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springandsnow · 2022-03-31T09:30:30+00:00

Hi all, Just the above really, can an illegitimate child inherit, if we specifically write in a will that it shouldn't? Many thanks

Onlyforcake · 31/03/2022 14:55

Drinking? *Stinking attitude.

VodselForDinner · 31/03/2022 14:56

I hate the teen “illegitimate” child.

Surely we’re taking about “illegitimate men” who can’t face the consequences of their decisions.

Franklin12 · 31/03/2022 14:57

Char - quite! Step children come with the man/women you marry. Whether they be treated the same where money is concerned is another question because effectively there could be inheirtance from many different sides in certain scenarios.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 31/03/2022 15:00

The husband basically had a 7th of the estate and didnt want to move house. I am not sure what actually was agreed in the end but I know that half of the value of the house was used in legal fees

This is why we are leaving everything to each other and DH's children and my godchildren will inherit when we are both gone. I'm not prepared to have his kids trying to force me out of my home and I wouldn't want it happening to DH.

PigletJohn · 31/03/2022 15:01

By the time Boris dies, you will probably no longer be married to him, Carrie.

Dimondsareforever · 31/03/2022 15:04

If no will, money will go to all children. (If no children, then parents I believe and etc …. )
If a will, it will go to whoever you say.

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Alwayscheerful · 31/03/2022 15:07

@drpet49

I would leave a nominal amount say £100 so they can’t argue that they were left out and not considered.

This is the advice a solicitor would give. A token sum shows you have considered the child and not just "forgotten" to mention them in your will.

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Franklin12 · 31/03/2022 15:09

Its funny what money does to you. I have a particular personal situation which would give grown up children access to my parents money when they pass if certain people pass before them. These grown up children are nothing to do with my parents. They have met once or twice in passing - nothing more but marriage is very powerful in the legal world.

Nicholethejewellery · 31/03/2022 15:10

@VodselForDinner

I hate the teen “illegitimate” child.

Surely we’re taking about “illegitimate men” who can’t face the consequences of their decisions.

Not really because an illegitimate child could still be loved and raised by both parents, just ones who happen to have not been married when it was conceived. I know plenty of couples who've been together, raised children together but not married. Just because a child is illegitimate doesn't mean the parents are.

clarkkentsglasses · 31/03/2022 15:10

@Febrier

Stepmother, is that you?

Think it's my stepmum to be fair

Franklin12 · 31/03/2022 15:15

So if the OP is the StepMother then I think her question is valid bar the word illegitimate. Why should her assets go to someone that she might not even have met.

Kennykenkencat · 31/03/2022 15:22

Actually feel quite emotional about this thread. I knew I shouldn’t have read it.
I am illegitimate right down to the blank where father should be on my birth certificate.

My father did eventually marry my mother but broke up with her when I was still small. However I was often referred to as the Bastard and wasn’t allowed in certain peoples houses.
My father is in a care home apparently. I googled him last year and although I never really missed him what really was a punch in the stomach was I also found out his birthday. I never received so much as a card from him. It was hardly a date he could forget.
His family refused to believe I was his which was the most ridiculous thing as I look the image of his mother even down to my quite distinctive hair colour. Which did seem to enrage my mother and her side of the family.
I am resigned to not getting anything in any wills. My mother left everything to her siblings and possibly my 1/2 sister. I knew I wasn’t going to get anything when I was still a child as I was told I was too stupid.

My thoughts on someone calling a child illegitimate and It I can’t put down how nasty and evil that is. As well as not recognising your own flesh and blood as someone to be looked after and treated fairly

As you get older and might need outside help. I hope for your sake you don’t end up being looked after by someone who’s parents weren’t married if you express those sort of views.

RedWingBoots · 31/03/2022 15:22

@Franklin12

So if the OP is the StepMother then I think her question is valid bar the word illegitimate. Why should her assets go to someone that she might not even have met.

If OP is the step-mother she doesn't need to mention the child at all in her will as the child is not hers through biology or adoption.

Franklin12 · 31/03/2022 15:33

If say the biggest asset her husband had was say their jointly owned house and he left money to this child wouldnt the child want their money now especially as he had perhaps never met this women.

