Mendi, if you would take someone saying, "Oh Christ, ignore the Jeremy Kyle brigade" about your posts as inoffensive, then that's certainly your prerogative. It's also your prerogative if you want to try to argue that, "Oh Christ, the Jeremy Kyle brigade have been here. Ignore them and listen to babybarrister and collaborate, both very experienced family lawyers" is quite clearly not a plural indictment, aimed at all other posters in a thread, but singular, and aimed at only one poster. (I don't see that that somehow makes it all right, and less than rude, either. The poster singled out was wrong, but there's no reason to refer to her that way, unless you think her intentions malign.) And it's my prerogative to think that defence a little ridiculous, because the statement is quite clearly extremely rude.
I've never found either babybarrister or collaborate rude, no. Nor Mumblechum. Trenchant at times, but not rude. And I managed to miss Chubfuddler's contributions on another part of the site, was wholly reasonably rebuked, and have apologised accordingly. We all type in haste or thoughtlessly at times, but denying the plain English meaning of your own words when challenged on them is a rather odd way to handle that. However helpful and valuable your legal contributions to Mumsnet may or may not be, basic courtesy to other well-meaning posters shouldn't be dispensable, surely? A straightforward, "that was poorly phrased and a little unfair," followed by a more courteous rephrasing would have been rather more admirable. No?