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Blood test nurse with NO appointment got firemen to damage door.Who pays?

440 replies

logiccalls · 03/12/2025 22:06

Someone who goes decades without any G.P. contact (being allergic to chemicals, and therefore never wanting to get pills) decided to get a private health MOT: The results were excellent, except for one which indicated it might be advisable to take a further blood test via the N.H.S.

The person was permanently disabled by a violent and stalking ex, therefore finds it difficult to get to a surgery, and asked them to send a home visiting nurse to do a blood test. This is a person made resilient by adversity, and keeping as healthy as possible, so with no history of mental problems or heart problems or anything else. (And even the requested blood test was resulting from a private MOT, which the NHS knew nothing about)

The GP has never been spoken to, just the receptionist, who promised to pass on the request for the blood test .

There was no further contact: NO appointment: No response: No email: No phone contact: No letter: No text.

Many weeks later, suddenly, a stranger had got into the block of flats, without using the intercom, and was agressively hammering on the flat door and trying to force the door handle to turn.

There was still no phone call, email or text. It could have been any intruder, inebriated, deranged or drugged. The occupant stayed silent.

The mobile phone rang, but with a witheld number, (which someone who has previously been stalked would of course never respond to.) Eventually, the stranger at the door went away. (There had been a parcel outside the door, before the stranger arrived, and as soon as she left, the occupant could at last open the door to retrieve it, and did so.)

An hour (?) later, a man was beating on the door as if to smash it in, and shouting. The occupant is deaf, but was obviously not going to open the door, to violent strangers, so again stayed silent. (But, because the parcel had been taken in, was clearly not lying unconscious on the floor for lack of a routine blood test, for which there had been NO appointment.)

The hammering on the door continued for hours, (?) and although the phone was constantly being rung, it was never used to send a text explaining there was any legitimate reason to attempt entry.

Later, it turned out the nurse had called the fire brigade, and it was their men taking over from her in battering the door. They then began to drill holes in the door.

The occupant had been unable to use the phone to try to get a lawyer, or to ring for any possible help from neighbours or the building caretaker. The 'number -witheld' calls were coming constantly.

With the flat's front door being destroyed, there was at last no choice for the occupant except to go to the door and call out "Who are you and what are you doing?"

A fireman explained who he was, and that there was a blood test nurse who had claimed that the occupant had "failed to attend an appointment for a blood test", which apparently he believed was justification for smashing the door. (?!)

a)There was NO such 'appointment'. b)The occupant had no idea who the nurse was, or the fireman was. c)Nobody texted.

But could it ever be reasonable to smash the door of someone for such a minor reason, for someone with no medical or mental illness history, and with evidence the person has taken in a parcel, so is obviously fit and well?

This is bullying and abuse of power, instigated by that extremely aggressive nurse, and enabled too readily by a fire brigade who were colluding in the constant phoning, yet never requesting a text should be sent, to a deaf occupant, to identify themselves or the blood test nurse, or to give information about the alleged "appointment".

(The medical records will not show much contact with the NHS, for decades, but there would be a note about deafness, so the fireman's statement that he had called out the word 'fireman' would not be justification to destroy a door.)

There is no house insurance. The front door is a security door and a fire door, so will be expensive to replace. Large holes have been drilled through it. Is it true, as the fireman suggested, that the NHS surgery will be liable to replace the front door?

OP posts:
Minjou · 04/12/2025 00:05

Crinkle77 · 04/12/2025 00:04

Yes you can be allergic to chemicals https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/contact-dermatitis/causes/

You can be allergic to certain chemicals, sure. But saying you are "allergic to chemicals" is like saying you're allergic to food and drink.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 04/12/2025 00:05

ArtichokesBloom · 04/12/2025 00:03

You asked for a home visit and got one. They don't give appointments as generally people needing them are at home...hence they need home visit! You didn't answer door or phone. They were concerned and called fire brigade. For all they knew it was a medical emergency. Claim on your house insurance. Stop being daft and realise you were being given care

Someone being annoyed about their door being cut open aren't being "daft".

How was OP to know that they don't give appointments when she's never had a home visit before? I didn't know that either.

The nurse did not have lawful reason to get the door cut open, end of.

