Photos of dd made public - no consent given and im FUMING!!

[somethinghastogive]

Hi.
Can anyone advise of what legal action i can take, if any?
DH was best man at a wedding of his best friend from school days. Bride to be and i dont get along. Myselfand dd still went as dh wanted us there. The photos have been made public without us knowing content. Just looked at them and during the wedding bride has taken our daughter off and had photos taken with her. Our daughter is 3. I am soooo angry. Can i do anything about this? Both my dh and i gave NO permission for pic's to be taken of our dd and she at no point asked our permission.
Thankyou in advance.

[IWillGetThere]

Bizarre. Just ask them to take them down if you are so upset. I don't get the big deal unless there is some sort of child protection issues? If there isn't I really don't get why you are upset

[IWillGetThere]

And no you can't take legal action against bride.

[IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou]

If you don't want people taking photos of her you need to keep her out of the way. A whole wedding full of adults can't be expected to give over much time to thinking about it. People will take photos at weddings. You do know that they already know what she looks like, don't you?

[freddiemisagreatshag]

If you go to a wedding, surely you expect there to be photos? If you're that paranoid about your 3 year old, why take them?

Or are they Blanket?

[Sheshelob]

What seeker said. This isn't bout your DD. It is about you not liking the bride.

Don't use your daughter to get to the bride. If you have a problem with her either stop seeing her or sort it out.

[Picturesinthefirelight]

If there is a proper reason (adoption domestic violence witness protection etc etc) then just ask nicely. Most people are reasonable.

Dh went ballistic at someone publishing a photoshopped picture of him on facebook as he is a teacher and is careful to maintain a professional image. The person took it down.

[Sheshelob]

Ha! Hi Freddie!

[MephistophelesSister]

Crikey. I'm really surprised at how many people think it is OK to publish photos of other peoples' children online without the parents' knowledge/permission.

OP - I have no idea re legal standing, and I suspect you are a bit stuck unless you can get them to agree to take them down. I do think, however, that anyone refusing a request to take them down would be utterly unreasonable.

I also think people are a bit when they say you should have a good reason to feel this way. Your child, your choice in my book. Even schools ask for express written permission to publish photos of their pupils these days. If there was a child protection issue, why on earth should a parent be expected to explain it? Some things are better not aired in public...

Social networking is a curse and a blessing. Where children are concerned I always err on the side of avoiding exposing them to it, whatever the circumstances.

[freddiemisagreatshag]

Hey Shes, how's that hangover?

I got in at half 4 I am a dirty stop out

[CabbageLeaves]

OFGS what is it with this obsession with not having photos of children. What do you expect to happen as a consequence?

[SavoyCabbage]

I think as you have such strong feelings about it then you should not take her to weddings.

There in no way a whole wedding can avoid taking photos of a small child and it is the norm these days to put your wedding photos online.

You could ask her to take them down but she might say no as she will want to enjoy people seeing them.

[NaturalBaby]

I take it your DD won't be allowed her own Facebook account till she's old enough to create one herself?

There is clearly a huge back story to this which may be clouding your judgement slightly.

[JollyPurpleGiant]

Why were you not watching your child?

[Picturesinthefirelight]

On the other hand a bride should feel able to publish pictures of her wedding without further thought.

[TheDoctrineOfSnatch]

Cos that's the legal position MS. Schools ask partly for child protection reasons and partly out of courtesy. And also cos OP hasn't said if she asked the bride to take them down as a first action.

[Sheshelob]

Meph - in theory, that all seems reasonable.. But I think if you are at a wedding, where photos are the norm, it is up to the parents, not the numerous photographers, to police it if they feel strongly about it. OP didn't on the day, so she can't have been that worried about her child being photographed.

I think it is a simple request that needs to be made. No drama. Just ask them to take them down.

[NorksAreMessy]

Do you have a legitimate reason to be concerned about pictures of your DD to be on line?
Did you. Ot realize that weddings have phorography?
Where have you gone?

[freddiemisagreatshag]

You do know that a wedding is about the bride and groom, they're the important people on the day, and not one sinner will have given a second thought to your paranoia concern about your DD's photos?

[Corygal]

I don't think kids in bridesmaid get-up are a prime draw for special interest gentlemen, to be honest.

Having parents who think it's ok to start Jeremy Kyle-ing about this stuff might be more damaging, possibly.

[Yika]

As i understand it, nobody has the right to publish a photo of your child without your permission; the subject of the photo has image rights which are distinct from copyright. As the parent you would have to give permission before they could publish your child's photo. You are therefore perfectly within your rights to ask them to take the photos down,
As a matter of courtesy, i actually don't think it's ok to publish photos of someone else's child (unless they are just in the background) without the parents' permission.
On the other hand, I'd be circumspect about how you address it if only for the sake of your DH's friendship with the groom.

[OnTheNingNangNong]

Have you asked for them to be taken down? Is there a reason there's no pictures online? Do you know that anyone can take pictures of anyone in public and publish them without permission?

[FannyBazaar]

I guess the best course of action would be to get a big badge made up that says 'no photos' and pin it on your DD. Maybe one for front & back.

[somethinghastogive]

Thanks for the reply's. Maybe i should have posted in AIBU [shocked]
DD was was fine. Although i did take my eye of her a few times. Just for the record - it was my first night out since dd had a stroke at 13 months. And, yes i do have "issues" with the bride. We havent asked as yet, for them to be removed. Will do so tomorrow. I only saw them this eve, hence why i am angry. The pic's where taken in the room next to the disco where DH was supposed to be! Words have been spoken!

[Sheshelob]

Oooh, Freddie. I take it that the date was a raging success wondering if he looked like JD at all and starting to feel jealous

My hangover was god awful. And I didn't even drink that much. I think it was the shame.