Who thinks breast feeding in public is disgusting?

[MrsDoolittle]

And another thing while I am at it (thinking that is). Did anyone listen to Jeremy Vine discussing breast feeding last week? I was absolutely flabbergasted at the number of people that phoned in and said bf in public is disgusting. I think discussion was in response to talk of the Scottish Parliament banning restaurantuers from asking bfing mums to leave - please correct me if I am wrong.
This is not a breast feeding versus bottle feeding thread but I can't believe any man would feel like this in this day and age, let alone a woman!

Really, Lav? Why?

Gdgook - DixieExpat isn't being offensive - I take no offense - it's her opinion.

as if I do, It was a joke just to see if people are awake at these early hours of the morning....I have been known to breastfeed in the backroom of a pub, be discreet but do it where is poss!

I thought you might be being a tiny bit inflammatory, Lav

I would hate to inflict my boobs on the general public. I wouldn't go topless or wear anything really skimpy. Still breast fed though - 12 months with ds1, 8 months with ds2 and fed any where I damn well pleased! Never had a single negative comment.

I breastfed both my sons, everywhere really, whenever they needed a milk, that is the point isn't it? I remember other mums sticking to a routine and going home by 4 p.m. to breast feed. I never got it, too much like a martyr.
The only time i had a very obvious reaction was from my little brother and my daddy, they tried to keep talking to me and went slightly red.

I have never breastfed but i think those that do should be able to do it where ever they please.

What a sad state of affairs when someone would be upset by breastfeeding in public, sweet jesus! What do people think breasts are for, oh of course silly me, they are there to give pleasure to men, to look good in a tight t-shirt, yes their sole purpose, bf was invented as a side-line for them! I didn't have a problem bf anywhere, felt slightly akward for a split second when the priest was round visiting but soon got over it when I realised baby needing feeding and priest wasn't leaving! Not saying I always felt great about doing it but I got over it, once bubba was latched on I didn't care, it was the getting it out and putting it away that I tried to do as discreetly and as quickly as possible.

How can breastfeeding and disgusting be used in the same sentence?

I fed my ds anywhere and I doubt if many people even noticed. As Thomcat says, it's getting them attached without a fuss that's the hard bit and it only takes a bit of practice and the right clothes. I always found that a loose (undone) cardigan was a good enough cover-up without resorting to shawls etc which surely just make you more obvious?

I didn't see why I should sit in a boring room by myself, or even worse on the little row of chairs in Mothercare with other mums all ignoring each other!

Mind you, I was still a bit shocked when my friend sat on the floor in NEXT and proceeded to feed her three year old! It wasn't so much the fact that she was feeding him, but everyone had to walk around us to get out of the shop and I had to stand there with my ds and wait, feeling like a bit of a lemon tbh. The good news is, nobody complained!

spots, you have made the point I was trying to make much better!
As you say, it is very telling when there is an area put aside for breast feeding mums within a baby changing area!
I also trying to make the point that the area was not comfortable and relaxing. It's obvious form here that some places try to create an area of 'refuge' for some breast feeding mummies. I have seen non of these! In John Lewis I saw a breast feeding area with plastic chairs placed in an area, that have have originally been a shower cubicle, behind a shower curtain. What kind of respect does that sow to breast feeding mothers?

I'm with nutcracker, however someone posted here that they deliberately try to get a reaction - thats a bit sad in my book.

Too early - I can't spell this morning

Gobbledigook,

Not trying to offend anyone at all, I'm American and maybe my tone doesn't translate in type as I intended it to.
What I was attempting to convey in my sense of humor is that, a lot of children are sensitive to cow's milk and one of the reactions to it can be irritability. I breastfed my son for only a few weeks and had to stop for medical reasons, he now has ADD according to his teachers, yet he is a straight A student,he just asks a lot of questions and gets bored at school.My oldest daughter I breastfed the longest and she is in great health.My oldest daughter was kidnapped 2 years ago and due to the stress of that my milk dried up within weeks of having my 18 month old daughter. As soon as she started drinking cow milk based formula there was an instant change in her physical health.She developed cradle cap,wheezing,croup,asthma attacks,swollen eyes,snotty nose etc; After many trips to hospital with her and having to give her nebulizer treatments it became evident after a lot of research and finally consultation regarding alternative medicine that the problem was the cow's milk. She even developed a thrush nappy rash.According to Chinese medicine,the skin is like a 3rd lung and often skin and breathing problems result from intestinal problems and dysbiosis...in other words, the cow's milk caused an imbalance in her intestinal flora and the thrush overgrowth affected her lungs as well causing what seemed to be severe asthma.The thrush lowers the immune resistance and lowered immunity leaves one vulnerable to thrush...so it was a vicious cycle and her only months old....so THAT's where I was "coming" from, personal experience. I am sorry if I stirred up any hostility in you are anyone else.Maybe I will have to try and be less American from now on in my choice of words.

