quite good at keeping herself occupied, but for the other two the default option seems to be switching on the TV or computer or playing on my iPod or phone. I've tried to limit it but it can be hard to monitor who's doing what where, plus they all want to watch at different times but then the others want to watch too... so I decided (inspired by a friend who's done the same, but for a different reason) that we need to go cold turkey. I'm rather nervous about how we'll cope.

Is that why you left Linzer , to be nearer Bratislava for your M&S needs My nearest shop is a 4km walk/cycle/ drive, but it's smaller than my living room and only sells sweets, bakery goods, tins, and some slightly past its best fruit and veg...

Still got an ill toddler - temp 39.8 atm, better than 41 during the night, second night in the row with next to no sleep, with added vomit last night (does a temp spike cause vomiting or am I confused, because it isn't a stomach bug I don't think). DS1 and DD are alternately practising the magic she learnt on her course yesterday together, and arguing loudly. DD asked not to get the bus so need to drive her to school and DS1 to KiGa now I think, hate putting feverish toddler in the car too though, poor thing, but think I'll go straight from school to doc for him even though I've got no apt...

whatwould yes I know what you mean about children's clothes. When we first moved back to Germany I really missed Boots, M&S and Next. also for myself though. as you say, you either get the really cheap shops, which just doesnt last, or you pay lots. there isnt much in the middle. Whenever I get to the UK (which is about once every 18 months ) I stock up on nice clothes for the boys. I must have a look at the online shops for M&S and John Lewis, I didnt realise they ship to here.

englishwoman how well has you ds been eating the last few days? could it be he had too little too eat and drink? i think that causes ketones (sp) to rise and can result in tummy cramps and vomiting. hope he feels better soon.

linzer good luck with going cold turkey, i hope they dont put uo too much of a fight.

hope everyone has a good start to the week!

oh, and I do like the clothes (and toys) rage that jako-o has . Some of the prices are a bit steep, but many are ok. and I love the style and the colours.

outnumbered Boots is the one shop I really miss (can get to M&S and Next in Bratislava, plus they deliver online), but I just don't enjoy shopping at all here really. If only online shopping didn't exist, being in Austria would be very good for my bank balance. Btw you can get 20% off your first order from the .eu site if you sign up to the M&S newsletter. The disadvantage of "international" sites is that you rarely get the offers or bargains that you find on UK websites; we bought quite a few Christmas presents from M&S's Deal of the Week section on their UK site recently, but I doubt they have anything like that on the .eu site.

Yes, jako-o have some really nice, good-quality things but it's usually ???. DH has ordered far too many Christmas presents from there for the DC, but I don't feel like I can complain too much as I know a lot of men who leave all the Christmas shopping up to their partners.

English Poor DS; doctor's sounds like a good idea. Hope he's on the road to recovery soon; it's horrible when little ones are ill.
And yes, as soon as we discovered that M&S in Frankfurt was closing, we decided there was no point in staying in Germany. After sticking it out in the USA for two years (great shops, but just no M&S) we decided we had no alternative but to return to Europe.

I had an absolute nightmare getting DS to school this morning. He refused to get up, so DH had to stay home to help me (missing his train) as I couldn't physically get him up and carry him downstairs kicking and screaming. He kept saying the whole way to school that he didn't want to go, although did actually go in on his own - well, with his friend - in the end. I'm sure it's connected to the sad face he got on Friday, but I'm hoping that it was a one-off; otherwise, I'll have to go in and speak to his teacher.

The other annoying thing about living in Austria - shopping-wise - is that we often pay higher prices than in Germany, sellers on Amazon won't ship to Austria or charge extortionate rates to do so, etc etc. The clothes in kik, for example, have two prices on them (one for Germany, one for Austria), and jako-o is even more expensive in Austria than it is in Germany - clothes can cost up to ?10 more, for example.

