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Photos of dd made public - no consent given and im FUMING!!

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somethinghastogive · 29/04/2013 22:15

Hi.
Can anyone advise of what legal action i can take, if any?
DH was best man at a wedding of his best friend from school days. Bride to be and i dont get along. Myselfand dd still went as dh wanted us there. The photos have been made public without us knowing content. Just looked at them and during the wedding bride has taken our daughter off and had photos taken with her. Our daughter is 3. I am soooo angry. Can i do anything about this? Both my dh and i gave NO permission for pic's to be taken of our dd and she at no point asked our permission.
Thankyou in advance.

OP posts:
freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 23:09

I didn't say it was the same level. I said people still took photos and shared them. Confused

freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 23:09

I wonder if your DH knew what was going on, knew about the photos and is scared to say?

nurseneedshelp · 29/04/2013 23:10

Surely you wouldn't be like this if you were friends with the bride!

Seems to me like your just causing unnecessary trouble!

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somethinghastogive · 29/04/2013 23:11

Maybe i should make it clear, the pic's were not just "snapshots". But, a professional pic of the bride and my dd. I feel strongly that the bride took advantage of dd. It would not have been too much for her to ask either dh or myself.

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freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 23:12

I am quite sure there were "professional" pics of the bride taken with lots of people on her WEDDING DAY.

Seriously you are massively over-reacting.

JenaiMorris · 29/04/2013 23:13

But WHY do you have such an issue with this?

Unless your child is in hiding or something, then you are being ridiculous. The more you kick off to the bride and anyone else involved, the more spiteful and the more daft you'll look.

Pull yourself together.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou · 29/04/2013 23:14

What o you mean by 'taken advantage'

I genuinely don't get it. I understand the fb thing although not the anger but I don't understand why the actual photograph is stealing her soul taking advantage.

AlbertaCampion · 29/04/2013 23:14
Biscuit
RedPencils · 29/04/2013 23:15

OP, the posters you are thanking are giving you wrong information. There is no legal action you can take because its not against the law.
If you go in all guns blazing you will a. End your DH's relationship with his best friend and B. come over as a complete loon.

Ask them nicely to take them down. No reasonable person will refuse. Job done.

CabbageLeaves · 29/04/2013 23:15

Does this bride and your DP have history by any chance?

Picturesinthefirelight · 29/04/2013 23:15

Wedding photographers always go around taking photos they think will look good. So the cute child comes quite high up on the list

At my wedding I had pictures of children handing me horseshoes etc. it's what photographers do at weddings especially with the liking for reportage style.

Picturesinthefirelight · 29/04/2013 23:16

You do realise there is likely to be a video too.

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somethinghastogive · 29/04/2013 23:22

Yep, prob the legal action thing was an overeationBlush I wil ask dh to ask his bestfriend to take them down. Glad i posted tho, intead of going to bed angry i am going to bed laughing! Love MN Smile.

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ifitsnotanarse · 29/04/2013 23:23

Such hostility! Shock

I see your point OP. And I would not be happy with someone posting a picture of my children online whether I liked the person or not.

I am the leader of a youth group and we cannot use photos of any member without parental consent.

And why should the OP have discussed this prior to an event such as a wedding where most of the guests were presumably facebooking and tweeting directly from their phones? It would never occur to me that someone would post photographs of my DCs without my consent.

freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 23:23

Nice one something Smile

Just a word of warning, you might want to consider how strongly you feel about this and bear it in mind for future events, like weddings.....

EuroShopperEnergyDrink · 29/04/2013 23:28

I'm sure a lot of us will be going to bed laughing about how utterly precious you are.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 29/04/2013 23:29

Sorry you're upset, but really you are over reacting. For your own sanity, drop it and move on.

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somethinghastogive · 29/04/2013 23:37

I am not really precious euro, promise Grin
Just really dislike the bride, ive had a difficult time and am slightly unhinged - genetic i believe. But, thanks to the good old, down to earth honesty, from mn. i have been put firmly in my place with my right hand firmly holding reality Wink

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RedPencils · 29/04/2013 23:40

Good sport, OP

WeAreEternal · 29/04/2013 23:40

I know from personal experience (photos of DS as a toddler posted online, on Facebook, in a shop window and in an advert in a newspaper)
That unless you expressly withdraw consent at the time the picture is taken or stop the pictures being taken all together, there is no way to control how the picture is used.

I took the photographer and the person spreading the photo of DS around to the small claims court to try and get them to stop using the photos but they refused and I lost the case as they own the photographs and can do what they like with them. .
The picture of DS were taken at a private party, I had no idea there would be a photographer (if I did I would have made it clear I did not want Ny photos taken of him)

Basically no matter what or who the image is of (unless its an illegal content obviously) a photograph is the sole property of the person who took the picture, and they are free to do whatever they like with the pictures.

Sorry OP but you are massively over reacting,
As it was pointed out to me, unless you shield your DC from the world in a hood and mask (Michael Jackson style) your DC will be seen by hundreds of strangers every day in public, a picture floating around online or being displayed somewhere really isn't going to make a lot of difference to your DC or anyone else.

But I'm sure if you speak to the bride she will take down the photos, or at least set them to private.

doubleshotespresso · 29/04/2013 23:42

I think cabbage hit the nail on the head here in her last post...

Which still remains unanswered!!!

Ifanarse yes the last wedding I went to there were fb updates already before we had even arrived at the reception venue! Some people it seems cannot wait- and the blackberry /apple generation ( I remember when these were just fruit!) are so accustomed to the instant nature of social media it probably did not occur to them to seek permission.

A youth group worker and wedding guest does not seem a fair comparison does it?

And assuming the DD in question is not Harper Beckham I guess there was no confidentiality clause attached to the RSVP from the OP....

Even more baffling is the fact that neither parent knew their 3 yo had photos taken when they have such an issue.....

Where on earth would legal action get the OP ? And on what grounds

Back to reality!

ifitsnotanarse · 29/04/2013 23:46

Oh goodness I wasn't advocating legal action. Just that I understand her anger (misguided as it may be/is) and frustration with photos of her DC being posted on the internet.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 29/04/2013 23:51

Ooh, freddiem, how exciting!

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 29/04/2013 23:55

OP, is it one of those official photographer websites where guests can enter a code to look at the pictures? Or is it Facebook?

I'm glad you've calmed down Grin but would it help if you thought of it as a bride having some pictures done with the best man's DD rather than a woman you don't get on with using your daughter. I'm pretty sure that however you two get on, or don't, trying to spite you was not her main goal of the day.

doubleshotespresso · 29/04/2013 23:58

Yes but I think we would all have more sympathy if

1.) either OP or DH had made their issue known to the bride prior to the wedding
2.) had good reason other than the OP hates the bride
3.) either OP or DH had actually known the whereabouts of their 3yo for the duration of this event