Oh OK

I which I had the confidence of so many of you who are/were happy to bf in public places. I am simply too self concious to have ever done this. It felt as daunting and as unnatural to me as if I was walking around Marks and Spencer with my top off - and the idea of pulling up my top and bf my daughter in their cafe with people sitting all around me was just too much. So, while I have no problem in the slightest with other women do it, in fact slightly envious of their confidence, those poky little rooms attached to babychanging rooms are for people like me
Someone commented earlier on that there was often a bf cubicle in the changing room which suggested that women couldn?t stand the sight of each others breasts. Wrong angle totally - they are for women who find it uncomfortable bf with anyone, female, a fellow mum or whoever there in the room with them. Also got to remember that many of the newer style baby changing rooms are not attached to the ladies loos anymore (good thing of course) which means that dads/male guardians can change children and walk in at any moment. Now, while that should not be an issue, for many of us shy folk out there it can be really uncomfortable sitting with your boob out in a tiny room with a complete stranger changing a dirty nappy.

I haven't read the whole thread but I'm sure someone else may have put this.

1. I find it more distgusting looking at adults eating

2. Women in other countries walk round with no tops on at all and sometimes no clothes at all

3. If it's such a problem for them, Don't look. Simple.

4. There's a difference in wapping your baps out in public like Jodie Marsh etc and feeding your child.

IMHO it's just to do with men and their insecurities. I didn't realise a womans chest was so shocking to look at.

I don't think it's disgusting at all.

One time I was a bit put off was when a woman was walking around with her huge boob hanging about, baby hanging off of it. She was walking around this restaurant and I didn't think it was very nice. I mean the poor baby probably didn't like being jiggled around much either.

Breastfeeding is a very natural act and it doesn't botehr me at all. I think it is lovely but that was a bit uncalled for IMO

Blossom,
I know what you mean...yeh its natural and I am all for it but some tact is appreciated in certain situations. When I fed in public, I placed a shawl across my shoulder, not because I was embarrased but personally its annoying when some ppl stare at you just praying for a flash of nippl lol.I think having tact about it is just good manners,like crossing your legs when wearing a short skirt.When ppl stared and tried really hard for a look in restaurants it made me want to squirt milk in their coffee.Some ppl though like the lady you mentioned, may be trying too hard to get attention or she simply has no restaurant bf etiquette hehe.
I wouldn't want to eat my soup across the table from a sweaty man with a hairy back and no top on.

when I bfeed in public I don't show boob I show a corner of my flabby 3 baby tummy. Now that is disgusting.

Seriously these people are complete saddos. not worth worrying about.

dixiexpat- there's been some research recently (ongoing I think) looking at the proteins in cows milk., I'm going to be very hazy now but it's soemthing to do witha different form of the protein being foudn in milk now because of the way cows are fed, and they are producing the original form in New Zealand.\
Oh dear far too hazy to make any sense let me see if I can find a link. It's to do with autism as well.

dixiexpat here we go here's something on it

and here's the New Zealand Food safety authority's view .

Sorry off topic- got distracted.

Someone told me the other day that she'd heard an item on the radio about breastfeeding (think it was LBC).

A man was talking about the health benefits of breastfeeding for mother and baby and said that breastfeeding in public was disgusting - he said that he knew that checking his testicles for cancer would benefit his health, but he didn't think anyone would like it if he dropped his trousers in the middle of a cafe to check them

What a stupid arse! Didn't hear the prog or I'd have phoned in myself Did ring in once - the presenter was talking about women breaastfeeding in public and saying that he was all for breastfeeding, but it made him feel uncomfortable. He felt that they should use a shawl to cover up - so I said that I'd rather men with beards ate with hankies over the faces as it offended me, especially when they got bits of food stuck in their facial hair

ha ha, good one Hunkermunker. stupid arses! you're not at wotk are you? xxx