Morning. outnumbered great that you are back home. Hope the earache gets better soon, that can be really painful.
I think we've sort of agreed to do what your dh is going to do aswell, so next job, if it's in Germany, will be dh spending the week away. His old boss in Berlin said he'll be able to take him back but we wouldn't move so quickly. He's a neuropharmacologist and physiologist and works in the neurosurgery department.

english hope the doctor can help, 41 degrees is a scary temperature for little ones.

Linzer hope the day goes well without any screen time. Are they allowed an hour or nothing at all? It could be slightly more work for you getting them motivated at first to busy themselves.
There are some good little books with those 3 lines for hand writing practice like this that are worth having at home. The dc go over the letters for a few lines and then do a few lines alone. We went through quite a few qith ds as he had terrible writing.

vegans I think I've missed something, I have no idea what an elf on a shelf is?! Is it like an advent calendar? Hope you find a candle soon.

nutella I had both my dc in Germany and the only thing I can add is that if you want pain relief ask for it directly before everything gets into full swing. I ended up having 2 completely natural births with no pain relief at all because both times I thought they would surely give me something at least at the moment that I started getting really bad pain. When they didn't and I asked they said it was too late so I had to be very brave but it was involuntary bravery! Well, with the 2nd I was in the process of being prepared for an epidural but dd couldn't wait that long and I didn't get it as she arrived.

I've been in bed all weekend, sweating then shivering and feeling weak. Hope it's just a virus and another day or two should put me right. Have to take ds to orthodontist at 2pm so I'll drive him and sit in the car then drive him back and straight back to bed.

admylin I hope you´re feeling better soon.

outnumbered - you must be so relieved to be back home. Hopefully it won´t be long before ds is fully recovered.

Linzer Your poor ds. I hope his teacher is a lot more understanding today.
By the way, I can add to the numbers who have a German husband with illegible handwriting. Isn´t it amazing that so much emphasis is placed on handwriting, but so few people can actually right neatly.
You´re very brave banning screen time. I really ought to consider doing it for ds because he´s really obsessed. He´s limited to half an hour on his Nintendo and maybe watches an hour of tv a day, but spends the rest of the time whinging and pleading to have more time. Mind you he has rediscovered his love of lego, so I´m hoping he´ll be better this week.

English I hope your ds is feeling better soon. DD always feels sick/is sick when she has a temperature, but as soon as we manage to bring it down, the sickness goes.

Ploom Well done for tackling the problem so promptly. I really think bullying isn´t dealt with very effectively here. I think parents and adults often think the children should sort it out among themselves. I remember Kiga telling me that ds was complaining to the Erzeherinnen about being hit (as I´d told him to do) and they said he really needed to be sorting out the problems himself. I really think like you, that adults need to talk the situation through, so that children can see why it is wrong.

This is turning into another essay, so I´ll stop now. A quick hello to anyone I´ve forgotten.

Linzer your poor DS :( Hope its a one off! Lucky your DH doesn't leave earlier for work though - mine leaves the house at 6.15, so would be long gone and far away if I needed him in the morning! Luckily I can still carry all my kids (well not all at once any more) though I have quite a bad problem with my foot at the moment and am struggling to walk - guess I'd have to take a super strength Ibuprofen first :o Luckily we never get more than the odd grumble about not wanting to get dressed, or DD not wanting to catch the bus in the dark/ cold/ rain, and I am happy to drive DD anyway as now I have a place for DS1 at Kindergarten from 7.30am so I can drop him off straight after DD, and although he likes the weekends because he can watch TV in the morning (banned on week day mornings, but I don't have the energy atm for an all out screen time ban) he also likes Kindergarten :)

