4 children in 4 bedroomed house

[mamatomany]

Does this sound fair to everyone, it's causing a riot in our house
So DC1 is nearly 10, at a funny age and likes to draw and play on her own rather than join in with the others anyway plus her toys tend to be quite compact, ds lite's etc.
I want her in the box room.
The next 2 are just 22 months apart, same sex and do get along very well, like to play Silvanian family etc so toys are bulky and like the same stories at bedtime.
So I'm thinking next biggest room for them.
But of course DC2 and 3 are both outraged that they have never had their own rooms and are now never likely to for the forseeable future.
Poor DC4 hasn't even arrived yet, but for once in my parenting life I really wanted to have a nursery with nice border and matching bedding etc etc.
DH thinks this is a waste of time and we should have bubs in with us in a cotbed until it's 2 and until then let DC2 and 3 have their own rooms.
What do you think ? I can't see them at 10 and 8 being anymore willing to go back to sharing and I can also imagine decorating the rooms, organising them and then after 1 night them missing each other.

It's not ideal for the older ones but not having the £50k to move is certainly an issue along with the fact that the house that we could afford that would be suitable for the older children would be less suitable for the baby.
Plus the older ones have enjoyed the freedom and facilities this house offers so yes it would be nice for the baby to have that same enjoyment.

Your choice, I think it's out of order that you say op is putting needs of the baby ahead of dc, making dc share is not the end of the world and if the two closest dc in age share most of the toys it makes sense for them to share, I hate when sentances begin no offense, it immediately gets my back up and comes across as very patronising.

We have 3 dc's in a 3 bed house and no $ is coming in Sept. They are DD14, DS11, DD2 and unknown
DD1 has her own room and DS does so DD2 shares with us. The age gap is too big for her to share with DD1, nevermind the fact DD1 is very musical and DD2 is at the stage for wandering through others things. DS has autism so can never share with either child. When we finally get a 4 bed we will have DD2 and baby share after baby is a year or so old. we can't use any more downstairs space as DS has a quiet room for when he freaks out.

I would not go to the hassle of a seperate babies room which you will hardly use. Think of all the money you will waste on baby furniture. Plus the grumpiness on the elder kids having to share a room when no-one is using it. A family friend raised 76 kids in a small 3 bedroomed house, with only a living and kitchen room downstairs. She would of loved to have a nursery for her twins but too many kids and too little room

Ok not 76 kids, 6 kids

i don't have a problem with sharing at all, my 3 will probably all share at some point in the near futyure

I do however, understand why your dc2 and dc3 are a bit miffed at being made to share simply so that an unborn baby can have its own room

and i think nurseries are utterly pointless as you'll want the baby in with you to start with anyway! who could be bothered to walk to another room for every night feed?
and the whole baby-decor will need replacing far too soon anyway

so... i dunno. i wouldn't make them share just because you want a nursery. i would keep the 4th room as whatever it is now... office? spare room and then make a decision later.

I'd have the cute nursery - but just for 6 months or a year, so that the bigger two know their own bedroom is coming.

Or, can you split the big bedroom with a partition wall, or some sort of partition so they have some privacy.

I'd have the cute nursery - but just for 6 months or a year, so that the bigger two know their own bedroom is coming.

Or, can you split the big bedroom with a partition wall, or some sort of partition so they have some privacy.

I think that if in the long run they are likely to share, then put them in together now. DSS got his own room for about a year, and still (ove a year later) complains bitterly about sharing with his 'untidy, smelly' brothers .

I wish they'd just always shared,but as DC5 was a delightful surprise, we didnt know that he would have to share again at some point.

lol, we have 5 children in 3 bedrooms, of which one room is too tiny to swing even a mouse, let alone a cat. We have to have all 5 sharing a room as there was no other workable option. Our youngest 2 spent the first year in our room to try to make space for the others but inevitably ended up in the big room.
It would be great to have the whole nursery with rocker and borders and cot etc but is it really going to make that much difference? I bet your baby will prefer seeing you al the time anyway!