Xenia, you've written, "see the comments that autism might be a social good and indeed perhaps even is a better kind of person we shoudl all be working to ensure our children are.. .may be, though I don't agree...."
Tony Attwood, the international expert on Asperger syndrome, says this of us:
"The person usually has a strong desire to seek knowledge, truth and perfection with a different set of priorities than would be expected with other people. There is also a different perception of situations and sensory experiences. The overriding priority may be to solve a problem rather than satisfy the social or emotional needs of others. The person values being creative rather than co-operative.The person with Aspergers syndrome may perceive errors that are not apparent to others, giving considerable attention to detail, rather than noticing the ?big picture?.The person is usually renowned for being direct, speaking their mind and being honest and determined and having a strong sense of social justice.The person may actively seek and enjoy solitude, be a loyal friend and have a distinct sense of humour."
It's not all fun, because current society rates 'party-going skills' far higher than practical contribution to society, but those are its good qualities in the majority of those with an ASD.
You might not want a child more likely to be honest, accurate and socially responsible, nor see the value of those traits to society, but I'd be fine with one. Luckily I have one. He's absolutely wonderful.