ETA If you'd bothered to read the OP's comments you'd see she doesn't have home insurance. But legally, the emergency services would be responsible to pay for the door, as it was unlawfully opened.

plsdontlookatme · 04/12/2025 00:06

I'm wondering if OP has had previous negative experiences with police/medical professionals as this may be why seemingly obvious courses of action like ringing the police were averted?

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 04/12/2025 00:07

MysteryNameChange · 04/12/2025 00:02

Tbf as a victim of persistent stalking, I haven't always behaved rationally. I spent such long periods being intensely stressed and scared that it became hard to judge what was actually a threat, sometimes I'd just freeze And the police aren't always that useful.

The police will be a hell of a lot more useful than the lawyer OP says she would have contacted.

OhamIreally · 04/12/2025 00:07

I’m not sure this is a question for Mumsnet.

Crinkle77 · 04/12/2025 00:08

Minjou · 04/12/2025 00:05

You can be allergic to certain chemicals, sure. But saying you are "allergic to chemicals" is like saying you're allergic to food and drink.

I don't think OP said they were allergic to all chemicals did they?

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 04/12/2025 00:09

ReadingSoManyThreads · 04/12/2025 00:05

Someone being annoyed about their door being cut open aren't being "daft".

How was OP to know that they don't give appointments when she's never had a home visit before? I didn't know that either.

The nurse did not have lawful reason to get the door cut open, end of.

ETA If you'd bothered to read the OP's comments you'd see she doesn't have home insurance. But legally, the emergency services would be responsible to pay for the door, as it was unlawfully opened.

Edited

From the nurse's point of view, she was going to see a vulnerable housebound person. That person wasn't responding to knocks, calling through the door, or phone calls. She was entirely justified in being concerned for OP's welfare. If, say, OP had collapsed and the nurse walked away, OP could have died.

Octavia64 · 04/12/2025 00:10

I am physically disabled and have had home visits.

my gp surgery, as many do, has a number withheld.
they do not text me except as part of mass texts to tell me to book my flu jab.
if they do a home visit then yes they do knock loudly.

op, you have no chance of changing the way a gp surgery does things. If you want to interact with nhs services you do it their way or no way.

they are pretty frustrating at times because they are so inflexible but they won’t deviate from procedure.

Oooobigstretch · 04/12/2025 00:10

They weren’t bullying you they were trying to check you were ok

plsdontlookatme · 04/12/2025 00:14

A lot of people with (C)PTSD are afraid of police and similar. Even tangentially related traumatic experiences can foster a lot of (understandable) distrust towards authority/enforcement figures. I haven't personally had much, if any, direct contact with police, but I know given my own trauma background I would really struggle to phone the police for help. I didn't even phone the police when someone was smashing my door down - I phoned a relative living nearby.

OLDERME · 04/12/2025 00:15

I would be very concerned if someone did NOT use my intercom. It is there for my protection . Any professional visiting me knows to use it. I would be very alarmed if someone suddenly banged on my door. I would shout out who is it, but I may not be able to hear their reply. I certainly would not open my door.

plsdontlookatme · 04/12/2025 00:17

Anecdotally, the police will only intervene in cases of stalking once a surprisingly high threshold of likely imminent harm has been crossed. I was really surprised by how far things have to go before the police will even look at a stalking case. I'm wondering if the OP has experienced enough instances of police non-action that she does not trust them to come to her aid at all.

Hercisback1 · 04/12/2025 00:17

This is crazy. Of course you'd phone the police. Any other action makes no rational sense.

Negroany · 04/12/2025 00:19

logiccalls · 03/12/2025 23:58

Why would anyone disbelieve the existence of allergies? By all means look it up, and discover they are increasing, and that being allergic to chemicals is pretty commonplace: Has nobody you know ever felt sick or had headaches or rashes after being exposed to strong scents, or cleaning chemicals?

Being physically disabled, as explained in message, makes it hard to get around. Have you never met anyone with mobility difficulties?

As explained in the post, it is not a question of being unable to open a door or answer a phone, but a question of being justifiably reluctant to do so, unless there is prior appointment, which anyone of friendly intention would do, by text, by ringing the intercom to show themselves, by email, or by phoning from a non witheld number.

It is particularly problematic for a person with a potentially dangerous ex,. but it would also be unwise for any sensibly cautious person, particularly when there are addicts and criminals in the area, and some of them have been discovered to have obtained entry to the building, then been aggressive with the caretaker when he tries to make them leave.