Just got back from the docs with Ds2 - the paediatrician said his throat is very inflamed, did a throat swab to test for scarlet fever (which made his tonsils bleed and made him howl for ages :( ) The result came back negative but then the doc said its not a very reliable test and prescribed antibiotics anyway! I have picked the prescription up but dithering over whether to give him them yet - they are a bit prescription happy here (does everyone else find this too? Stark contrast to the UK where they are really reluctant to prescribe antibiotics nowadays) and I am wary of giving him antibiotics if what he has might actually not be bacterial! Argh! What would you all do? I am thinking I will hold off til this evening, don't want antibiotic resistant children but also do want him to get better asap - but of course they will only help if he does have scharlagh, not at all if he has viral tonsillitis or something...

outnumbered IO didn't know that about ketones, that's useful to know. He has been drinking plenty and eating a bit, so I don't know if it was that - he just ate some chocolate and cheered up and wandered about while eating it but is miserable again now, so better go as he's climbed back onto my knee for cuddles.

Get well soon too admylin and outnumbered DS with the ear infection.

I think an elf on a shelf is a toy elf you stick on the shelf and randomly move about to spook/ amaze your kids, claiming it is alive and working as a spy for Father Christmas :o ... aren't they extortionately amazingly expensive? I read a thread on them last year, maybe there was a demand related price spike immediately before Christmas last year, because I am sure I read they were about 100 pounds, which I couldn't get my head around!

English Mine haven't had antibiotics very often so I would probably give them antibiotics if they were prescribed them, but might feel differently if they'd been prescribed them more often - and of course if I felt that they were suffering from a virus rather than a bacterial infection. Isn't there a saying along the lines that it takes a week to recover with antibiotics and seven days without? I'm sure it can't hurt to wait until this evening if you're not too convinced that your DS really needs them.

Yes, the elf on the shelf sits on a shelf observing the children during the day, reports back to Father Christmas at night, and is discovered the next morning getting up to all kinds of mischief. They can be expensive, although I don't think I've seen any costing 100 pounds; ours cost 20-odd euros (including the book).

hupa Yes, the obsession with screens is the main reason why I'm banning screen time completely during the week. It only used to be DD1 who would sit and watch TV for hours if you let her, but DS is getting to be the same way too. I'd have no problems if they watched an hour a day, say, but they would all want to watch at different times, would end up quarrelling about what they wanted to watch, and would then sneak off to steal my iPod as soon as I'd turned the TV off so I decided it would just be easier to ban screen time completely. Well, I say easier - we haven't actually started yet. I may be a nervous wreck by this evening.

admylin Sorry to hear you're still not feeling better. Hope you're able to rest today, apart from the drive to the orthodontist's.

The handwriting practice books are a good idea; I thought we had a few at home, but have only found ones where you practise writing numbers rather than letters. We have a huge collection of reading and maths practice books, but never seem to get round to using them... hopefully less TV will mean more time for that kind of thing, as the DC do actually enjoy doing them when I get them out.

LT, wow, five floors of M&S - I have never seen such a thing. Oh well, there is still C&A! Wish I'd known about the European version of M&S online. Another time.

No tv all week! Wow, good luck!

English, hope your little one gets well soon. Yours too, out.
And you, admylin.

I haven't missed clothes for myself yet, I haven't needed to buy anything much, it's mainly rapidly growing DS. But yes, next time I go to the UK, I will stock up. And also stock up on vinegar and baking powder! :)

Oh, Linzer, poor little DS. I hope he is ok at school today. Poor mite.

Afternoon! Tried to use my long wait at the garage this morning to write a post but the thread wouldnt load - does that mean its time for a winter thread?

Oh linzer - your poor ds - I made an audible "oh" when I read that he didnt want to go to school this morning. The poor thing - I wonder sometimes if these really strict teachers realise how demotivating they are to small dc. Hope tomorrow is better. Good luck with the no tv/screentime - its not TV thats the problem in our house so much but the Wii - the boys are obsessed with it. There's always drama from ds2 when I switch it off no matter how many warnings I give him.

english - I agree the doctors are quite prescription happy here altho its been for all number of other random things - we've not needed antibiotics (touch wood). But I also find the other mums here are quite reluctant to give their dc paracetamol whereas Calpol is what I give the dc first at any sign of poorlyness. Hope he feels better soon. I wouldnt worry too much about giving him the antibiotics as long as he finishes the course.

