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Sarah's Law Claire's Law Disclosure - What next?

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danidog · 28/02/2025 14:24

I have requested a disclosure for my ex's new partner. We have 3 children and I want to make sure they are safe, I have been told there are issues? Maybe true maybe not. Police have contacted MASH? now the girls have a social worker assigned. I have had an email now saying they have prepared a disclosure and They will see me at the police station soon and the social worker will be invited to read it at the same time. Will this mean there is something that could endanger our girls? will social services need to set up a support system for the girls? Will they notify the schools? Will they tell my ex? Will they tell the new partner? so many questions, my ex has said i have opened a can of worms? and I wont make them choose children or new partner (frankly I really dont care anymore about that but surely this might have an impact) I really don't know what's going to happen but I just want to protect them. My brain is frazzled.
What has anyone else done this or had this problem?

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prh47bridge · 28/02/2025 16:43

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Under Sarah's law, the police can tell parents, carers and guardians if someone has a record for child sex offences. OP is the child's parent so of course they can and will disclose to them. This does not sound fake at all.

stichguru · 28/02/2025 16:53

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That's untrue. If a child has close contact with someone who has committed offences against children, they may disclose that to the child's legal carers in order to facilitate them keeping the child safe.

Mumof3confused · 03/03/2025 11:08

Well done for stepping in to protect your children. Clearly, your ex is unwilling to put the children first.

MissDoubleU · 05/03/2025 16:49

Any good parent would be very pleased you opened this “can of worms” - Please don’t feel discouraged otherwise. The safety of your children is the most important thing and if your ex’s new partner is even potentially a risk, you need to be aware. If there is something to disclose they believe there is a risk.

You’ve done the right thing. Keep those children safe.

danidog · 01/04/2025 13:07

Just to fill in the missing bits and answer a few questions raised
yes there was something to tell
yes they did tell me the full criminal history related to children
yes there was more than I had imagined
No I cant do any more to help my children SS wont do anymore until something happens so they technically can be with this person.
Ex says its incorrect infomation as she has seen it too
New partner says its incorrect and all lies.
Will it help my children? Not one bit!
Scary that!

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prh47bridge · 01/04/2025 13:13

You should see a solicitor and consider what steps can be taken to keep your children safe.

Are your ex and her partner denying that he has these convictions, or are they saying he was wrongly convicted?

unbelieveable22 · 01/04/2025 13:18

I'm sorry @danidog . Well done to you for trying to protect your children. Is your expartner refusing to believe what is on record?

Take @prh47bridge advise, always correct.

danidog · 01/04/2025 13:50

prh47bridge · 01/04/2025 13:13

You should see a solicitor and consider what steps can be taken to keep your children safe.

Are your ex and her partner denying that he has these convictions, or are they saying he was wrongly convicted?

the infomation is factually incorrect and is not him???
I had to sign to say I would not discuss with anyone how can I possibly use this information?

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prh47bridge · 01/04/2025 14:02

danidog · 01/04/2025 13:50

the infomation is factually incorrect and is not him???
I had to sign to say I would not discuss with anyone how can I possibly use this information?

A solicitor will be able to help you. You can safely tell a solicitor that you are concerned about the safety of your children after receiving a disclosure from the police.

crownshyness · 01/04/2025 17:17

Not discussing it with anyone does not include your solicitor.

Please contact a family lawyer firm asap.

I hope it works out x

danidog · 15/04/2025 16:23

Just a brief update, Cant do a thing she agreed not to introduce the new partner and to do it gradually but has taken them there for the past few days and nights. she can do as she pleases and we have to hope she has their best interests at heart system is totally stuffed. gotta wait unitill there is an incident???? So disappointed and frustrated.

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myplace · 15/04/2025 16:27

Have you spoken to a solicitor, as PPs advised?

Are you still in touch with social services, have they advised anything?

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 15/04/2025 16:43

has taken them there for the past few days and nights

Email this to the SW, and copy in her manager.

How do you know the above?