I believe you need to very carefully word your will. My relative who left a 7th to each person was plain daft as one of the 7 was still in the biggest asset which was the house. The other children had no blood connection with the husband bar him being a 'step father'. Needless to say it all ended up in a massive bun fight potentially against a very old man and all because someone didnt word their will carefully enough

over2021 · 31/03/2022 15:37

@PigletJohn

By the time Boris dies, you will probably no longer be married to him, Carrie.

LOL

Floofsquidge · 31/03/2022 15:46

@springandsnow you have come onto a very popular and very public parenting forum to find out the best way to ensure official evil stepmother status with no mitigating information to defend why the child is an "it" worth screwing over.

What on earth did you expect was going to happen? With that in mind, whatever Will you write it could be argued you were not of sound mind anyway.

LegMeChicken · 31/03/2022 16:34

Are we reading different threads?
‘Illegitimate child’ sounds like the result of an affair, visit to sex workers or similar. Certainly not stepchildren by an ex-partner.
It’s rude to refer to anybody as ‘it’ but I can see why you might not want the child to have anything you earned jointly beyond the minimum parental contribution.
Thread after thread after thread of MN-ers insisting that nobody is owed any inheritance. Suddenly a flood of saying leaving someone out is ‘screwing them over’.

You need to speak to a solicitor but you can’t prevent your beneficiaries from sharing it with them. Leaving a token £100 or similar is the usual way.

Mia85 · 31/03/2022 17:02

@Kennykenkencat

Actually feel quite emotional about this thread. I knew I shouldn’t have read it. I am illegitimate right down to the blank where father should be on my birth certificate.

My father did eventually marry my mother but broke up with her when I was still small. However I was often referred to as the Bastard and wasn’t allowed in certain peoples houses.
My father is in a care home apparently. I googled him last year and although I never really missed him what really was a punch in the stomach was I also found out his birthday. I never received so much as a card from him. It was hardly a date he could forget.
His family refused to believe I was his which was the most ridiculous thing as I look the image of his mother even down to my quite distinctive hair colour. Which did seem to enrage my mother and her side of the family.
I am resigned to not getting anything in any wills. My mother left everything to her siblings and possibly my 1/2 sister. I knew I wasn’t going to get anything when I was still a child as I was told I was too stupid.

My thoughts on someone calling a child illegitimate and It I can’t put down how nasty and evil that is. As well as not recognising your own flesh and blood as someone to be looked after and treated fairly

As you get older and might need outside help. I hope for your sake you don’t end up being looked after by someone who’s parents weren’t married if you express those sort of views.

Kennykenkencat I am so sorry you were treated like that. It is so vile to describe a child as illegitimate. I don't know whether it matters to you at all (there is no reason why it should) but if it does then actually if your parents married then it would have 'legitimised' you: www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1976/31/section/2 so those vile people were vile and wrong.

ZoeCM · 31/03/2022 20:04

‘Illegitimate child’ sounds like the result of an affair, visit to sex workers or similar. Certainly not stepchildren by an ex-partner.

"Illegitimate", when applied to children (not a nice phrase, admittedly), simply means that the child was conceived outside of marriage.

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 31/03/2022 21:32

@titchy

Assuming the child is under 18 then if your arsehole dp makes no provision for them the will can be challenged successfully. I'd happily chip in to help them claim.

Me too xx

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 31/03/2022 21:36

@VodselForDinner

I hate the teen “illegitimate” child.

Surely we’re taking about “illegitimate men” who can’t face the consequences of their decisions.

100% 👏

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 31/03/2022 21:37

@PigletJohn

By the time Boris dies, you will probably no longer be married to him, Carrie.

Love it! 👌👏😊

bellac11 · 31/03/2022 21:56

Interesting how people read different things into posts.

It might be that the husband has had another child outside of his marriage and that child now lives somewhere else, or is now an adult

I actually wondered if this was about a half sibling to the OP who had done some henious crime/black sheep of the family and OP is worried or wondering if their parent/s are able to leave the other sibling out of the will.

OP sounds old(er) so it wont be a young child they're talking about I think.