And hope you feel better soon admylin - I really wish I could sign you a sick note for mum jobs till you feel better.

outnumbered - glad your ds is out the hospital and hope he gets over his other bugs soon.

Waves to anyone else I've missed.

Thanks for the understanding about ds1 and the bullying. I really felt I'd dealt with as best I could and have started a reward chart again with him (he loves a reward chart since the reward is normally star wars cards!). It was the first thing he said when he came in the door in Germlish "I wasnt gemein to anyone today". So maybe its getting through. Wish I could get through to the other mothers tho - they're obsessed with how naughty this other boy is (the one ds1 was being horrible to) rather than concentrating on stopping their own dc being naughty. I know for a fact the mum of the boy is struggling to deal with him - not sure what the answer to that is - not sure what help is available to help her help him. But surely if our dc were nicer to him then that could only help. They have to travel on the bus every day for the next 10 years - hope it settles soon.

Ploom sounds as though you are handling the bullying thing really well; having been a school teacher I remember these things aren't always simple victim-bully/ black and white, although many cases including more extreme cases can be, sometimes the victim isn't as butter wouldn't melt either and in some cases has done a fair bit of winding up of other children, especially when the others aren't habitual bullies - doesn't make bullying OK but makes it harder to decide its appropriate to come down hard on the bully! What you're doing sounds perfect.

DS3 hasn't had antibiotics before but the other 2 have... I know one course unnecessarily isn't desperately important but antibiotics when not needed is not a road I want to go down, they are not quite a "last resort" but are something to be avoided unless actually necessary in my view - apart from the resistance issue, which is not really relevant if its just one course, once, I realise, they tend to cause an upset tummy and I remember having to give DD antibiotics at this age and having to physically force her to take them, she was hysterical and I had to hold her down using a leg and and arm and get them in with the other arm when giving it when DH wasn't home, honestly it felt like I was doing something awful and wrong, and once you've started the course you have to finish, so if he hates them as much I'm loathe to start the course when he may not need them! I decided to give him a higher dose of Neurofen - the dose appropriate to his weight rather than age (his weight is in the 2-3 year category according to the label on the box, but he is 19 months today so I was giving him the 1-2 year old dose) and his temperature has come down to 37.6 this time, and he's perked up a bit though he's very quick to cry and tantrum... so I'll hold off on the antibiotics and decide this eve I think...

Thanks for the get well wishes whatwould and the advice Linzer and Ploom, if antibiotics were prescribed in the UK I'd have more faith they were needed, because they are more reluctant to prescribe, if that makes sense! .O

English think you're right to trust your instinct with the antibiotics and not give them if you think you can get away without - I'm another one who would rather not use them if at all possible. I also find drs here very prescription-happy, although it's often woo homeopathic or herbal remedies. I was very glad to be given a placebo some herbal drops for dd when she had an ear infection as I had been psyching myself up for a "does she really need antibiotics" conversation with the KA.

ploom sounds like your approach with your ds1 is working. How frustrating that the other parents aren't on board, though.

Aargh, can't write any more as PIL have just arrived to bring dd home. Have had an unproductive day and have wasted lots of time on mn and still haven't managed a proper post. Will try again tomorrow, I guess!

linzer I hope your ds had a better day at school today?

english how is your ds this evening? I agree that many drs prescribe them far too quickly. ALthough I guess it does depend greatly on the dr. when we still lived in Lüneburg, our paed didnt prescribe a single course of ABs for any of our dcs. But since living here they have all been prescribed some. With ds2 I did question it once, when he was about to be prescribed the third course in 4 months!!!

