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House Dilemma! How do you get 6 people into a 3 bed?

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Felangie · 17/03/2015 09:45

How have other people managed with their large families re their housing situations?? Did you extend, move house, upsticks and leave the county, country or continent? For e.g. a friend of mine (with 5 DCs) had to emigrate to France to find a property big enough/afford all of them!
We are in a bind currently with 6 of us in a 3 bed semi-detached and had our planning permission to extend turned down by the council. 3 boys and a girl. Eldest is 14 and he is sharing with his 11 yr old sister which is FAR from ideal. We have bought them a screen so they can have privacy from one another but they want/need their own rooms. Just doesn't sit right to have them sharing when DS is now self-conscious with training bras and the like. Sleepovers are a nightmare! DS3 (5) and DS4 (1) are already sharing the tiniest room of the house so cot and cabin bed in there. DH and I have the biggest bedroom and we're facing putting three boys together in our room and moving next door. BUT with 14, 5 and 1 they have massively different bedtimes/routines and how it will work on a practical level we don't know. Confused We can't convert the loft either, our roof is too low -told we need clearance of 2 metres only 1.85. Someone suggested lowering our ceilings to get it done but honestly HOW can we live in a building site with our situation?? DH and I are both self-employed and have our office in the garden so would need find place with an outhouse too - Argh! Kids are all settled at their local schools and BFF's close by as we've lived in same place for 13 years now - they don't want move. Am tearing my hair out as we can't afford to move and we can't go on with current sitch either.
Please share your stories with how you coped with your expanding families! I keep hoping the answer will come to me...

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Felangie · 17/03/2015 11:43

Hi everyone. Thanks for your responses! Some ideas to mull over there. We have no dining room unfortunately, downstairs is just kitchen and lounge. No garage either. We were refused our two storey extension on the back of our house on grounds of excluding light from next door and that it would be a 'visual disturbance' for them. The architect was dumbstruck it was refused as all was within good measurements (he did the light angle test and it was only a landing window to boot) also it was only a 3x3 meter extension and he said it would be a dead cert. Have thought about only a one storey extension but as its the only exit into the garden didn't know how that would work re traipsing through bedroom to get dog in and out plus clients when they use loo and myself and hubby to and from office space. Our garden is tiny! Argh...

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Penguinsaresmall · 17/03/2015 11:58

So if you went with a single storey extension - could you not have a small corridor going down the side of the room as your back entrance, making the bedroom a bit narrower? Or make the extension 3m x 2.5m? There is usually a bit of tweaking that can be done to make the extension acceptable with planning. Have you tried going into the planning office and having a chat with somebody about possibilities? Always worth a try...

titchy · 17/03/2015 12:19

If you do a single storey extension you make that the kitchen or living room, not the bedroom -make the existing living room the bedroom!

Oodear · 17/03/2015 12:54

We are going in the smallest bedroom with out

Felangie · 17/03/2015 13:53

Thank you all, these are some great ideas. I've always believed many heads are better than one! It's like house Tetris - how to get everyone under the same roof AND happy. ??At present the dog is the only one who has her own 'bedroom' (aka crate). Haha! I will email my builder friend and see if he can give me a couple of quotes for dividing the big room and/or making a room in the loft without 'converting'. There has got to be a work around until we can save up enough to maybe one day move (or until my eldest goes to Uni).
Thank you ladies! This has really given us food for thought & it doesn't seem quite as hopeless. Smile

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sofatastic · 17/03/2015 14:00

I would swap a sofa for a sofa bed and give up your own room to sleep on the pullout, putting it away each day. We are also 4 in a small house, but seem to cope for now.

MeeWhoo · 18/03/2015 15:20

How about your 2 oldest dss together and your dd with your youngest ds?

WhatAHooHa · 18/03/2015 15:33

I'd put your ds in the smallest room whilst the others share the largest. He will need study space etc soon, if not already. When he goes off to uni your dd then gets that room. In the big shared room, would something like this work to create some extra privacy? lifehacker.com/turn-one-room-into-two-with-ikea-cupboard-doors-1441160634

BJBarbz · 30/03/2015 13:22

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Artandco · 30/03/2015 13:27

Personally I would have the baby in your bedroom. He's one.

X2 boys in one room
X1 girl smallest room
X1 baby boy in your room.

We still have ours sharing our room at 4 and 5 years due to only having one bedroom. It's honestly fine. It's not like we use the bedroom during the day anyway.

If you keep youngest in your room in a cot bed ( with sides off as he grows), until he is 4/5, then by then it's likely the eldest will have moved off to uni or similar anyway.

howabout · 30/03/2015 13:41

We have 2 teenage DDS in with their 3 year old sister. She goes to bed at 7 and they go at 9 and nobody gets disturbed. In your position I would give dd her own room and have older 2 boys share. Keep youngest ds in with you till he reliably sleeps through and then space permitting put him in with other 2. Only 4ish years till oldest ready for uni etc and you could also always negotiate the bed settee option then. Find my 2 teenagers are never in except to sleep and if they study in the lounge they actually get on with it.

ImMelting · 30/03/2015 13:50

BJbarbz that's disgusting.

Cheeseandhamtoast · 30/03/2015 13:52

I would do as mentioned above, a smaller 2.5x3m ground floor extension to be used as a bedroom for your 14 yr old. Then you could still access the back garden down the side of it.

Superexcited · 30/03/2015 13:55

We had 9 of us in a 3 bed house (2 adults and 7 kids). The boys had the biggest room as there were more boys, the parents had the middle sized room any the girls had the smallest room with a bunk.
I think you need to give your dd the smallest room and put all of the boys to share the biggest room. Or do you have a 2nd reception room that could be used as a bedroom?

ScorpioMermaid · 01/04/2015 00:29

We have 8 kids in a 4 bed semi. 3 boys - 9, 8, 5 triple bunk (youngest at the bottom to Oldest at the top, all full sized single beds.. Best purchase ever!) In the biggest bedroom. 3 girls - 12, 11, 6 in the loft conversion (6 year old on the smallest side, older two on the other) 2 boys - 2.5 and 19m in the smallest room and dh and I in the medium room.

If I were you.. I'd be thinking of moving house or properly splitting a room for the oldest two.

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