It's more to do with how HMRC differentiate between gifts and income for the purposes of income tax rather than anything to do with IHT.
So, if a man were a "gigolo", "toy boy", "kept man" [is there such a term?] or whatever other term you wish to use, and likewise if a woman were in a similar relationship eg "mistress", "kept woman", "sugar baby" etc then if they are receiving receiving regular weekly or monthly "gifts" from the same person or multiple people then HMRC may look at things very differently.
Basically, if a person sets themselves up to be a gigolo as a trade or profession then HMRC will want it's share of any money or money's worth (eg physical gifts) that the gigolo receives, especially if he has multiple customers at the same time.
In contrast, having a generous lover is different. If our gigolo just has one generous lover who helps to support his lifestyle and in return expects nothing other than ... well, then that doesn't, on its own, amount to trading.
If our gigolo had several relationships like that at the same time though, it probably does.
In a similar way, casual bartering – occasionally asking the guy next door if he’ll clean out your guttering in return for a shag doesn’t amount to trading. Although having a similar arrangement with every tradesman in your area, possibly does.