I took ds2 and ds3 to the paeds today. ds3s ear isnt too bad, and for his cough he is just getting some 'schleimlöser' and needs to be off kindergarten for another week. ds2 also needs the cough syrup, and I think he'll be home for at least another day tomorrow too. It was incredibly busy at the surgery. the entire town must have sick children! Oh, and the results came back from ds3' stool samples - it was the rotavirus he had.

I have a little WWYD or rather WWYexpect question for you all. As I mentioned before, ds1 and ds2 are autistic. Both have Aspergers. ds1 (5) has very very challenging behaviour because of it and is very unpredictable, lashes out when no-one expects it and can be very aggressive. He is also very tall for his age (wears size 122-128) and is very strong.
Mainly we have had the aggressive behaviour at home, towards me and ds2; he does have outbursts at kindergarten every now and then too, but nothing too severe. However these past few months there have been several violent outbursts at Kiga too. Once he kicked his Erzieher so hard on his arm, he had a big bruise to him the next day (and ds1 felt terrible as he really likes him and doesnt mean to hurt anyone, but has absolutely NO impulse control whatsoever), then he scratched another Erzieherin through the whole face (because she accidently broke one of his shoelaces!). Last week one of the placement students was supposed to take him to his bus - he gets picked up and taken home by minibus - and ds1 didnt want to go, saw red and kicked and screamed. He kicked her so hard on the wrist it was sprained and she is still wearing a splint now!

Today he ripped off another boy's glasses and then stamped on them. They are now bent. Again it was a minor incident really which made him explode Obviously I will ring kiga tomorrow so find out more, also if their insurance is covering any costs as it happened during kiga times, or if we will have to get ours involved. Also I will have to think of something as a sort of 'punishment' for ds1. But what I would really like to know is: as that boy's parents, what would you expect US to do? Ring them up even if everything 'legally' is dealt with through kiga? I am not sure they know ds1 has special needs, but otoh I dont think that should matter anyway, as his behaviour is totally unacceptable.

I may also post about it on the special needs section, but would really like to know what parents who do not have children with SN would expect me to do.

I am just so upset. ds1 is such a lovely, affectionate little boy. And he has so so much potential, very intelligent...but I am really worried about what chance he will have in life (and education) if we are not able to manage his behaviour

sorry about the long 'me'post. I hope you dont mind me asking this sort of advice! I will go and have a large glass of wine now!

Sorry for that emotional post earlier. That's not usually my style so feel free to ignore

Whatwouldsantado We've just moved back to the UK from Germany (typical that I find this now!)

Shops that deliver clothes to Germany/Europe that I have used are:

Tesco - they come in 3-4 days, and they're cheap as well. Good for kids.
Evans
Top Shop
New Look
Dorothy Perkins
Boden
M&S
Wallis
Miss Selfridge
Next
TopMan
Burton
SportsDirect
Debenhams

M&M Direct have both a German and Austrian site.
George at Asda are in process of setting up international delivery.

I can't think of any more at the moment (it's late!) but if I do I'll let you know.

Happy shopping!

Coola I do a lot of shopping online (have used quite a few of the sites you mentioned plus others - House of Fraser, White Stuff, etc.), but would still say that the shops are one of the things I miss most about the UK. I also find it annoying how expensive it can be to order online. I placed an order with Boden yesterday, but ended up sending it to my parents' address as, on top of the £6 for international delivery (it was free in the UK), they added an extra £10 for some reason! (I think it was for "local taxes" or somesuch.) I also really wish that somewhere like Boots/Superdrug etc. would ship to the continent.

outnumbered I don't know if I'd expect a phone call from you, but I would definitely appreciate it. DS was bitten by another little boy a few years ago (at home, so a different situation) and his mother gave us a Thomas the Tank Engine toy to apologise, which I felt was a bit OTT but a really nice gesture (an apology would have been enough!). You could also then mention that your DS has SN if you want to.

DS seemed quite happy when he came out of school, so fingers crossed for later when he gets up...