Exhaustedtiredneedabreak · 15/04/2025 16:48

This must be really concerning for you. I echo what pps have said and write out clearly your concerns in detail and request support from ss and MASH in applying for your girls to live with you. Then get some legal advice and apply for them to reside with you and supervised contact for her to ensure that they are kept safe.

lunar1 · 15/04/2025 19:30

That’s both heartbreaking and terrifying 😢

CoffeeCup14 · 15/04/2025 21:16

OP, you are in a really difficult position.

SS won't generally get involved in matters around custody of children because it's a civil matter. They won't tell you what to do either. They have to be really careful about how involved they get. And often I think they can't intervene preventatively unless there's a very high threshold of risk met.

So you can feel like you are on your own and powerless. But you aren't.

What you can do very much depends onwhat the level of risk is and what level of proof there is. You probably can't share that here. If it's such that no reasonable parent would introduce a child to that parent, you can expect your ex not to do that. If they continue to expose your children to unacceptable risk, you can take legal advice and ultimately stop your children from spending time with them unsupervised. It feels awful and wrong to protect your children from their other parent, and it feels like social services would be doing it if it was necessary, but that's not how things work (and that's not to denigrate social services, just that it doesn't work quite how you assume it does).

If your ex's partner has some kind of history of child abuse, they are likely to be predatory and manipulative. Your ex will be subject to this and may not be able to make good decisions. The fact that they are just ignoring yourvalid concerns doesn't reflect well on their thinking.

If there is some kind of mistaken identity they will hopefully be able to prove it's a different person. If there is some kind of error or mistake which means an innocent person has been branded a risk to children, that's awful. But I would suggest getting some support to deal with this - there may be charities which can help. You are not wrong to try to ensure your children aren't at risk of abuse, and putting in some temporary protections while you find out more is sensible and loving.

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danidog · 12/06/2025 14:31

Just an update folks. To make things worse they have now moved his children in? This means the eldest of His Boy is alone in a room, Tow girls (mine in a room) My youngest sleeping on the floor in Ex's bedroom and when is other son arrives they sleep in living room he is there 4 days a week. I still have the childrens bedrooms at home and still my ex thinks this is acceptable how does the lives with order thing work I cant negotiate any longer and noone is helping...

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SofaHouse · 12/06/2025 14:40

Speak to a family solicitor.
would you want custody of your children?

Enrichetta · 12/06/2025 14:58

This situation seems to have reached a point where it is no longer something that you can resolve on your own. You need competent legal representation from a family solicitor who is experienced in dealing with such complex cases.

myplace · 12/06/2025 17:36

So your male ex is living with a female with a criminal history?
And your DC are living over crowded with the woman?

Can they not live with you?

prh47bridge · 12/06/2025 18:46

myplace · 12/06/2025 17:36

So your male ex is living with a female with a criminal history?
And your DC are living over crowded with the woman?

Can they not live with you?

No, if you read all OP's posts you will see that OP is male, and his female ex is living with a man about whom the police have made a disclosure under Sarah's law. It is not clear if this means the ex's new boyfriend has a relevant criminal record or if the police think he is a risk for some other reason, but he claims that the information the police have disclosed is incorrect and refers to someone else.

PinotPony · 12/06/2025 21:58

In your shoes, I’d make an appointment with a family solicitor. If you are not in a position to apply for sole custody of your children, you may be able to apply for a prohibited steps order stipulating that your children are not to be housed in the same property as the new man. It would then be a matter for the court to determine what was in the best interests of the children.

titchy · 12/06/2025 22:04

danidog · 12/06/2025 14:31

Just an update folks. To make things worse they have now moved his children in? This means the eldest of His Boy is alone in a room, Tow girls (mine in a room) My youngest sleeping on the floor in Ex's bedroom and when is other son arrives they sleep in living room he is there 4 days a week. I still have the childrens bedrooms at home and still my ex thinks this is acceptable how does the lives with order thing work I cant negotiate any longer and noone is helping...

Presumably you haven’t contacted a solicitor yet despite being advised to several months ago?

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