Help...Is this a reasonable divorce offer? or should i go to court?

[mg04]

Hi, am new to this forum but am hoping someone can give me some advice.
I'm currently going through a divorce - together for 14y. married for 5 of those, 2 kids of 16 and 12.
My ex has finally decided to make me an offer after months of stalling as he had been made redundant at the beginning of the year but has a new job starting next month.
He has offered to sign the house over to me - £90,000 mortgage but worth 270,000 in return for him keeping his pension and redundancy. his redundancy is somewhere between 60,000 and 75,000 ( he wont tell me exactly )
My pension CETV is 11,747 (only had for 3years as looked after kids)
His pension total valuation is £274,446.00 - for some reason he says he cant get a CETV
Although taking the house sounds like a good plan, am concerened that it wont be in the long run , ie when i get to pension age. Am not out for milking him dry but at the same time, I dont want him walking away with a far better deal that leaves me high and dry in the future
Do i speak to a solicitor or a financial advisor...or both? would i be better off going to court?
please help me

You can't possibly make a decision until you have evidence of all the assets. There's too much "He cant tell me this/He won't tell me that" in your posts.

You need face-to-face legal advice.

Agree with Collaborate, MOSagain and STIDW (and also longs for a "like" button"). Anyone wanting detailed advice on the financial settlement following divorce or separation should see a lawyer who specialises in family law.

blimey, I feel like I'm starting a war here but I do appreciate all the advice. like I said, I do have every intention of seeing a solicitor but just wanted 2 get things straight in my own head 1st and wanted some unbiased opinions before I went. friends are great but not always the best for advice for things like this as they tend 2 want revenge more.

The point I'm making is that you don't KNOW what the truth is on internet forums & anyone can claim to be anything!!

Exactly, which is why OP agrees she needs to "line the pockets of solicitors" - the opposite of what you suggested.

Jeez. I'm only in it for the money. That's why I post on here so often.

mg04, if you let us have a rough idea where in the country you are we might be able to recommend a good family lawyer

im near the staines area in middlesex/surrey

This is fun!

Tbh Mg04 several people posting on your thread are genuine solicitors. I know that because the advice they always give is kosher. You don't need to be Einstein to know you need paid legal advice and of course you are getting it.

Your stbx sounds as though he is trying to pull a fast one, so even more reason to be wary and prepared. I know what you mean about having an insight into the legalities, it helped us enormously recently, but ultimately if you pay peanuts you get monkeys.

mg04, the closest family lawyers I could recommend would be in Dorking which is probably a bit far for you. I bet babybarrister could recommend someone though as she is London based.

And I can confirm Babybarrister is genuine. She sent me some of her lecture notes a few months back on a query I had over a point of law. They were very good.

ah, so presumably she can vouch for you too Collaborate?