Perhaps it is hard to comprehend that deafness makes it hard to have a cosy chat via a closed door, but it must be easy to understand that a door being aggressively bashed, and the handle tried, when nobody is expected and nobody texts, would make it unwise even for the burliest of nightclub bouncers to merely fling the door wide?

Maybe you did not notice that the person is physically disabled, so difficulty getting out and about is due to physical impairment, with limited mobility. As long as circumstances make it physically possible, millions of people can and do get out, with friends, with cars, with wheelchairs, or however else they can manage . When they are indoors, it is not mental illness and 'agoraphobia', merely practicality.

In your eagerness to diagnose strangers as mentally ill, had you perhaps overlooked the existence of physical disability?

The nurse doesn't know any of this stuff though, does she?

Also, I very much doubt her first action was to bang aggressively and try the handle. By the time she got to that she had probably been knocking politely but with increasing vigour for several minutes.

The NHS can't help that most of their numbers are withheld. My GP and local hospital actually aren't withheld. But the district nurses who attended my mum had withheld numbers - ironically probably for their own safety.

I'm another who is surprised about the GP just sending someone to do a blood test on your say-so. I've had private test results before and the NHS won't just prescribe or order a test because I say so - they have to actually have a proper consultation with you. Because they are responsible for what they prescribe or order.

Negroany · 04/12/2025 00:20

MysteryNameChange · 04/12/2025 00:02

Tbf as a victim of persistent stalking, I haven't always behaved rationally. I spent such long periods being intensely stressed and scared that it became hard to judge what was actually a threat, sometimes I'd just freeze And the police aren't always that useful.

So, you'd call a lawyer?

ReadingSoManyThreads · 04/12/2025 00:23

GoodQueenWenceslaus · 04/12/2025 00:09

From the nurse's point of view, she was going to see a vulnerable housebound person. That person wasn't responding to knocks, calling through the door, or phone calls. She was entirely justified in being concerned for OP's welfare. If, say, OP had collapsed and the nurse walked away, OP could have died.

Then there are procedures for that nurse to follow, such as noting that the patient didn't answer, report that she was "unable to gain access", and that the surgery would then contact the patient to rebook (or in this case actually book, as the surgery had never sent out an appointment). Jumping straight to having someone's door broken down is overkill, there was no evidence that OP's life was at risk. Despite being disabled, OP (if she is the person the thread is about), is in good health.

FairKoala · 04/12/2025 00:25

MissBattleaxe · 03/12/2025 22:10

Sounds like it was a welfare check and the district nurse may have thought you had come to harm.

Why would they think that?

CypressGrove · 04/12/2025 00:25

logiccalls · 03/12/2025 23:35

There are many people with many allergies, an increasing number of them include chemical allergies. All they can do is take the best care they can. Being allergic to chlorine means filtering it out of water, and having an extremely fast shower, with extremely costly bar soap with the minimum ingredients. Organic food is essential. No scents or cleaning materials other than vinegar and bicarb. Natural materials and furnishings. Wearing a mask if encountering a likely problem. It isn't all that unusual. Some people do attempt to go the G.P. prescription route, getting chemicals to counter the allergies that chemicals cause, then more chemicals because of the side effects, and so on, but that tends inevitably to be a losing battle!

You don't realise that both water and oxygen are chemicals right?

pinkdelight · 04/12/2025 00:28

Dollymylove · 03/12/2025 22:35

Maybe you should have e read it then
The "person" had been permanently disabled by a violent stalker, hence the door wasnt opened

Said person would surely have at the very least a spy hole to see who’s at the door if not a ring camera. With all their stalking and hearing woes, it’s unfathomable that their solution to not knowing who’s at the door is to let the caller hammer on it for hours and wait for them to break in before asking who it is. They could’ve asked at any time through the door.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 04/12/2025 00:29

If you're in a block of flats, there should be a block insurance policy held by the freeholder / management company which you can claim from.

fost · 04/12/2025 00:29

logiccalls · 03/12/2025 23:58

Why would anyone disbelieve the existence of allergies? By all means look it up, and discover they are increasing, and that being allergic to chemicals is pretty commonplace: Has nobody you know ever felt sick or had headaches or rashes after being exposed to strong scents, or cleaning chemicals?

