I have recently left a toxic situation. I was co-parenting with my ex-partner. We aren’t married and have one daughter together. There was a lot of coercion and control in her behaviour, even after the breakdown of the relationship. After years of struggling with my mental and physical health, I finally took the step to move out. The atmosphere was terrible and after a lot heart-searching, this seemed the best course for everyone’s future happiness - especially my daughter. I am living nearby in order to be close to my daughter, just about managing the rent whilst also covering the mortgage and bills on the family home.
Moving out did not go down well with my ex and her attempts to control my behaviour have become more extreme.
Earlier this week I received an email from a solicitor that is seemingly representing my ex (this was the first time I had any indication a solicitor was involved). The solicitor has stated that l “must not” go to the family home without 48 hours notice and my ex’s consent. We own the home jointly and I haven’t been turning up unannounced.
Any thoughts on this please? Maybe I’m overthinking it or am too sensitive to anything that feels like controlling behaviour but it seemed a little unusual to me that a solicitor is attempting to impose such terms.