English Did you give your DS antibiotics in the end?

Ploom That's great that the message seems to be getting through to your DS (loved his denglish sentence too; that's the kind of thing mine would say!). It's just a shame the other mothers aren't taking the same approach as you.
I can imagine the DC would be quite capable of getting addicted to a Wii if we had one, which is also the reason I refuse to buy them a Nintendo (DD1 was pestering us for one for ages, although seems to have forgotten about it now) as they don't need any more screens to become addicted to!

WhatWould Is vinegar different in the UK, then? Having said that, I do remember looking for vinegar for cleaning here (white vinegar, I think) and not being able to find any.

Our first day without screentime went surprisingly well. DS was a bit upset when he remembered about it, but I reminded him that we were going to get some Christmas things up from the cellar and we ended up getting the shelf ready for the elf, so that took his mind off it! DD1 also complained late afternoon that she wanted to watch the Simpsons, but otherwise they didn't seem to miss the TV. Am hoping the rest of the week will be just as easy!

Outnumbered that must be so difficult as a parent! Your DS1 is the same age and size as my DS1 by the sound of it - even in Bavaria where children seem big he gets comments and people occasionally assume he and my 7 year old DD are twins. I personally would talk to the parents of the boy who#s glasses he broke, as that boy might be quite worried and need a bit of help understanding what happened, and the parents are likely to be angry and would be less likely to be if you spoke to them. My DS1, despite being the big one, has had some problems with a smaller boy who is a sometimes friend of his, and also lacks impulse control (though to my non professional eye he has definitely not got ASD - we know him quite well, and he sometimes plays here without his mum, and behaves fine, it seems to be outside he goes wild). DS1 actually once ended up with a black eye from the other boy, and we felt much better about it when his mum talked directly to us, and we know she does all she can to teach him boundaries and punishes every outburst (usually by taking him home). I would always be much more understanding if a situation like yours were explained than if I didn't know your son and only heard my own child's side!

Hello Coola - useful shop list (I knew about Evans and have used them but never posted it as I think everyone else posting here is sylph-like :) )

Linzer glad the no screen day went well, which reminds me DD needs to reply to your DD, I keep forgetting to point the message out to her, I always remember when she first comes home but want her homework done first and then I forget - will your DD not be allowed to read it til the weekend anyway?

No I haven't given the antibiotics yet - he's still not right and very grumpy and unhappy a lot of the time, and now coughing a lot, but his temp was only 38.5 when we went to bed last night and he didn't need meds through the night, and was 37.9 this morning, so temperature wise he is drastically improved, and he has more energy and is not wanting to stay glued to me all the time (though he is walking around looking sad and not actually playing or doing a lot and saying no sadly whatever I suggest, aside from watching Baby Jake or Tree Fu Tom recordings, which is all he wants :( )

English I'm still allowing the DC to reply to e-mails or look up things for school. It's really just "playing on the computer" (playing games or looking at videos on YouTube) that I wanted to put a stop to, not supervised "educational" access (I think that practising their writing in English counts as educational ).

We spent most of the morning at a clinical psychologist having DD1 tested, as I just felt that something wasn't "right" but couldn't put my finger on it. The psychologist thinks that she's suffering from depression as she's showing a lot of classic signs (and is also jealous of DD2 and DS). She wasn't very impressed with the dyslexia training DD1 had when she was at primary school, as she said there are still areas where DD1 has huge deficits (mainly concentration and auditory skills) which obviously haven't been dealt with at all, and that it must have been pure Rechtschreibtraining rather than Legasthänietraining. She also said she could easily have gone to Gymnasium if she had gone there for dyslexia tutoring from the start as she's highly intelligent, although I honestly don't know if she'd have wanted to - too late now, anyway. We have to go back with another more in-depth discussion next month, but she's already recommended that DD1 goes for psychotherapy as well as having more dyslexia tutoring to make things easier for her at school.