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Photos of dd made public - no consent given and im FUMING!!

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somethinghastogive · 29/04/2013 22:15

Hi.
Can anyone advise of what legal action i can take, if any?
DH was best man at a wedding of his best friend from school days. Bride to be and i dont get along. Myselfand dd still went as dh wanted us there. The photos have been made public without us knowing content. Just looked at them and during the wedding bride has taken our daughter off and had photos taken with her. Our daughter is 3. I am soooo angry. Can i do anything about this? Both my dh and i gave NO permission for pic's to be taken of our dd and she at no point asked our permission.
Thankyou in advance.

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doubleshotespresso · 29/04/2013 22:56

OP _are there any children pictured in any of your wedding photos? Did you seek permission from their parents if yes?

I am baffled as to what your problem is?

I agree with other posters, your quarrel seems to be with the bride, not the fact she has taken photos of your DD..... Surely your DH was present when these were taken in your absence?

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freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 22:56

PMSL at me being young Grin

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Picturesinthefirelight · 29/04/2013 22:56

We once took dd to HMV to get a CD signed. A few months later I found a photo of her on a website taken by a photographer HMV had employed.

We were not asked for permission. It would have been nice to have been asked do u could ask for a copy!

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trixymalixy · 29/04/2013 22:58

Legal action? Seriously? Massive massive overreaction.

Just ask her to take them down FFS.

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JustGiveMeFiveMinutes · 29/04/2013 22:58

I assume that making the photos public actually means they've been put on Facebook. I honestly cannot understand why this is a problem.

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VBisme · 29/04/2013 22:58

You want to take legal action and you haven't even spoken to them?

Go ahead and get DP to give his best mate a call and explain your reaction, including the legal bit, I can almost guarantee you'll never have to see them again (which seems to be the aim).

I hope your DP doesn't mind you pushing his friends away.

What do you think people are going to do with your DDs photo? Honestly? I really want to know, why is this such an issue?

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AvrilPoisson · 29/04/2013 22:59

cabbages certain families can target the families of CP workers for retaliation- hence no photos of DC online.

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Chocoflump · 29/04/2013 23:00

Massive over reaction!!!Hmm

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trixymalixy · 29/04/2013 23:00

Sorry to hear about your Dd having a stroke.

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Picturesinthefirelight · 29/04/2013 23:00

A family at dd's school has a similar issue avril. Dad works in mental health.

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RedPencils · 29/04/2013 23:01

Yika - sorry I don't think that's right. We recently researched publishing photos of people at school events. My understanding is that if you are in a public place you can take pictures of whoever you like and publish them wherever you want. We decided not to do it, so can't quite remember all the details.
'Image rights' apply to using photos for commercial purposes, which isn't the case here.

OP - the best course of action is to ask them to take down the photos. Taking legal action is huge over reaction.

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somethinghastogive · 29/04/2013 23:02

I am moving on from thread now. Thankyou Yika and MephistophelesSister I do really feel she should have asked before she had professional pic's ( 3) taken with dd. Especially as we dont get along. It would have being the right thing for her to do. I will ask that they remove them from their wedding website, FB, etc etc. I strongly feel she used my dd, that is what makes me so angry.

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MephistophelesSister · 29/04/2013 23:03

Doesn't always have to be a child protection issue, either.

If you had been the victim of a pyschopath in the past - would you want them being able to track you down in the present, and learn all about your CHILDREN?

Not saying that this is the case with the OP, but so many people are so relaxed about photos online, and seem to think you are barking if you want to be a bit more circumspect.

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Picturesinthefirelight · 29/04/2013 23:03

Sigh - don't shoot the messengers.

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qo · 29/04/2013 23:03

Are all photographs taken these days considered public property - unless you "opt out"?

It really pisses me off too. I find I have to say "please don't put that on facebook"

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freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 23:04

OFGS. She was getting nice pictures taken. She probably thought your DD was cute and wanted to do something nice. Maybe she was planning to give you a copy as a memento?

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prh47bridge · 29/04/2013 23:04

I'm afraid Yika is wrong. English law does not have the concept of image rights. There may be protection from Article 8 of the ECHR which covers the right to respect for an individual's private and family life but it is by no means clear that it would apply in this situation.

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serin · 29/04/2013 23:04

TBH I think she is more at risk of you not knowing where she is and with whom, than a few images on a FB page.

Are you very famous?

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MephistophelesSister · 29/04/2013 23:04

eek. Must improve typing speed...

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musu · 29/04/2013 23:05

If you were so concerned then why go to the wedding in the first place? A wedding is the one place you can guarantee that lots of photos will be taken.

If you requested no photos of your dd I assume that you put this in writing prior to the wedding day? Is your dd identified in the photos? If so then I think you would have reasonable grounds for asking them to be removed from wherever they have been published.

I'm sorry your dd has been ill but I don't see the connection between that and having her photo taken. Ds was very ill when he was little and if anything I wanted lots of photos of him just in case the worst happened.

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freddiemisagreatshag · 29/04/2013 23:06

If you're that up tight about photos, why the hell take your child to a WEDDING where there are, you know, PHOTOGRAPHS.


Jesus I got married 25 years ago and there were photos. And other people not us took all kinds of photos and got copies made and gave them god knows where. It's not a new thing to have photos at weddings and share them.

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IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou · 29/04/2013 23:07

I don't think people who don't want pictures taken of their kids are bonkers but I do think it's bonkers to let them wander about unsupervised in at a social event where you are waist deep in photographers and then get chippy when a photograph is taken.

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qo · 29/04/2013 23:07

Freddie if you honestly believe that there was the same level of public sharing 25 years ago as there is today, you must be very naive!

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LookingForwardToMarch · 29/04/2013 23:08

Only reply to those that tell you what you want to hear.

This thread just makes me feel sorry for your poor dh and dd.

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doubleshotespresso · 29/04/2013 23:08

Surely if photos of your children being published is such a big issue for you, you would have discussed this prior to an event such as a wedding where most of the guests were presumably facebooking and tweeting directly from their phones?

Legal action aimed at friends who invited you to be guests seems beyond unreasonable to me. If the issue is this big for you, then why have you and DP got some sort of measures in place? And how did you not know pictures were taken?

All smacks a bit of stable door and the horse bolting already tbh!!!

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