I met an amazing man last May. He doesn’t live in the same place as me. We want to live together but my ex doesn’t want me to move with our children. I’m not divorced from him yet but it’s almost done. I asked my solicitor if he can stop me moving and she said he can get a court order and if he does then I will not be able to move until the court decides if it’s in the best interests of the children to move. She did say I could just go and hope he doesn’t argue against it but I don’t know if I should risk that.
I want to add a bit of info on each household/situation.
I’d be moving into my partners house that he owns. He has a good job and job security. He can’t move to my area as he would not get a similar job and doesn’t want to take a huge loss in earnings. I would work part time, although he says I don’t have to. I can do my job anywhere.
My ex doesn’t work at the moment. Never sticks at a job long enough to progress and better himself. Is technically homeless. He smokes weed daily. He hasn’t wanted to have the children regularly until recently, well until his partner announced she is pregnant and they need/want a bigger house. Baby is due soon.
My solicitor says the main concerns for the children will be proving that they will have a better quality of life in the new area and that the education is going to be better. This is my main worry as the schools aren’t better than where I am. There’s also less to do there as the community doesn’t get as much money thrown into it as the place I currently live does. The new area would make it much easier to access other places though, for weekends away etc.
Has anyone been in a similar situation. How am I meant to decide what to do?
I’m also wondering if being married to my partner would make any difference in regards to the court thinking living with him is the best option.