I bear them no ill will at all, though, EB. The string is my mother's, but the money is hers as well. And my father has to live with her . She has some strange ideas but I was brought up to believe that one is entitled to not much of anything and certainly not to moneys which one has never earned.
I am very grateful they have been so savvy and made good provisions for themselves if and when they become too ill to care for themselves, that their estate is in order and that they have planned their funerals as they see fit. All is in order and I'm glad they faced up to the fact that death happens to everyone sooner or later.
My father grew up very, very poor, I think he has the tendancy of many who grew up so impoverished to hang onto money as much as possible as a sort of insurance. Our landlord grew up similarly and he behaves similarly to my father. It has served him well, too. He could give this house over to his daughter if he wanted to and have plenty to get some other place, but it is his to give.
I do wonder if this bailout, although it is a loan, involves indebting the nation. In other words, robbing Peter to pay Paul, and if that is a good idea in and of itself.
But it's a complex situation.