Being physically disabled, as explained in message, makes it hard to get around. Have you never met anyone with mobility difficulties?

As explained in the post, it is not a question of being unable to open a door or answer a phone, but a question of being justifiably reluctant to do so, unless there is prior appointment, which anyone of friendly intention would do, by text, by ringing the intercom to show themselves, by email, or by phoning from a non witheld number.

It is particularly problematic for a person with a potentially dangerous ex,. but it would also be unwise for any sensibly cautious person, particularly when there are addicts and criminals in the area, and some of them have been discovered to have obtained entry to the building, then been aggressive with the caretaker when he tries to make them leave.

Perhaps it is hard to comprehend that deafness makes it hard to have a cosy chat via a closed door, but it must be easy to understand that a door being aggressively bashed, and the handle tried, when nobody is expected and nobody texts, would make it unwise even for the burliest of nightclub bouncers to merely fling the door wide?

Maybe you did not notice that the person is physically disabled, so difficulty getting out and about is due to physical impairment, with limited mobility. As long as circumstances make it physically possible, millions of people can and do get out, with friends, with cars, with wheelchairs, or however else they can manage . When they are indoors, it is not mental illness and 'agoraphobia', merely practicality.

In your eagerness to diagnose strangers as mentally ill, had you perhaps overlooked the existence of physical disability?

No-one doesn't think allergies aren't real. They think claiming to be allergic to 'chemicals' is ridiculous as pretty much everything is a chemical, or made up of chemicals, from the air you breathe to the clothes you wear to the food you eat. I am allergic/sensitive to lots of things, but they are specific things/groups of things, not something so vague and all encompassing as 'chemicals'. It's as nonsensical as saying you're allergic to liquids.

logiccalls · 04/12/2025 00:30

Fatiguedwithlife · 03/12/2025 22:44

I’m a district nurse. If no answer at the door or on the phone (how could the person know there were repeated called from withheld number yet also be unable to get to said phone to call for help?) then we may request assistance from police to perform a welfare check.
we don’t usually make appointments for home visits as by their nature the patient is housebound and therefore able to be visited any time.
Unless specifically requested we wouldn’t ring beforehand to let person know we are coming- the fact they requested a visit means they will get one.

Why didn’t you just answer your phone?

Thank you for the response, which is illuminating in the attitude: Someone who can, albeit with difficulty, make it to their door, and to the lift of their flats, will be able to go out anywhere, but only with a lot of expense and planning, and with a friend or paid helper available to accompany them and drive them, or else with a taxi waiting at the entrance door, with a driver to assist them in and out.

That way, they can go to the private dentist each year and also, if they are willing to pay, get an annual or occasionalprivate health MOT, (NHS doesn't do them, or if they do, not comprehensive ones) If they live in flats, and if they can get to the lift, they can go to the entrance hall to collect their mail.

They can get their annual flu and covid jabs, privately. That way, they have an appointment, and in a place they can be sure has a place for the driver to drop them right by the entrance, and a friend or helper to assist them into the door. The nhs is apparently supposed to arrange home visits for jabs for those who find getting to the surgery impossible or impossibly difficult. They also, in theory, do some kind of MOT or routine health checks, but most people never hear about them.

Getting friends or paid helpers plus taxis, to go into a crowded NHS g.p. waiting room, or crammed NHS hospital, to get a blood test, even once in decades, is unwise activity for anyone who would not manage an infection easily, living alone and unable to walk more than a few steps unaided. Being largely housebound is not the same as being completely confined to a bed, or a prison cell, you know.

OP posts:
Redwinedaze · 04/12/2025 00:30

The fire brigade don’t take hours to get in, the person is deaf but called out who is it and heard the response? Not a lot of this makes sense?

Livelovebehappy · 04/12/2025 00:30

I think there’s a whole chunk of context missing here…..

PollyBell · 04/12/2025 00:30

pinkdelight · 04/12/2025 00:28

Said person would surely have at the very least a spy hole to see who’s at the door if not a ring camera. With all their stalking and hearing woes, it’s unfathomable that their solution to not knowing who’s at the door is to let the caller hammer on it for hours and wait for them to break in before asking who it is. They could’ve asked at any time through the door.

But we only have the OPs version of what happened, not everyone's take on a situation is always accurate